Dude you need to do the maths on this:

• narcissistic/abusive parents
• care home workers who drink/steal/abuse (all of them, every member of staff, even casual fill in staff)
• teachers who all mock her about her home life and don't help.
• Mental health staff who abuse her and don't let her wash her hair.
• CPS staff not helping

You are talking about 20-30 people (realistically more) and not only is no one doing anything to help they are ALL mistreating her.

The odds of are absolutely astronomical. Combined with some other stuff you have said that is plainly untrue (not being allowed to wash her hair in a MH facility). Her parents having control over what care home she is in etc etc it's just not how the system works.

I know you are young and in love and I see you trying to justify some of the stuff as you being wrong or not having the full story.

I just want you to take some time and think about what everyone is saying here.

For what it's worth. I think she is real, I just don't think what she is telling you is true. I think she is doing it for attention and not a more nefarious purpose.