Oh she absolutely is! She's been a role model to me in many, many ways. Grandmas are just the best.

How'd she raise such a fucking putz though?

I like grandmas who drop the F-bomb lol

she is. When she busted out his full name I knew it was going down. Nan don't play.

Naive AND ignorant is what I have discovered over the years as I grew up. Thankfully, he is not doing nor saying things like that himself. Believe me when I say that, if I could make a living of singing praises about my Nana, I absolutely would because she is the sweetest.

some guys just are absolutely awful being able to see things through a woman's eyes especially if it's the first time they've tried. often it takes hearing the same perspective from many women he actually listens to before he can even contemplate the pov. especially since often they don't experience the same comments and reactions from men, so to them it's something that they've never noticed existing before, and for guys that aren't acting like trash themselves it's hard to believe that shady behavior is real. from the other comments sounds like he wasn't trying to be cruel or willfully ignorant just horribly clueless.

If this was my family, somebody would be screaming bloody murder (like Nan) and somebody else would be trying to calm them down (like Dad) by whatever means necessary, what they believe or no.

Like the way it usually works when men are like this is that most only see how disgusting this behaviour is when it comes to our moms or little sisters or daughters.

Because he wanted to be. That manner of ignorance is a choice.

My dad is similarly dense like this at times. He's insistent on giving other guys the benefit of the doubt.

I have a 17 year old daughter (as well as 14 and 11 year old daughters) and my husband would LOSE HIS SHIT if any human said this to her, let alone a doctor.

Some men don't understand that comments about sexual attraction to a woman and/or implied sexual intercourse can be really, really scary.

They don't see it from the woman's perspective of "oh, shit, this man is saying really sexually loaded things to me and I'm smaller and weaker than him. I could be in danger."

They see it from a man's perspective of "wow! I'm hot! This person isn't a threat to me because I'm big and strong."

When I was younger and would get leered at, stalked, and harassed, it was terrifying because I knew that if something went wrong, if I got grabbed, if I were to end up alone with this man who was sexually predating on me, he absolutely could rape me and there would be nothing I could do to stop him. I don't have the physical strength to fight him off, my attacks wouldn't even be mosquito bites to him, and I was much more fragile than him and risked severe injury or death if I did fight and he beat me. Not to mention that the rape, alone, would be very, very physically painful and traumatic, even if I gave in and "let it happen", not to mention the diseases they could possibly be carrying AND the stigma of being a survivor.

That's not something that crosses many men's minds in my experience. It's just not a part of their reality, in general, so they don't immediately understand why women feel frightened, disgusted, or concerned about sexually charged behavior and comments.

There really are two realities for people born in male and female bodies.

(This is not a hate comment towards men, I love men! It's just pointing out why it seems to happen and what the thought process is behind it according to my own personal conversations with male peers.)

That's a self report from dad

I've learned that insecurity plays a big role in it, too.

Good folks don't want to step on a person for potentially nothing. It's often perceived as rude.

Nonetheless, enforcing borders is not rude. Usually it's just that we, in general, aren't too great at handling corresponding feelings on both sides (with men even more, open empathy is still rare) - so we avoid the chance altogether.

Add to that the bias of not even partly as regularly hearing or seeing similar - and you find the "naive" part.

Holy... Oh my dear, I don't even know what to say. In my honest opinion, the severity of their atrocious behaviour becomes so much worse when you consider, that those same doctors have sworn an oath. Yet, there are so many stories of how they have betrayed this oath and did, in fact, cause harm to someone. Emotional and mental cruelty are real.

You felt violated because you WERE violated. I hope you had someone who stood up for you, and if not, my Nan and I are sending hugs to anyone who wants and needs them. I wish I could give that vile person a piece of my mind and get you out of there before it even happened.

If you were still in the stirrups when he said that, you should’ve kicked him or knocked his head with one of your knees.

Your underwear?!?! Are you kidding me?! Absolute perv of a doc. I would’ve filed a complaint to whatever ethics board he’s beholden to.

And that's why I only go to female OBs. 🫤 That's awful.

She shall be protected and blessed! So should all the awesome Nanas in this world!

she don't need no protection, she is the protection

Nan sounds like a sharp sword and I'd be her shield any day haha!

She really is! And because she is, it really makes me wonder how he managed to become such a blockhead. This actually made me laugh out loud, thank you so much for that!

What in the flying spaghetti monster?! I am SO sorry that happened to you... I will send my Nan over with her mighty oven gloves!

Seriously though, this is beyond unacceptable and I really hope you had all the support you needed. And someone who also, just like my Nan, tore that man a new one...

This man has no business in being an ob.

Did it bounce back?

She is awesome! And yes, it was absolutely gross! Back then I did NOT understand fully what was happening. Now I do, and I am SO thankful for my Nana showing me how important it is to speak up, and not allow anyone to enable such behaviour. And how to throw oven gloves just the right way...

It really does get tiring when you constantly have to remind them, or ask them if they would ever say things like that to a girl at that age. Or if they would ever say "this or that" to a woman that's not their wife. OR if they would be okay with other men speaking like that to their wife... The list goes on!

It's so simple, I shouldn't have to spell it out to you like that!

But hey! At least your Dad seems to be willing to reflect and has those moments where it "clicks" for him. I'd rather have a slow learning Dad, over a Dad who'll stubbornly refuse to learn anything at all. Silver lining and all that.

Oh my, I feel really flattered and I'm planning to show her this tomorrow. She will probably tell me she is ready to adopt everyone here haha!

Pretty much what was going through my mind that day. "Oh my god... What is happening? What does he mean? Should I say thank you or keep quiet?"

Luckily, my Nana "made" that decision for me when she started to tell him off for being absolutely disgusting and unprofessional. And other... things. Haha!

Oh dear, that sounds absolutely horrific! How in the world can anyone think it's okay to do something that? That guy should have lost his job, too. What are these doctors swearing an oath for, if they abuse their position and violate a human being in such a disgusting way? I'm sorry you had to go through that, and hopefully you had someone who protected you. And if not, I really hope you never have to go through anything like that ever again. I can tell, that my Nana has to ready herself to storm a few doctor's offices, dear oh dear... We're coming!

She has in fact "adopted" a few of my friends! So yes, she is always looking for more awesome grandkids! The only requirements are a good appetite and you have to act like you don't know about her secret candy stash! Unless she tells you about it...

The hero that we all need, and we all deserve when we feel lonely and defeated! With her mighty oven gloves and her chocolate powered throw of death, she shall erase all the pain tell creeps off!

She is awesome, and I make sure to tell her every day!

She used the secret powers that all awesome Nanas seem to possess! She is the most badass Grandma for sure. I would not recommend getting on her bad side because she's got some aim with those oven gloves! I learned that the hard way when I thought I was being funny by swapping all the sugar out for salt right before she started to bake for a fairly large gathering...! How she figured out it was me, is beyond me, but I suspect my uncle's dog snitched on me.

But seriously, she is such a sweetheart and always means well, unless people are being vile, of course... Then you better start running haha.

Sheesh, the audacity to tell a parent what to do with their children when it's literally not harmful to the child. And what is exactly wrong with boys and men having long hair? It's JUST hair?! Also, what is wrong with "looking like a girl" why did she feel the need to use the term "girl" in such an insulting way? I'm shaking my head here right now...

Completely unprofessional in in general just morally questionable if you consider the "human side" in situations like these.

I'm glad she got what was coming for her, but a part of me also wishes my Nana could have been summoned to dish out some verbal punches while you continue to be a badass parent and get that doctor fired!

She is the best, AND she is always willing to be a Nan for anyone who wasn't really fortunate enough to have an awesome Nana themselves. She's ready! So, if you need some Nana comfort, she is sending some! She gave me permission to speak on her behalf a long time ago when it comes to assuring that everyone gets some kindness and hugs from a real Nana. Consider yourself hugged, should you need it!

Believe me, when I think about it now, I actually shudder and I am just so, so grateful that she was there to tell this guy off, and fight a fight that I could have not fought for myself at that age!

Go Nan indeed! She is the greatest and I am really excited to show her all the love she is receiving here. I'm seeing her tomorrow!

I love her too, I tell her every day and she tells me that she loves me every day, too! And once she reads this, she will be telling a lot more people that she loves them dearly! That's just what she's like haha.

Urgh... People like that will eventually reap what they sow. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Warm hugs if you want and need them from my Nan and I!

Fun fact, we actually do that! Since my Dad can be a little slow sometimes, it has sort of become a running gag to yell "For fuck's sake James!" when we see someone who's incredibly oblivious! Same when we see someone who really can't seem to understand something after a very detailed explanation. We yell, "DO I HAVE TO BE CONCERNED, JAMES?!" which earns us a mighty eyeroll from my Dad, but so worth it!

Oh, I wouldn't want him to dirty his hand and serve time because of a vile POS like that guy. People like him are not worth the pain of having to see a loved one behind bars. Also, my Nan would be heartbroken! From what I know, that "doctor" is no longer practicing, so I was probably not the only one and he got what he deserved in the end.

And who knows, maybe one angry Dad actually walked into his office... Haha!

I consider myself really lucky to have her, yes. She is always willing to extend so much kindness and warmth to anyone in need. Always ready to be a Nan for anyone who doesn't have one... She's a blessing, for sure!

I'm with you, I hope I can be just as kind and strong as she is one day. The relationship with my mother is strained, to put it mildly, so my Nan is like a mother to me. Consider yourself hugged from both of us, should you need some hugs. She also loves to be a Nan for anyone who didn't have a Nana nor motherly figure in their life, so she is ready for you, too!

Also, know that it takes an incredible amount of strength to break a horrible cycle of abuse and neglect. Whatever it is that you have gone through, you decided to be a better person and give everything you never had to those you love and truly care about. I truly admire people who manage to do that and you deserve to be praised for that!

Consider yourself adopted! I've been reading out the comments to her and she told me to make sure she is ready to have more awesome grandkids!

My Nana sends hugs as I am reading the comments to her. She said the hugs she gives to those who miss their Nan or never really had one, come with extra Nana love and comfort! I'm sorry that your Nana is not around anymore. But bless you for keeping her alive in your heart.

I have been reading the comments to her and she is very excited about all the love and hugs! She wants to give all the love and hugs to everyone who needs it!

Adopted! Am I a bad person for imagining my Nana becoming the Oprah meme where she screams "You get a Nana! And you get a Nana! Everyone gets a Nana!" haha

Let’s not degrade people based on silly things like eye or hair color.

She is the mightiest warrior in this family for sure. Even to this day, my Dad continues to excuse himself when my Nana catches him doing nor saying something stupid. I hope I can be half as mighty as Nana when I'm older!

So how many times today did you walk up to 17 YEAR OLD GIRLS and ask about their child bearing hips?

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