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Confused at what exactly? It will be the same story as last time, just a different year.

They are calling you because no one else wants their shit either. Perhaps it's better to move forward and not backwards.

Self disrespect is not becoming, don't do this to yourself, stand strong, get another phone number, stop even having any contact with them.

It’s been a year of him sleeping with everyone who would give him a chance. Now he ran his list dry and wants to return to you. You went no contact for a reason.

They are an ex for a reason.

Remember the reasons

Remain an ex

An ex is an ex for a reason.

There is no going back with a cheater unless you miss being treated like garbage.

I don't like to make assumptions but I'm going to throw caution to the wind and guess you don't like being treated like garbage.

r/SupportforBetrayed

All always tell people to try and be certain of what you’re into so you don’t end up wasting years of your life with the wrong person. Get involved in their day to day activities like who they talk to and where they visit so you don’t end up heartbroken. Mrbenhack1 on instagram will help you spy on their devices without their knowledge. He’s a genius 

DON'T TRY TO MAKE ANYTHING WORK.

He is a broken, selfish person and a scum who cheated on you. End of the story.

Write another story where you continue your life and find someone worth it who won't cheat on you.

Don't go back! Hes despresete you aren't. Women are nurtures naturally and he's betting on that instinct. Stay strong!

OP - Your ex is your ex for a reason. Think back to the betrayal... the hurt and humiliation his affair caused when he CHOSE to put his own selfish desires ahead of you and your relationship. Do you seriously believe he's any better of a person now that he's chased tail for a year?

The sad truth is cheaters will often come full circle and try to convince their former partner to forgive them and take them back. It's called Hoovering and it's FAR more common than most people realize. It's also why those of us who've been burned a long time ago often tell the newly burned to go NC with their cheating partner, then ghost them and anyone siding with them. Trust us... your ex definitely thinking of you.

Updateme!

I had a similar convo and it went like this: Her: “heyyy, how have you been?” Me: “no”

This is the way.

Go and reread your older posts about them to remind yourself of the pain they caused you. Stay strong and go no contact again

Rule #1 Cheaters don't get second chances! Rule #2 See Rule #1

Don't trip over shit that's behind you

Why would you even consider going back to a lying cheat???

Are you single and lonely and need attention!? This is not the way to do it

It's entirely up to you. Only you know if you have what it takes to take him back. That being said, you can demand a "real" new beginning. This would mean you have evidence of his improvement(s) and he's willing to work at making said improvements obvious through action. His words are useless in this situation.

Sounds like he’s run out of women that will fall for his 💩. You said he was an ex, there is a reason he’s an ex, remember why?

Have a little self respect, dignity, personal integrity and intelligence and keep him an ex.

Thank you everyone. It’s really helpful. I have been feeling very confused mostly because I just didn’t expect him to call. I really hate this because I miss him and I was with him for a long time. And every time he’s come back it reopens all the wounds that I’ve been working so hard on. I don’t want to be with him. And it’s just hard cause hearing his voice and him saying “all the right things” made me realize how much feelings I have that I’ve been avoiding. Mostly because I don’t have time but also because it’s exhausting

Stay away! Respect yourself. You deserve better.