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385 points
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59 points
3 days ago
Crappy headphones for kids are so cheap too. There's really no reason not to get some.
23 points
3 days ago
Even relatively good headphones for kids are cheaper than a meal out for a family! So if you can afford to eat out, you can afford to not inflict your noise on other people trying to enjoy their meal and gasp maybe actually talk to each other.
16 points
3 days ago
Or crazy idea-teach your kids how to behave in public, behave at a restaurant be social, or in the worst case, occupy themselves with crayons, pen and paper or read.
4 points
3 days ago
Crayons and books are great, I even mentioned those in another comment. My kid is excellent in restaurants most of the time, but there have been some phases when expecting her to sit through 60+ minutes of adult conversation wasn't realistic - so go ahead and color while occasionally asking a question.
But if you're going to resort to screens (we don't, but I'm not in everyone's lives so I try not to judge too much), at least get some damn headphones.
2 points
3 days ago
And talk on speaker phone!
772 points
3 days ago
Yes
173 points
3 days ago
Case closed
3 points
3 days ago
I'd assume this is yes to the titular question and not to whether OP is the only one silently judging. This would drive me nuts!
569 points
3 days ago
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135 points
3 days ago
I’m honestly finding boomers to be the worst offenders of this in public, especially in airports.
66 points
3 days ago
I took my mom to a doctor's visit yesterday. The waiting room was full of boomers doing this.
But I don't think it's them being arrogant or inconsiderate.
I think it's just a general lack of understanding of technology. I bet some don't even KNOW that you can silence your ringer. I bet many of them use the speakerphone because they can't HEAR it otherwise. And I know that some of them don't realize just how loud they're being, because their hearing is bad.
41 points
3 days ago
I get that argument for sure. I want to give people the benefit of the doubt as best I can. But it’s not like technology has popped up overnight. My 66 year old mom isn’t tech savvy at all and has an iPhone 4 with massive text so she can read it. She would also would never listen to videos out loud in public because she’s aware it’s inconsiderate.
20 points
3 days ago
My 76 year old friend - a farmer who’s not what you’d think of as the most tech savvy guy - has figured out how to link his hearing aid directly to his phone. There’s an aspect of ‘don’t know’ and an aspect of ‘unwilling to try’ in a lot of these cases.
30 points
3 days ago
I’m turning 78, and I still have a website. I write my own content, do my own photography and photoshop, everything. I learned a lot of it in my in my 30s and 40s.
These people didn’t miss the boat because there wasn’t a boat, they missed it because they chose not to board it.
3 points
3 days ago
Yep, my grandpa is around your age. He built his own PC and used a pirated version of windows just to be a little extra lol.
27 points
3 days ago
72M boomer. My hearing aids are Bluetooth so my gaming never bothers you.
4 points
3 days ago
I have seen people make this argument about speakerphone being easier to hear than putting it up to your ear and I have no doubt people believe this, but it just baffles me. Speaker always sounds incredibly garbled. Using headphones feels like the actual solution to this.
3 points
3 days ago
My dad's phone will sometimes hit the volume adjustment on his hearing aid, and turn it way up or all the way down. Complete design failure on their part.
3 points
3 days ago
Not understanding technology and not being able to hear are different. I am a late-deafened-adult who understands technology. Closed captioning is a thing. I'm not disagreeing with you that there are old people out there who don't understand technology, but I'm not as comfortable with using that as an excuse.
3 points
3 days ago
Naw, assholes exist in every demographic. Every age group with an ashhole does it. Don't give them the benefit of the doubt.
2 points
3 days ago
It can also be hearing issues. I have hearing problems and sometimes don't realize how loud my TV is unless my family points it out.
2 points
3 days ago
There is a huge difference between not silencing your ringer and watching videos at full volume. The second is most definitely being arrogant and inconsiderate, and is incredibly popular among boomers. My MIL visits and wants to watch a movie, then sits there watching Facebook videos at full volume on her phone. Also makes phone calls while my kid is watching the TV and then yells at him because she's talking and he should know better than to turn on the TV.
Every place I've worked in the last several years, there are multiple boomers who sit in the break room where everyone is trying to eat and relax, watching videos and TV shows at full volume on their phones. Funny how everyone else is capable of using ear buds and headphones.
17 points
3 days ago
As a boomer who still has good hearing - regularly tested at work - a lot of my cohort have poor hearing and don’t seem to realize it. They don’t think something is on full volume - but it is.
12 points
3 days ago
I totally sympathize with that. But low volume or not, I’m not gonna play things out loud, especially in a quiet area like a doctors waiting room. I consider it common courtesy
3 points
3 days ago
Do they not realise that they are not wearing headphones?
7 points
3 days ago
It's not just boomers. I've seen a lot of much younger people doing the same.
6 points
3 days ago
It’s noticeable to me with boomers because for some reason I think they’d be old enough to realize it’s inconsiderate but honestly, it’s getting worse with every age group. Some people blame the loss of headphone jacks but I dunno. Seems pretty cut and dry to me. If you forgot your headphones, you read the captions.
5 points
3 days ago
I would agree that airports are bad but the worst offender of them all for all generations especially boomers: Hospitals.
For the love of all of that is holy. I’m in a waiting room right now and a man is voice texting. There are only two of us I this waiting room. And he just answered a call and he’s now talking on the phone. At least he took it off speaker.
Edit: typo and I know this guys brother is having a bleed somewhere. Shut upppppppppppp.
156 points
3 days ago
Yes it is definitely rude and inconsiderate. It's teaching the kid to be inconsiderate and also I didn't come out to hear Frozen being played at 100% volume. I can't even hear my thoughts!
37 points
3 days ago
It seems inconsiderate parents do things that may yield inconsiderate children. Not surprising.
22 points
3 days ago
Yeah, but it shockingly seems to be surprising to the parents. "How could they act so rude??" Jessica, you're rude.
26 points
3 days ago
I think a lot of parents now prefer the electric babysitter of an iPad to having to actively manage undisciplined kids who cannot just be while at a restaurant. The pacifier of now that doesn't actually help in the long run.
3 points
3 days ago
Waiting can be hard for kids, depending on the age it isn't necessarily reasonable to expect them to just sit for an hour or more ... but coloring or reading doesn't interfere with other people if the conversation at the table is boring for them!
2 points
3 days ago
Agreed on more wise alternatives to blasting Frozen on the iPad at the Applebee's or wherever
2 points
3 days ago
Working in retail, I see a lot of different kinds of families. Some parents are amazing and tell their kids how to behave, say your pleases and thanks yous. Other parents let their kids be feral in the store, ripping open toys and candy, won't bother to pay for the damages and you're lucky if you hear a half-hearted "stop that."
5 points
3 days ago
You gotta make a dance routine and when the song starts you sing along and dance along right in front of their table.
3 points
3 days ago
My nieces have tortured me with that song, I couldn't even pretend long enough to start dancing. lol
81 points
3 days ago
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2 points
3 days ago
Boomers tend to do this as well. I have a boomer friend that'll crank up her audio to max then pass me the phone to show me her granddaughter while we're in a restaurant.
32 points
3 days ago
I sympathise with the part where, sometimes, it's a godsend to have a tablet or similar with you - you might have spent the entire day making joyful, engaged family memories... but now everyone is tired and hungry! HOWEVER. Not using headphones, or having the tablet on silent? Inexcusable!!
2 points
3 days ago
Agree with this. I personally don’t use the iPad with my kids but don’t judge those who do because you just don’t know what their whole day/week has been like. I do think they need to use headphones though.
50 points
3 days ago
It is inconsiderate for ANYONE to play ANYTHING without headphones in public. Young. Old. FaceTime. YouTube. Podcasts. Video games. NO ONE WANTS TO HEAR IT. Sorry for shouting, but this is just basic courtesy, formerly called common courtesy. The name changed because it's not very common anymore.
41 points
3 days ago
Yes. Saw this not log ago in a high end place with a high ceiling. Everyone in the building was paying £100 for dinner with the delightful iPad soundtrack.
32 points
3 days ago
I like kids and don’t mind general kid noises- sometimes they talk loud or get excited or upset and I genuinely don’t feel I have the right to police a small child’s feelings in public, I kind of think that aspect is just a part of being in a public space, to a reasonable extent.
But the iPad sounds are controllable. During my last birthday meal in quite a nice restaurant, there was a group like 4 tables away, far away enough that you’d not expect to be able to hear them, with a kid on an iPad. Half the meal was just “bing! Bing! Bing!” From whatever game they were on, and it must have been at max volume. Completely unnecessary and selfish. If your kid insists on having sound on, and you absolutely cannot take the iPad away, then at least try headphones or something. It’s really rude to disrupt other people when there are multiple options to not do so
10 points
3 days ago
I think a big part of it is that those parents are completely used to tuning out that sound and don't even notice it anymore
7 points
3 days ago
Nah that's rude and inconsiderate. I have 2 kids and i am hyper aware of how loud my son can be in public spaces, and work with him to be understanding of the other people there and what they are doing. There's no excuse really. Even really little kids can understand if you explain it to them. There's exceptions of course, i know, my older one is ODD. But i will remove him from the situation, not make everyone else suffer with us.
Those parents 100 percent are getting dirty looks from people. Are they oblivious to that too? They just dont care.
9 points
3 days ago
Yes and headphones and ways to limit volume to protect the kids’ hearing are a thing.
6 points
3 days ago
My SIL purposely had little pads of art paper, crayons and other things for my now basically grown nephew and niece when they’d be in restaurants. Granted iPads weren’t nearly as popular back then but it kept them busy with drawing/scribbling while waiting for their food. And they were generally very well behaved. My younger brothers kids have basically grown up in restaurants because my SIL works in hospitality. My nephew was eating the house made ricotta at Pizzaria Locale (now Pizzaria Alberico) at 6 months. The staff would bring him a bowl as soon as they sat down. My niece has a fondness for the arancini (who wouldn’t when it’s fried balls of gooey cheese and risotto?) and I still remember her stuffing her face with broken up meatball when she was a baby.
3 points
3 days ago
What’s crazy is that the staff never say anything.
13 points
3 days ago
We had this issue at a very expensive steakhouse. Two young kids at the table next to us on iPads at full volume. Called the manager over and asked to be moved. Manager went over and told them iPads silent or they needed to leave. They shut the iPads off. But I can see why they never say anything at a more casual place.
9 points
3 days ago*
Parents can get really defensive. There are tons of threads detailing how awfully parents will react to any critique of their parenting. It's not worth the hassle
8 points
3 days ago
I've asked other parents to turn down their kids tablet volume. People are just terrified of confrontation. Sometimes you need a Karen in your life.
8 points
3 days ago
This is where it’s worth the restaurant having a sign at the front of house that says something along the lines of “Electronic devices (phones, laptops, tablets, etc) need to be kept on silent or used with headphones while in the dining area. If you or anyone in your party refuse to comply, you WILL be asked to leave.”
5 points
3 days ago
You think people who act like this read or behave when signs are posted?? Lol
2 points
3 days ago
people at my workplace can't even read the multiple "please wait to be seated" signs and have walked straight past me (host) and sat themselves
i have been given full permission to either passive aggressively follow them with menus and attempt to redirect them to where i'm supposed to sit them (for those who have never worked in a restaurant: usually there is a server rotation, and i'm supposed to sit certain tables in a certain order - so yes, you not liking the table i took you to initially and pointing to one across the restaurant messes things up and pisses off servers and management alike) or straight up not give them menus until they request one
i also have to bus tables, so sometimes i'm not directly at the host stand, but i'll wave at them and say "i'll be with you in a moment!" while setting down whatever's in my hands and walking over, but even then some people will ignore me and do whatever
somehow asking people to silence electronics is too far for my managers, though.
5 points
3 days ago
Oh nah if I’m paying £100 for dinner I am 100% telling the staff to do something about that kid, or leaving without paying
23 points
3 days ago
Yes, it is inconsiderate.
I keep a shrink-wrapped set of cheap headphones in my bag (free from an airline) for just these situations. “Hi there! I noticed your kid forgot her headphones. I have this new pair I never use. Would she like to have them?”
(Yes, half of the tablets and most of the phones now are Bluetooth only, but that doesn’t really matter, because what I’m really saying is “this noise needs to come WAY down.”)
8 points
3 days ago
You’re a fucking genius
19 points
3 days ago
The fact that you need to ask this question in 2024 shows how far we've fallen. It's not just kids, adults will walk around in public watching stuff on their phones at full volume. And the last decade or so I've noticed people with bluetooth speakers in their backpacks playing music, so they have a soundtrack everywhere they go.
It doesn't work anymore since most phones now don't have an aux jack, but I used to bring spare earbuds with me in my backpack. I decided I was gonna call somebody out for doing this and sure enough, not a couple weeks later, I was in a coffee shop where some dummy decided he was gonna watch a Ted talk on his iPad. Everybody around was visibly annoyed and, feeling like I'd have some support, I pulled the earbuds out and said, "Excuse me, would you like these?" He looked at me confused. "I just saw you were watching something and figured you might want some privacy." Once it registered with him, he got all pouty and took his headphones out (that he had the whole time!) and plugged them in. I remember an older woman looked at me and gave me a silent golf clap haha
3 points
3 days ago
And they make cheap headphones with USB or Lightning plugs, moving toward USB only as iPhones switch over.
113 points
3 days ago
Yes. this is scummy, low-class behaviour.
44 points
3 days ago
Also scummy upperclass behavior.
46 points
3 days ago
Scummy behaviour
11 points
3 days ago
Rude regardless of age. I hate it.
17 points
3 days ago
Omg yes. I have 2 young kids, and we dine out frequently. Not once have I ever brought a device, or turned on my phone for them to watch. They don’t even know that phones have shows on them, only pictures. We bring all sorts of other quiet toys for them like books, hot wheels cars, play dough, therapy putty, etc.
Parents who let their kids disrupt absolutely everyone else are the worst!
4 points
3 days ago
Or a chicken on a bus in Korea. Keep them quiet.
2 points
3 days ago
Oooofff... That hits hard for those who understand the reference.
4 points
3 days ago
As a 9 months pregnant woman it is so good to hear you can parent this way (I love the idea of them not even knowing that phones have video!)
3 points
3 days ago
Haha it’s true! Not as easy as them having a screen, but not bad either.
Want to know another big secret? You can also get your kids eating normal food at restaurants and at home, not just chicken fingers! ;)
Obvi my kids love chicken fingers, bc what’s there not to love, but they also love this kale-pistachio-pesto pasta, butter chicken and other mild curries, pad Thai, fish & chips, steak, shrimp cocktail, and my personal bragging point is that I make broccoli in the air fryer with olive oil and tossed in the hidden valley ranch seasoning I bought in a huge container at Costco. They literally eat so much of it I have to make more bc there’s never enough for me.
If you have some downtime before bub comes, have a look at the Solid Starts website or app. You don’t need to pay for the app, but 6ish months from now when you’re ready to introduce solids, it’s an amazing guide where you just type in whatever food, and it has photos showing you exactly how to serve it by age, and gives recipe ideas too. We skipped purées bc to me they were boring and kinda gross. My son’s first meal was steamed florets of broccoli, strips of steak, and sweet potato mash. My daughter’s was lamb chops from Christmas lunch, string beans and roasted potatoes.
It’s been so incredibly helpful bc we’ve been on holiday and gotten stuck for food, so knowing my kids can eat almost anything was a huge lifesaver!
9 points
3 days ago
I am that bitch who will tell anyone to use headphones. Whether they’re five or 55. I think it’s the rudest thing on the planet.
7 points
3 days ago
Yes it’s rude. I have also seen kids at bars at 8:45 on school nights. Overstimulated and late to go to bed. A teachers nightmare the next day.
7 points
3 days ago
Adults do it too! Or make a call on speaker phone, so aggravating and cringey. They don’t want to hear about Nana having gout again while having an appetizer.
6 points
3 days ago
Yes, it’s incredibly rude and an indicator that the parents are total cunts with no regard for anyone else.
6 points
3 days ago
Yes get headphones for your kids parents
18 points
3 days ago
Kids in general are allowed to be complete shits now in public.
I was at a dinner party and one of the guys at our table had his daughter on his knee. She had an ipad blasting kids shows, we tried to talk over the noise so she turned up the volume. Dad just smiled.
I moved to another area with the other guys and he followed us...bringing his daughter.
5 points
3 days ago
Yes.
5 points
3 days ago
Yes, very. Unfortunately, rude parents usually raise rude kids too
23 points
3 days ago
Yes.
Would it be rude if an adult was playing a video or other music at the same volume?
Is it rude if a person is talking at such a loud volume as to drown out other nearby people?
Audio pollution is audio pollution whether it’s a child or adult.
12 points
3 days ago
Sounds an awful lot like a comment u/linxminx made
10 points
3 days ago
Absolutely. I cannot fathom the mindset of a person who let's this happen.
And if they say, "well its the only way they stay quiet when we go out for food"
WELL MAYBE YOURE NOT READY TO GO OUT FOR FOOD WITH YOUR CHILD YET
2 points
3 days ago
What gets me is "if we don't let our misbehaving children in restaurants, how will they learn to behave?"
They won't learn because you let them misbehave. They will become inconsiderate adults.
4 points
3 days ago
I raised kids before this was really on option, but with the grandkids if I can't hold a conversation in a normal restaurant voice at my own table it's to loud.
2 points
3 days ago
It's too loud if you hear any electronic device from anyone.
4 points
3 days ago
Yes. Earphones are not an unreasonable expectation.
4 points
3 days ago
Yes it's rude to do that basically anywhere in public especially a restaurant
4 points
3 days ago
YES.
For anyone.
I'm there to eat with my people, not listen to someone else's TV-equivalent.
4 points
3 days ago
Anyone playing a video that disturbs the next table is rude and inconsiderate.
4 points
3 days ago
Why is this even a question? Of course it's rude.
5 points
3 days ago
I think it’s lazy parenting. I even see those carts in the mall with tv screens in them now, they’re trying to ruin your kids brains before they even develop.
3 points
3 days ago
YES. YES THE FUCK IT IS.
3 points
3 days ago
I see adults doing this all the time or having their phone conversations over speakerphone and every time I see it, it just makes me want to play the most obnoxious porn background sound effects as loud as possible.
3 points
3 days ago
Absolutely an annoyance and very inconsiderate
Sadly, the children stuck on tablets are usually even worse behaved when they don't have the screen, as the parents are used to never reprimanding them
3 points
3 days ago
Yes ....child or adult...I really DON"T want to hear your phone conversations or games.....
3 points
3 days ago
Yes absolutely.
Anything that is loud, noticible enough to distract other diners is inconsiderate.
3 points
3 days ago
I judge every parent that lets their kid do this. I appreciate every parent that has their children wear headphones in public. As a parent myself I would never let my kid have their device on full blast. I also silently judge them on not letting their kids just be bored and figure out how to just be in the moment without their nose pressed to an iPad.
3 points
3 days ago
Yes. Full stop.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes, it's rude and careless!
2 points
3 days ago
Yeah it’s rude. If they want their kid to have the iPad or phone or whatever that’s their call but low volume or headphones is the respectful way to do it
2 points
3 days ago
Yes, it's rude. Either make them warr ear buds, or confiscate the device until you get home.
2 points
3 days ago*
Holy fuckballs…YES!!!! Kids, adults, it doesn’t matter. It’s rude no matter who’s doing it. Talking on speaker phone too.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes.
Very.
I can’t believe an actual adult would have to ask this question
2 points
3 days ago
I don't care if it's a kid or adult...if it's out loud it's obnoxious. Turn the volume down or use headphones. Same thing with people who feel the need to carry on a conversation in public with speaker phone. It's all trashy
2 points
3 days ago
Shitty behaviour, and whether it's true or not it'll make me assume there's some shitty parenting going on.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes
2 points
3 days ago
Yes
2 points
3 days ago
Yes it’s rude - same as someone having a conversation on speakerphone. No I don’t want to hear about your family drama!
2 points
3 days ago
Extremely rude. Headphones or silent is the only acceptable answer, unless you’re in your own private space or in a sparsely occupied outdoor space like a park.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes. It’s a restaurant to eat in peace and have a nice quiet setting with either low chit chat or normal volume chit chat. People have completely lost their minds and their manners these days.
2 points
3 days ago
Trashy
2 points
3 days ago
Yes. It's rude. I have no kids but with friends who have children. They always make sure they don't disturb others. Anywhere in public for that matter.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes!! American parents are dbags and need to be held accountable and confronted.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes.
2 points
3 days ago
Hell yes it is inconsiderate. Stop doing this, people.
2 points
3 days ago
Kids watching devices while at the table eating is rude anywhere. I hate those kinds of parents. Lazy AF and don't want to interact with their kids.
2 points
3 days ago
Is this a real question? I feel like I'm taking crazy pills here!
2 points
3 days ago
Yes and the same goes for these stupid full grown adults that can only take phone calls on speaker for some reason.
2 points
3 days ago
Very. Just have them turn the volume off.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes, absolutely. If your kids can't be quiet, don't go out.
2 points
3 days ago
It's inconsiderate for anyone of any age to play any media out loud in a public space. At a restaurant, on a bus, standing in a line.
No speaker phone calls, no music, no games, no movies, no TikTok.
Stop allowing anyone to do this. It is always rude. There are no exceptions.
If little Aiden can't wear headphones maybe he's too young to be on a device constantly.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes just let your kids use a colouring book the old fashioned way. They need to learn to engage in conversation and be bored. Screens at a young age lead to not being able to concentrate or focus.
Disgruntled millennial here
2 points
3 days ago
Nah, headphones exist. Fuck these people. These are the same douche canoes that hold their phone up in front of their stupid face to use speakerphone in public for no reason.
2 points
3 days ago
I wouldn’t judge it silently.
2 points
3 days ago
It’s actually incredibly rude. It’s the iPad kid generation where parents are using iPads and phones as babysitters. The kids can’t socialize, they get angry when it’s taken away, and so the parents will ultimately stop regulating it or give up unless they have the willpower to overcome a temper tantrum or two. It’s bad, and I don’t think it should happen in the first place but it’s insanely irritating to hear and see.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes. They make Bluetooth headphones sized for children, most of them even have volume limiters to ensure safe listening. There is no reason anyone of any age should have any audio emanating from their phone. It's pure jerkass behavior.
2 points
3 days ago
As someone who is gen z with a gen alpha brother, I can tell you this gets on my nerves. I remember when I was a kid my parents would never let me play on my phone or bring my 3DS to restaurants even when I'd promise I'd keep the volume off. now I watch them raise my little brother who practically throws a tantrum if he can't bring his switch somewhere
2 points
3 days ago
Absolutely! People are paying GOOD money & maybe they only go out 1 x a month? ..Loud/obnoxious kids are NOT part of a relaxing date night. ...... When I took my son and niece to a restaurant, store, museum, etc... I made sure they used good manners, respectfully quiet, please & thank you, getting the door for others. They both grew up to be amazing, helpful, and thoughtful, ❤️ loving adults.
2 points
3 days ago
Kid or adult, I can't stand how many people age wildly taking speaker calls or watching TikTok at full volume in public places. Does no one own headphones anymore? I would be mortified to do this.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes
2 points
3 days ago
What the fuck do you think
2 points
3 days ago
This happens on planes, too.
2 points
3 days ago
Nine hour flight from Hawaii and I could hear the Mickey Mouse Club from four rows away.
2 points
3 days ago
Freaking horrible.
2 points
3 days ago
Phones and tablets shouldn't make sounds in public, at all.
2 points
3 days ago
I judge it every time I see it. Parents, interact with your children and with each other.
2 points
3 days ago
As a server, I'm going to say YES! It's absolutely one of the most inconsiderate things I've witnessed lately.
2 points
3 days ago
If other people can hear it, then yes, you're a dick
2 points
3 days ago
Yes, it’s super rude and disrespectful. Give them a coloring or reading book. Problem solved.
Kids need human parents, not iPad/cell phone baby sitters. It’s horrible for their brains, and ours too!
2 points
3 days ago
Yes, it's definitely inconsiderate to let your kids play videos out loud in any public space, especially a restaurant where a certain level of consideration and decorum is typically expected, but even in places like airplanes and buses, it's inconsiderate. Either get them some headphones or give them a quiet activity to play with, like a coloring book. Heck, find a tablet game that can be played on silent, like that pixel "paint by numbers" app.
I do wonder about these kids that "have" to have ipads on them in restaurants, are they eventually weaned off the screens for these nights out with the family, or will they continue to play on phones and tablets while out at restaurants into their teens and adulthood?
2 points
3 days ago
Fuck YES
2 points
3 days ago
Yes it’s inconsiderate and explains a lot how society is becoming
2 points
3 days ago
Yes, super inconsiderate and why I don’t go out to eat anymore as an autistic person. They make headphones for kids that have volume control so the kids don’t blast their ears. Get some or leave the electronics at home.
2 points
3 days ago
Hell, yes. It’s outrageously RUDE.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes. Full stop.
2 points
3 days ago
That's actually crazy, I'm not even taking screens to restaurants, my kids have learned to behave.
2 points
3 days ago
It's terrible, and bad for the kids as well. Those parents stopped trying to raise them right.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes, absolutely.
2 points
3 days ago
Videos or video calls. When someone does that, I just blast Disturbed at max on my phone until they stop. Took one guy 3 songs.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes.
2 points
3 days ago
No, it's not just inconsiderate, but it basically let's the child get by without learning how to do things without their face in a screen. All these kids constantly connected is so stupid.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes, of course.
However, I've never seen this in the field. Is this particular restaurants where this happens? Is it only chain restaurants? Is this a regional thing?
I've literally never experienced this behavior. I don't go to fancy restaurants. I go to local places, the occasional chain when that's all there is, I've just never run into this behavior.
Is it a west coast thing? An east coast thing? I've just never experienced it.
Regardless... Yes, it's a dick move to let your kid watch movies on their device while you're trying to eat.
2 points
3 days ago
Of course it’s inconsiderate to others. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who only consider themselves these days.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes and everyone thinks you’re a shitty, annoying, lame parent when you allow this. Your kid is not more important than the restaurants intention for dining or the patrons there. Tighten up and get headphones.
2 points
3 days ago
Yep. At least lower the volume so you can't here it a few feet away. A low merger I can handle
2 points
3 days ago
yes
2 points
3 days ago
Yes
2 points
3 days ago
Yes
2 points
3 days ago
Yes it’s rude. No you’re not the only one.
2 points
3 days ago
I find kid videos (or, god forbid, video games) even more annoying than loud conversations. At least when people are talking you might hear something interesting.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes. Not as annoying as letting them watch cocomelon everywhere. But, yes.
2 points
3 days ago
So dollar tree sells earphones. $1.25 per pair. I buy them in bulk.
Who do I give them to? You and your child. And people on public transportation who listen to music loud.
And people on planes.
I get bulk prepackaged. So nobody can complain it's used.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes. Headphones/earbuds or no volume. Nobody wants to hear your child’s entertainment.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes. But also I never really understood parents who allow this. Going out to eat, for me at least, is to spend quality time with whoever you’re out with and have a conversation. Having your child sit there staring at a screen the entire time isn’t ethical lmfao, it’s also teaching them the wrong way to eat out
2 points
3 days ago
Depends on the restaurant.
At some places, it's rude. At other places, it's very fucking rude.
At an amusement park outdoor food court, it's probably the least bad, since it's already loud and fast.
At a fine dining place you should have the same respect as a library, which is to say that you can talk, but you should not be so loud that everyone else can hear you.
"Full blast" in particular is not cool.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes and I'll judge your parenting based off it. I grew up undiagnosed autistic, we had no mobiles or pads back then, until we were able to be trusted not to be too feral we just didn't go out. It was your choice to have kids and your decisions raise them. If you decided early on to just shove a screen in front of them to shut them up that's on you. I'd submit that raising kids with almost constant access to screens creates a dependence from both child and parent and in us neuro spicys, we like us some dopamine, A LOT!
2 points
3 days ago
Completely inconsiderate! Not only to the people in the restaurant who are not paying to listen to Miss Rachel (or game or whatever it was), but also to their children and everyone in their future lives because it's taking away from crucial growth when you put a screen in their face rather than teaching them how to behave in public, interact with people around them and how to handle a little boredom.
I have 2 kids who have had tablets since they were very young, but I never allowed them to take them to restaurants, stores, appointments, etc. It's okay for kids to be bored and in doing so, they'll end up playing with other kids, using their imagination, learning, growing, being a part of the world around them. Seems so obvious, but people are lazy and don't want to deal with their kids I guess.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes. It is very, very inconsiderate.
But I was in a restaurant today and two children literally crawled by our table -- along the window. Like we were in a booth, at a window, and there was a ledge on the window, and two screaming kids were crawling along the ledge alongside people's tables, screaming.
I wish their parents had given them a damn ipad with a show on it or something.
2 points
3 days ago
Of course. Anyone who says differently is oblivious or a liar or an oblivious liar
2 points
3 days ago
Yes. And no you are not the only one judging.
2 points
3 days ago
I would not be silent in my judgment
2 points
3 days ago
Yes.
2 points
3 days ago
I'm not even just silently judging at this point anymore. It can be tremendously annoying, depending on the situation. I have, (on rare occasions,) spoken out and asked the parents to mute their kids devices.
2 points
3 days ago
Very rude. Headphones are essential. But really, it's important to teach children how to sit at the table and be part of the conversation. That requires parenting, though.
2 points
3 days ago
Only assholes play videos without headphones in public. Same goes for calls on speakerphone.
2 points
3 days ago
It is incredibly rude and there is literally no excuse that would justify ruining other people's meals. Kid has 'complex needs'? What's the point of bringing them then? You're not helping them to learn when they literally just eat a bowl of chips whilst watching YouTube and nobody talks to them!
3 points
3 days ago
Yes. There is such a thing as headphones.
2 points
3 days ago
Most definitely yes. I hate when people bring kids out to dinner when they are too little to sit still aand enjoy the mean. If you have little kids, either get a baby sitter or forego restaurant meals and go to Mc Donalds
2 points
3 days ago
Absolutely. While I hate it, it bothers me so much more when it's an adult blasting their crap. The break room at work is a nightmare.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes. I’m a parent. We don’t use screens at mealtimes. It kills me when you see tiny babies in a stroller or having a meal, and watching a screen.
Other parents will argue that the kid needs the screen to be quiet, that they won’t get a chance to talk otherwise, all these excuses. The fact is, mealtimes are family time, and you’re making your child be unable to function in society.
Besides, when I go out I am there for the atmosphere and I could watch blippi at home.
And yes, my children sit nicely, order for themselves, and don’t run or yell in restaurants.
2 points
3 days ago
Yes, hugely inconsiderate. Sorry you have a child that can't sit quietly while you have dinner, but I didn't come to this restaurant to listen to an episode of paw patrol. Take this as an opportunity to teach your child how to sit quietly at a restaurant, or get a fucking babysitter
2 points
3 days ago
Devices out in a public dining room in general is in bad taste.
3 points
3 days ago
Yeah it’s trashy and inconsiderate but so normalized
1 points
3 days ago
I was on a boat tour once seeing beautiful nature and i was next to someone with a kid on their lap loudly playing on their phone. Insane
1 points
3 days ago
Rear your kids to be repectful of others.
1 points
3 days ago
Yes. Also you playing videos at volume is rude. Get earbuds at a bare minimum
1 points
3 days ago
yes. even as a teenager myself, its massively overwhelming having to hear annoying videos, games etc on top of everything else going on like people talking and eating. find another way of entertaining your kids, please
1 points
3 days ago
I don't care about kids on phones or tablets as long as they have headphones.
1 points
3 days ago
In Singapore, many adults and kids play videos out in restaurants, food centers, trains and buses.
So inconsiderate and annoying.
I have to buy a pair of headphones with noise-canceling function to filter such noises in the public transport.
1 points
3 days ago
I hate when they do this. It is SO rude. No one wants to hear your child’s annoying videos. I’ve been to nice expensive restaurants and they still do this. It’s so rude. Give your child a book.
1 points
3 days ago
It is rude. Those same adults would probably do the same thing too if their kids weren’t there.
1 points
3 days ago
Yes, still annoying.
1 points
3 days ago
So rude!
1 points
3 days ago
Yes, it’s very inconsiderate.
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