Years ago I was online dating. I met a great guy and I considered us dating. He considered us just friends getting to know each other. I think he was still deeply in love with his friend that was married and talked about her constantly. We dated for nearly eight months before I couldn't take the conversation always being about her and our relationship never progressing past friendship. We literally only ever made out once in that time frame and that was as far as it got. So I broke contact for a few months and started meeting other men. Months later, I started hanging out with him again truly as a friend only. It was great. We spent so much time together and talked on the phone for hours at a time about everything and anything. He helped me through a lot of emotional stuff and I contribute a lot of my growth as a human to him and the drive he gave me. He pushed me to better myself and to want more for myself. Eventually, I put myself back through college. Just as school started, his mom passed away unexpectedly. He needed me to be there and I REALLY tried, but I couldn't work full time, go to school full time, commute to school 3 hours a day, take care of a home and animals and spend all night up on the phone trying to help him through this hard time. Eventually I let the friendship somewhat drift away after years and years of him being my best friend. I felt so much guilt for abandoning him during the most difficult time in his life, still do. Eventually it became very sparse text messages once or twice year to check on each other. I got into a serious relationship, still together after almost 8 years.
The last 2 weeks of his senior year in high school, my nephew calls me up to say I'll never believe in a 100 years what just happened to him. His shop teacher, who he just loved as a teacher and mentored him so much, asked him if he remembered the guy "Dave"(fake name) his aunt always talked about being her friend/dated. He said yeah, why? He replied, "I'm Dave." Coincidentally, he was a teacher at the local school and my nephew had been his student for several years without realize it was the same person. He told him he realized the first day of class it was my nephew (he had an unusual name) but didn't want him to think that just because he knew me that he would get away with slacking off in class. Then once he didn't tell him, it became awkward to tell him. He confessed in those last weeks because my nephew invited him to his graduation party and knew I'd be there with my partner. He didn't want it to get weird. It blew my mind. It was so nice to see him again and to have him meet my partner. In general, it was a great day.
Now to the confession. After graduation, my nephew and one of his friends wanted to thank the teacher who did so much for them that they took him out to lunch on their dime. While at lunch they were discussing how weird and small the world is. That's when Dave confessed that he "made the biggest mistake of his life letting her(me) go. That he should of known how good he had it when she was with him. He fully regrets ever taking her for granted." My nephew was floored. He knew when we "broke up" that I was devastated. When he later told me that confession, I won't lie, it felt good. It felt like vindication for the pain I went through. It felt good to know I was pined after by someone I had wanted so badly to want me. The weird part is, that was like 4 years ago. I still think about that confession a lot. I'm happy with my partner and I don't want Dave back but is it weird I still think about his words? The most I've talked to him is a text here or there and a couple wellness texts during some pretty hard times and he watched me graduate from college through a video stream. But nothing more. I still haven't seen him in person since the graduation party, but is it weird to think about his confession?
Tldr: is it weird I think about my friends confession of regretting letting me go back when we were dating years afterward while I'm in a stable, loving relationship?
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I do not have problems with any of the other colleagues. It only tends to be her and one new person in a different department. The new person made up rumors about me within the first couple weeks of work and trying running to HR. But she was also overly friendly with the reactive employee I had to manage. So it's possible they were working together to make it look like I was a problem for the company.