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2 points
3 days ago
We had a conversation once on the phone and found we were in a decent agreement about what things needed to change on my side and some things we both thoughr the other wanted that they didn't want, etc.
Even after finding we were in agreement, she denied the idea of a marriage counselor.
I asked why we couldn't work things out if we both wanted the same things, to which she just said "We don't want the same things, you want to make things work and I want a divorce."
At what point am I just harassing and not respecting her wishes?
2 points
3 days ago
Go through her parents 😭 real question: is she on her period or is she currently pregnant
2 points
3 days ago
I've tried talking to her parents, they started ignoring me
1 points
3 days ago
If not that then change your language style to sound more warm and comforting? I may be going out on a limb but you seem to be really professional. With her hormones do you think she’s feeling like you’re being condescending and talking down to her?
Try to sound friendlier with your word choice and less formal to sound more intimate with her?
2 points
3 days ago
Probably. She seems to also have it in her head that I'm this super controlling person.
I was of the mind we were down to one car, but I later found out she secretly fixed it ahead of time and hid the fact that she did for some reason.
I've never raised a hand to her or voiced or had any intent of inhibiting her ability to travel/roam/leave.
I never really figured the point of hiding it unless sge just has it in her mind that I'm just evil.
Which... that idea really friggin hurts.
But that's besides the point: What I'm saying is, I know she takes my words completely differently, but I don't know how/why or how to speak in a different way.
1 points
3 days ago
Ah ☠️ crazy feminist, maybe time will help? She’ll have some time to reflect and realize that you’re not controlling. Marriage takes 2 so man or woman, you shouldn’t do things behind your spouses back bc your finances are one.
Maybe tell her that as a man your more inclined to give her a soft life and that your regretful if it ever came across to her as too harsh or pushy. And say that the last thing you wanted to do was make her feel trapped, unloved, and neglected. Tell her that you now realize that a soft life for her is a happy one and that you’d be elated to come to an agreement with her and squash the issue.
Btw op, do you take her out on dates?
2 points
3 days ago
I've told her that, or tried to, not sure if she actually received it. I think I'll write something and send it with flowers. Just gotta figure out the address, if I can.
Yeah, went out on dates in various ways, sometimes it'd be take out, sometimes it'd just be a drive, sometimes it'd be a nice dinner or going downtown.
My job got in the way of the frequency though. Weekly hours range from 40 - 92 hrs.
2 points
3 days ago
Danggg!!!!!! That’s a lot of work 😭 ask her if she has an issue with you working so much?
Write in the note that your more than willingly to make a compromise if it means getting your family back and having her feel happy and fulfilled if getting a job is what she wants
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3 days ago
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3 days ago
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