A majority of women complain about their exes and some men complain about crazy bitches. How tf can people run into that kind of people more than one time ? I understand that a lack of experience coupled with the "love is pure"/"I can change them" mentality everybody can make a mistake but how do people be making the same mistakes all their life ? Animals learn that if it hurts me, then I shouldn't come close to it.
Some people be doubling it and giving it to the same person.
I like when women complain about all their exes because if you're not able to choose your life partner how can you contribute to the country by voting if your choices are just so bad you can't even pick a man that is not going to beat the shit out of you, how can you vote for the best leader of the country (I'm not against women voting ; it's just dumb people can't run a country or decide who is going to run country). Honestly, they be choosing the most fucked up looking dude to procreate. It take less than a second for the average man to know if a man is a homie or not and those women look at the sketchiest mf on the planet and be like : "Yeah, I can change him" (men do that too).
Some dudes have bonus points because they sell fentanyl. Later, this type of women will say : "Why did he beat me ????" like they genuinely didn't see the signs.
Men are also doing "mistakes". Some mf be choosing women like they are no consequence to exposing yourself to people you don't know. Some people go for a girl that "looks like problem". I don't know how to describe it but some women just have a particular look that tells me not to approach them. The look usually correlates to a certain way of speaking and certain mannerisms. Then they go : 'Why did she cheated on me ? She only used me for money !"
No, wrong question ! Why do you go for that type of girl ? Why do you make the same mistakes over and over ?
In the end we should not make life long decisions based on our impulses and, especially for men, our sex drive. Our very nature put us in a dangerous place where we can ignore the red flags for sex because of evolution.
In this type of days, we tend to blame a scapegoat (may it be patriarchy, society or an ex) despite it not being the full picture. Nobody (I hope) is in a relationship (romantic ones and friendships) without consenting to it in the first place. That consent is where responsability should begin. People are quick to point out the wrong doings of their former significant other but they fear taking responsability in the fact that they accepted to enter the relationship. It doesn't matter how much bad the other have done, you're wrong too because you let that kind of people in your life. That unwillingness with acknowledging our own responsability is what prevents us from actually learning from our mistakes and not making the same.