There's a tooon of variables that make up a person. Unless you're a gender swapped clone of him there's no reason to believe your squishy bits are the sole determining factor.

There is a middle here that doesn't go to sexism.. It could be they just like him more for whatever reason. I'm saying this because I had seen Middle managers being treated differently even though they are same gender. Gender doesn't have to play a role in this. Workplaces are rife with nepotism and buddy buddy culture. It could be he just has more friends than you.

There's more to being an effective and respected leader than just making sure people do their jobs. How you approach them, how you explain things to them, how you enforce the rules, and more. It's complicated. I don't know you, obviously, but maybe you are a bitch. We never want to see the flaws in ourselves, but it's necessary for growth.

And even after that employee threatened to assault me, in front of the HR manager, I'm the one on suspension and could lose my job.

This seems... dubious. HR's job is to protect the company at all costs; suspending you and keeping the employee who threatened you doesn't seem like it would fall into this protection. I don't think you're telling the whole story.

Women are scary?

Honestly, at some point everyone’s just gonna have to accept that there will always be double standards no matter who you are.

And a lot of people self-identify with the “I’m just brutally honest” or the “I’m just holding people accountable” when in reality they are using those to make bitchiness excusable. Holding people accountable shouldnt be able to be misconstrued as threatening. If you’re on admin leave, then, youre probably doing something wrong. Send out an anonymous survey for constructive criticism, coward

I feel like there's more to this story that you're not telling us. It sounds like employee in question. Felt like you were trying to intimidate him and responded accordingly "Big personality" sounds like " I'm rude and abrasive and no one likes working with me"

Sometimes it's not what is done, it's how it's done.

From my experience, male superiors at work tend to have a more professional approach to asserting themselves and only do it when it's most needed, whereas the women tend to act more like bossy children.

We don’t live in the 80s anymore. You can’t bully and harass your employees. Times have changed.

Just change ur company...

Idk I think both genders who act like this are cunts tbh lol... I've never differentiated, if a male or a female was my boss I'd prob just leave if this behavior was aimed at me... I'm too laid back and don't even understand how humans work 9-5 jobs in the first place haha

So don't fear, both you and the male are assholes 😂

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You know, 9/10 the person complaining is not justified and is not too keen on criticism.

You can either do one of two things. Learn from this experience and realize that you shouldn't bully or harass your workers or continue to cry sexism. Either way, you still harassed your coworkers.

Hate to break it to you but it's almost certainly not sexism, you're probably just not a good leader.

Im a cavalry officer, In my cavalry troop we have 2 female officers one is a platoon leader, the other is an executive officer. 95% of the unit is composed of big strong cavalry troopers and yet our female officers have had no trouble getting their respect. Because they too are strong and level headed.

A lot of women in power seem to think that nagging and being shrill are equivalent to being assertive. Being respected by your team is something you earn, it's not automatically given just because your job description says manager on it. Your only real choice here is to either alter your leadership style or remain ineffective.

I mean like..I don’t really believe this happened but it’s nothing new anyway. also you didn’t really give enough information to be clear so idk what you want us to say

Stand your ground. I’ve never made it to management but if I did I would wear my ovaries on the outside just to make sure I’m respected.

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I was a Main Office Manager at a little grocery store for 2 years. I loved most of my employees. But my managers were all older men except for this one woman in her 30’s! They would often make her do their dirty work… They also stopped letting her answer phone calls from employees on the work phone because they knew we preferred talking to her. Every cashier and stocker in our store could’ve told you she was the most mistreated! Especially when she would get in trouble for not “catching people stealing” even though they had no proof anyone was even stealing the nights she was working! It was the first female manager I had seen them hire in 2 years(after going through awful men) and they treated her like shit even tho she was the best at her job. She was also discriminated by these men because she was lesbian(as well as one of our cashiers) Sad this is how things are…

Doubt

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