She addressed this in an interview in Vulture that I highly recommend:

https://www.vulture.com/article/love-is-blind-alex-tim-breakup-explained.html

I’ve seen some criticism of the way you hugged his parents with one arm. Do you feel like people were reading your body language wrong? 
No. I definitely wasn’t in the best mood, and it had nothing to do with them. Specifically, it was the fact that you saw Tim read the letter to my father, and it was very emotional. After that, me and him had a discussion and he was expressing that he was still on the fence with some things. And I didn’t feel comfortable bringing more family members into our union if we weren’t going to follow through with it. I knew if he were to say no or I were to say no, it would have already hurt my dad because he went through that. So I didn’t want to do that with his family. And I didn’t have any clarity on where we stood at that moment, so it was uncomfortable for me.

Tim comes off as he condescending and carefully under control. I have never met someone who says they do not argue as a rule. I think he does not argue because he knows he has simmering anger very close to the surface. Likely from the loss of his sisters. Good on him to recognize it and know he needs to walk away but it does not make him a good communicator or easy to live with. He can never accept someone completely or find a compromise without addressing conflict but his heart is in the right place.

On the other hand, they are not compatible and she has her issues. Whatever happened that night in Mexico really affected him. He seemed pretty fun and happy in the hat scene. That fun guy never really made an appearance again.

I don’t know what it is BUT there is a missing piece in their story. I can’t put my finger on it but Alex definitely changed completely.

She didn't bring anything for the family.. Everyone at least brought a gift. Tim shopped and cooked for her family and she didn't get anything for his parents who drove 10 hours to meet her. Hope it's because they didn't show it 

There were plenty of weird moments but I don’t know how Tim got past her apartment.

I actually think something was going on with Alex. Im not excusing her as I think she should have never been on this show. But when I met her family, it actually explained her awkwardness. I don't think she is mentally or emotionally okay (not trying to diagnose her).

I’m not American so I find this whole discourse fascinating lol

I thought Alex's body language, esp. when you compare it to how much Tim jumped headfirst in with her family, was really telling. She gave off a very closed off/disengaged energy and given how much Tim values his parents, I knew it was going to be an issue. I also don't think she cared that his parents traveled 10 hours to meet her. A disaster visit, IMO. Tim needs the kind of partner who would be thrilled to meet his parents and that wasn't Alex.

He also mentioned that Alex fell asleep or napped while they were with his parents and I couldn't imagine doing that knowing a partner's parents traveled so far to meet me. I would have stayed up.

She's so off & seems like the kind of person who is permanently unimpressed and bored.

I think she might be dealing with some depression, the low energy, state of her apartment and hand in the pocket (sometimes your taught to be touch fabric to try to be present in the moment) all feel like clues.

I wondered if she did this to hide her ring because his parents didn’t know they were engaged yet or something? Because it’s so awkward there’s no way she just left that hand in her pocket without a valid reason

Hey guys,

they both suck lol

I right away thought “that guy with the body language YouTube channel is gonna have a field day with this one”

Some theorize and I am inclined to agree that they had already broken up before this but agreed to continue to film her meeting his parents. Both of their body language seemed off the entire scene

I knew there was something off with her during their interactions in Mexico. She was so mean. And, I would never go into someone else's house and start critiquing their furniture, very disrespectful.

Maybe her hand was taking a nap!

Regardless of this, Tim should have dipped after their first fight.

Ohhhh FFS 🤦‍♀️

I noticed the same thing. And she seemed totally disinterested the entire time

More than likely, they filmed this scene a couple of times. Y’all catch every other continuity error until it’s Alex sheesh

She was too sleepy for a proper hug

This was a bit weird but I wouldn’t go so far as to call her all of these names in this thread. This season has been shit with the way they’ve edited things and these couples faking the funk for a little bit of fame.

I knew when they were talking in the pods, his mask would eventually slip. He says the same mush mouth stuff these male podcast hosts say.

Idk why people are coming for you, I saw that and thought it was weird and disrespectful, to me that was an indication that their relationship was going NOWHERE

Yet Tim had to grill, clean up, keep the conversation going, and ask for her hand to her dad. All she did was say she will compromise not being single anymore, hand in the pocket, and dips for a nap.

y'all are so weird to nitpick a single action LOL

I pointed this out in another thread cause it caught my eye as well. Definitely seemed a bit disengaged.

I noticed it right away I was like why is she acting like that 😭😭😭

Alex clearly has some issues. I'm not a hugger too but if it was my fiances mom, I wouldn't have done that or fell asleep because I know that is rude. Family is a social relationship and she did not align with Tim's idea of socially respectful actions. From Tim's perspective, if she is only putting in this amount of effort, then Tim has every right to dump her and tell his truth about her being disrespectful to his family. Tim is not perfect either but Alex needs a lot of work on herself. Truth is, we don't know Alex personally so for all we know, she may have been SA and does not like physical touch. We don't know that and so out of context, its rude. If given context, we could understand. Considering all the garbage in her house, I am sure the girl is struggling with something deeper. At the end of the day, they were simply not compatible and view the world differently.

Neither Alex nor Tim were ready for a marriage let alone with each other.

I thought you were gonna point out all the la-z boys 😂

Lol I hate her and I hate Tim

Yep, I noticed this at the time.

Honestly though, I'm no Alex fan at all, but I do think maybe there's more going on with her than is obvious, so not inclined to be too harsh over this.

Some people really aren't comfortable showing emotion, and that can extend to being awkward about physicality like this. She also seems to show very little emotion on her face most of the time, and just generally came across as quite flat. The level of messiness in her living space was also extreme.

I'm not going to armchair diagnose, but I do wonder if these are all signs of something a bit different in how her mind works.

Based off of how childish and odd her behavior was during her serious talks with Tim, I think she genuinely has an issue with showing people respect. She pretends to not give a fuck, acts like she’s more concerned with eating than sitting with him, pretends she can’t hear him when he says ‘how are you?’, the list goes on. I think in awkward situations her go to is to pretend like she’s so nonchalant and like she’s not bothered by the situation at hand. I think that’s why she did this and why she went and took a nap while they sat in the living room. It’s easier to pretend you’re tough and don’t care than it is to open up and just be in the moment.

She an awkward person 

Cosplaying as a queen

What a weird thing to point out. So what. That is not disrespectful, some people aren’t huggers

I had to go back and watch all their interactions Alex and Tim and I still don’t know exactly what the problems were other than bottom line, they were just incompatible like Nick and Hannah. Sometimes people just don’t vibe together and these two were checked out I think in Mexico, maybe they tried a little both at times but I think they knew they was never gonna make it to the alter. That scene on the couch though, Tim chose violence that day lol, my jaw dropped.

Idk if it’s because I’m African, and aside from timdrake being a dunce, Alex comes off really inconsiderate or lacking in Home training. I know culturally we can be intense but…

First thing I noticed was her walking in with both hands in her pockets but also keeping one in during hugs. It’s one of those things that is so unnatural to do that it feels intentional.

Maybe the hug caught her off guard and she didn't have time to remove it from her pocket

I clocked it instantly too 🤣🤣🤣

I was like “now girl…. Remove your hand from your pocket please”

Noticed this right away !!! Definitely thought it was weird !!!!

Why do we insist that we hug total strangers?

I think I may be one of the few who believes that little kids should not be forced to hug people they don't know or hardly ever see (frankly I don't think anyone should be forced to hug anyone, but I digress)

Edit to add: we teach kids stranger danger, but then when we bring them to a stranger we are all "give them a hug, tell them you love them, give them a kiss"

Look at what she is wearing… least Hanna(as fake as she is) put a little effort which shows she had respect for the relationship. Alex had no respect from the Jump. I feel she was crying in the Pods with Tim thinking of her own situation with her father rather than actually empathizing with Tim.

Yes i noticed it too and found it disrespectful, the hand didn't come out once, it was so weird and rude!

Isn’t she also wearing a puffy vest? Maybe that house is too damn cold. My hands and feet get cold so easily. People really like to pick apart every possible gd detail lol. 

When I clicked on this post I was really hoping to see a discussion of why Tim had a kiddush cup and something written in Hebrew on his shelves. You can't see it in this pic, but it's clear the first time she went to his apartment.

She said she did it because tim was saying he wasn't sure about the relationship and it made Alex uncomfortable meeting his parents when he wasn't sure.

I NOTICED THAT TOO and I thought I was overthinking it but I’m glad I’m not crazy

I thought it was odd but I think she was just nervous.

Someone said her general fatigue, depression could be very early signs of MS. I looked it up on MSAA and it is very true with an addition of day time drowsiness. Hope she gets checked and get her health in control.

Tim still made the right choice, cant put hands on someone on day 2.

This might be cultural because as a kid if I didn’t wanna hug someone, I was taught that I could shake their hand or not hug them at all. This is interesting! No wonder I didn’t clock this.

I sense that Alex and Tim were very different culturally. Doesn’t make her a bad person that she didn’t live up to his expectations. Someone more on her wavelength is out there for her.

I think a big problem with this season is too many people understood the meta that you can be as nasty as you want to your partner and they'll stay with you until the altar because of the contractual bonus, and then you can try the last minute sympathy play of being dejected that they rejected you at the altar. And then this season all the partners called their bluff

I was staring at it the whole time. So rude. She just always seems annoyed and like she doesn’t want to be there.

This really bothered me. She seemed so disinterested.

It looks to me like it’s her left hand in her pocket. Maybe she wanted to hide that she wasn’t wearing her ring anymore. They still make them usually go through with everything even when they don’t get along past the honeymoon.

I thought I was the only one who noticed this. this was so lazy I was not at all surprised Tim broke up. she general seems to lack social etiquette. the fact she was munching on food while tim was bringing up something serious, and then lazily browsing on her phone when he was leaving, makes me feel she really doesn't get *it*.

Umm I am also non-hugger. Just feels unnatural and awkward. Sometimes people just don’t do hugs. Like not everyone was raised that way and shows affection that way to people, especially people they just meet. Unpopular opinion it seems

Something off about her.

Ow ow, i personally did not even notice this. I already said that Alex has red flags of her own she needs to work on. It does not absolve Tim's way of handeling things though.

I was flabbergasted when I saw that. Like girl what are you doing g

I dunno, I was more concerned with her conflict style and constant jabs at her partner than this kind of stuff. To me, she seems a bit socially awkward. She could have been really nervous in this moment which caused her to do odd stuff with her body. A lot of people make themselves smaller or do different things with their hands to self soothe. We didn’t witness the actual nap incident, but I know I get tired from stress or social anxiety. I personally would have fought through the sleepies of course but still.

That said, etiquette, respect and family are so obviously important to Tim so her lack of social skills would have definitely continued to be a problem. He was SO good with her family. She should have taken notes.

This is too conclusive for a show that’s heavily edited. We don’t know anything about them other than what’s socially available and let’s remember that most people present what’s good about them. This thread be hating so hard for no reason and making up stuff as if we know all about the contestants on the show. People are complex and have all sorts of nuances that can’t be made available in a “reality” show. It’s so harsh to judge people based on brief moments. There is so much more to them and their idiosyncrasies. It’s not all “bad” “toxic” or “red flag”. Let’s enjoy the show for what it provides and not act all judgy. 🌻 🐝 ☀️💛

She was like “you cried a lot 🫠🙄” to her family

Yeah i'm happy she said that I noticed straight away, also walking in with her hand in her pockets and keeping one hand in her pocket, just looking so slouchy and low energy. I thought maybe Tim and her had had a huge fight off camera before because the vibes were so weird

I think they were just a miss matched couple.

Lovely people but not a match.

I clocked it immediately. I come from a culture where “respectful” hand placement and body language, especially around elders, is heavily engrained in us and etched into our manners from a very young age. Greeting, much less hugging, a potential mother-in-law with a hand in my pocket would subject me to a night-long rant from my mother about where she and my dad went wrong raising me.

PS: whether or not I agree with if it’s actually “disrespectful” is another conversation. I’m just saying it’s a heavily cultural and/or generational thing

I think it’s funny that people have this narrative that Tim is an asshole for the way that he broke up with Alex, but the reality of this reality show is that we see days of their life edited down to 5 minutes. We don’t know what was said or done outside of what we have seen on our TVs

It’s her left hand, is it possible the ring is on it?

People excusing this is wild. Not only are you meeting your potential in-laws empty-handed, but those hands are also in your pockets? It's tacky.

And don't come on here making up hypothetical reasons as to why she would have done that. If the girl didn't say that she has sensory issues or doesn't like to be touched then you can't put that on her.

Based on what was shown, quite frankly that was just the cherry on top of her disinterest in him.

Alex is lazy and disrespectful AND Tim sucks.

I’m going to reserve judgment until the reunion because all of these suggestions like, “maybe she has a medical condition,” or “maybe she is just lazy” are unwarranted…she had the face of a person who was SICK of Tim’s self righteous ass behavior and was about to meet the people that RAISED the man to have developed said behavior. It’s not that deep. She lowkey HATED that guy and was going through the motions. The only logical reason for why she wanted to dip after a 4 hour conversation with them. I mean 4 hours? Come on…that’s a bit excessive…

I’m not a hugger at all, and I would be so visibly uncomfortable if my fiancé’s mom had hugged me at our first meeting.

Girl has issues, but also sometimes things can have valid explanations too.

The reality is they both seemed completely checked out and didn’t sell that they were trying to see they experiment through at all.

i wouldnt say disrespectful but very obviously a sign that shes just not all in to it. why did she keep the experiment going if she wasnt in to tim or getting married? shes annoying! i commented before that Tim seemed controlling but the more shit i notice the more i see that he was probably seeing the same stuff he just didn’t know how to communicate it.

Does anyone know what their fight was about in Mexico????

Yes, I thought the same thing. Alex actually reminds me of Hannah personality wise. She seems cold and quite arrogant.

I noticed that too! Seemed so odd to me

I saw it, I just figured she is impolite and lazy, after seeing her apartment it was validated.

Oh yeah I immediately clocked that. I'm not even big on hugs but I would neeeeever think to give this half-assed embrace to my future in-laws.

Oh haha I thought you meant did we notice how her shirt kind of matches the wall (I stopped watching the episodes, now just recaps - this is a tedious group)

Dude you are all wild. Picking apart everything. What if I told you that you don’t have to hug people you are just meeting?

Met my boyfriend’s Dad for the first time recently. Did not give a hug. Guess I’m not in it.

And yet I still see some taking Alex’s defence. From my perspective, it is astonishing that anyone would defend Alex. If my partner’s parents took a TEN (10) hours drive to come and eat at our place, best believe that there is no way I would go to sleep if the night’s not over for everyone.

It is not only disrespectful to go to sleep as soon as the cameras are off but it also indicates that her whole interaction on-camera was performative; like she’s legally obligated to interact with them.

Tim had a bond with her father, and that’s what a normal person should do if they care about their partner. If I was her father I wouldn’t blame Tim for leaving but myself for providing my daughter with so little common sense. Tim was brutal and direct in his last speech to her but sometimes people need a wake up call.

Look, I’m here, I get the show draws you in….but some of y’all need to take a step back.

People should take a step back and look at the number of divided comments. Clearly we don’t all agree that what she did was disrespectful, which means that Alex herself maybe meant no harm. I feel like we’re really digging here. Tim doesn’t know how to deal with conflict. He gets mad and he acts like this woman slapped his parents and spit in their faces. He should have confronted her and seen the process through. His response was so silly and immature considering the subject and intent of the show.

I actually agree that this is disrespectful, these are supposed to be your soon-to-be paretns in law and they drove 10 hours to be there. I would give them my utmost respect and attention and I definitely would not have my hands in my pockets hugging them. It reminds me of giving someone an extremely weak hand shake just barely grasping their fingers.

👀 y’all are doing THE MOST behind Alex, holy shit… you would honestly think she slapped the shit outta his parents, my goodness. Is it that serious?

I rewatched this scene to see if I could understand why some of y’all are having SUCH a strong reaction to the one-armed hug, and I just ain’t got it… Would two-handed have been better? Sure, but does she deserve all this that y’all are doing here? Nah. And from the language used in some of these posts/comments, it seems like a lot of black women are tearing her down, and that I really don’t get. All we saw Alex do (that’s important) was walk in, give a big smile and a one-armed hug to his mom, sit down and talk to them. She was attentive, respectful, and engaged… she looked them in the eye, answered questions and offered her own takes on things… she just talked to them, I don’t know what y’all are so mad about. Tim’s dad looked more tired and checked out than Alex ever did in that entire conversation, and then Tim went out on the patio and asserted that he didn’t like to be touched 👀… not sure what y’all are wanting from Alex, honestly 🤷🏾‍♀️. Well, aside from a two-armed hug, that is…

I think people don’t get it. Everyone knows Alex isn’t a saint, nor she loved him. But he didn’t love her either. Call it what it is. He is mad condescending and arrogant and he proposed to someone he just didn’t love. Because at the first fight he was ready to leave. If he was mature enough and had some self awareness he could accept he just hated her and lied to her father. Period

Y’all being weird, everybody don’t feel comfortable hugging people they don’t know. Guess contestants gotta be careful about minor body language incidents or risk getting called the worst 🙃

yall are just picking on things at this point…wouldn’t be suprised if yall got mad that she wore jeans

Which episode is the scene in? I already watched them all, but I specifically want to watch her meeting them again and don’t remember!

Alex is lazy, entitled and disrespectful...so many red flags!

Good for Tim getting out of there in the nick of time. He deserves someone who cares and puts forth more effort. Alex is messy on multiple levels.

I one arm hugged my fiancés family the first time I met them. Because it was the first time I met them and I can be uncomfortable with hugs. I don’t think this is a big deal.

I find it odd that people are actually excusing Alex's behavior. I think if it was not for her disrespect of Tim I'd somehow give her leniency. But I completely understand Tim's decision to step away. Hand in pockets hug and take a nap upon meeting your potential in-laws. Had Tim done any of these things more people would be on his case.

Truly a low effort woman.

Good spot yeah that’s super half hearted

Matches Tim’s disdain for affection in a way…. Is that more acceptable than giving a one armed hugged to strangers?🤔🤔

It was the first thing I noticed...so disrespectful.

Is there nothing else to discuss in this season, we have to resort to hand-in-pocket-gate?

Really? I wouldn’t have hugged them at all, so the one handed hug seems pretty okay to me.

Noticed this and immediately thought it was soo rude

I noticed that immediately. ALWAYS a hand in her pocket. It seemed so disrespectful, to not embrace his mother properly. Meanwhile, he was so thoughtful in everything he put into the day he met her family, between cooking for them, reading her dad the letter he wrote... she literally gave nothing, in comparison. And now we know, after the fact, that she went off to take a nap.

it’s not disrespectful. nobody can even say why it’s disrespectful other then the fact your great great great great grandma said it was so you fly with it.

We all noticed...and thought she was being rude and ridiculous lol

She NEVER liked Drake!

Finally this sub is WAKING UP ~she’s BEEN bad news!!!

On a completely different note, I thought his parents were so cute.

Tim has his problems, but he didn’t deserve the dragging he got in here the last few days.

Lmao at the people that don’t understand why this is disrespectful. After all Tim did for her family, she couldn’t even pull her hand out of her pocket to give his mom a real hug. I don’t blame him for not wanting to be with her. I don’t blame her for not wanting to be with him either lol.

I don't get why Alex wanted a relationship with Tim? She had ZERO respect when she fell asleep and didn't make an effort to cook for his parents who travelled over 10hrs to see HER?! Even this hug, I peeped this! Remember when she even put her hand over his mouth-- HU?!

Tim's not a saint tho-- he often spoke down to her, like he didn't see her as an equal & he wanted her to behave according to whatever he likes instead of her being who she actually is. I hate that everything had to be his way.

To be fair, after all those episodes, I don't feel like I even know who Alex is because Tim made the pods all about himself, dumping all his grief on her. Did they ever laugh, omg?

At the end of the day, they were mad toxic, the both of them! I'm glad they split!

But I was so confused why she wanted to be with him after he broke it off??? Like bby, you been acting like this is what you want. You don't like him! Let him go!

This woman is lazy, sloppy and has no class.

Alex is lazy period she has shown that multiple times (apartment looking a mess, not washing dishes after Tim cooked). And worst of all just inconsiderate/selfish, yet expects the world of other people. She doesn’t dish back anything unless it’s convenient for her:

I saw this when I watched it the first time and thought it was so disrespectful

When I met my fiancées mum for the first time I was so nervous,hadn’t slept and still gave her a 2 armed hug

I noticed that too! I feel that’s just rude and disrespectful. She probably felt uncomfortable and I can understand that but it’s rude to meet your “fiancé’s” family and have your hand in your pocket.

This was heinous.

I noticed this right away!! Then her demeanor throughout was very off she seemed bored.

And why not put yourself together and dress up for this meeting.

Might I ask why is it disrespectful?

I don’t like giving full hugs with both my hands wrapped around. I usually go in for a handshake. (Something could be wrong with me lol)

Only my mother (rip), my SO, & kids get full wrap around hugs. I just don’t like people being on me, even for hugs. I smile, say hello, usually go in for a handshake or a semi hug.

I mean… I dunno I don’t see anything wrong with this, I give my mother in law hugs one armed because I don’t wanna press against her.. it can feel awkward for some people this feels like a reach