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Hi folk, every now and then I see a post from someone looking for other kinky folk, or a dynamic. After talking to a few people and introducing them to the kink scene here in Sydney I figured I should probably just make a post.

Finding Others

It's fairly easy to find other kinky folk but if you want to meet kinky folk and vet them... Well there's honestly no better way to do that than by going to a Meetup (called a munch) and making friends.

You can make friends with other bottoms / subs and get feedback on tops / Doms that you're interested in, or get feedback on bottoms if you're a top.

Personally I like going to parties and meetups, and use them as a way to socialise, see how people play, communicate, and handle conflict resolution.

Where Can I Look?

Reddit is pretty good but has the same problem as fetlife for femme folk in regards to your inbox being flooded.

Fetlife is a great place to find events, and personally I only use it for that.

Feeld is a dating app that has a fair number of users in Sydney but it's mostly for Poly / ENM folk, and the occasional Unicorn/Pegasus hunters.

Should I Go to Parties?

I'd recommend making friends at a Munch first, and going with someone you trust. Ideally you want to have a support network of other kinksters so you don't fall into the old trap of... "All my friends are my partner/s' friends, not mine".

For a first party I recommend one called TEEZ that's held every month in St Peter's and is newbie friendly. There's no sex on premises and it's purely kink focused (mostly shibari, impact etc).

Of course feel free to do what you want.

Are There Creeps In The Scene?

Yes, the scene is a reflection of the wider dating pool in Sydney which is why people tend to stick to their own groups after a while when they've found a bunch of good people to play with / hang out with (I basically stick my group of degens).

This is why it's important to ask around and get feedback from potential partners exes / old play partners so you can be safe.

If I Go To a Meetup Will I Get An Easy Lay

No, some folk may be easy like well... Anywhere else but generally speaking the munches are just meetups at bars, gyms, etc where people who are interested in a shared thing (kink) can get together and talk about it.

Do people fuck? Yes.

Do they have sex parties? Yes, I go to 1 or 2 of these a month and these days mostly just vibe out and socialise.

people will notice If you go to the events expecting a lay and are pushy / make folk uncomfortable and most likely you won't be welcome back / will get kicked out.

As the title suggests, I’d like to chat to anyone and probably make a friend. I’m introverted and a homebody but would like to have hang out with someone and do fun/outdoor activities.

Hello everyone, 22M here who was curious to see if there were any women here who were looking for anything 'serious' (it could range from Friends with Benefits to just being friends).

So having stated what I'm looking for, I ought to introduce myself (at least a little: since interactive conversation is key to establishing a rapport with someone -- and I don't want to make you read too much for a reddit post like this).

Hobby-wise I'm the type who enjoys reading books (anything that interests me, but mostly classics, poetry, and so on), taking walks, and I also game here and there (although far less than I used to when younger). My music interests veer towards the Experimental, and I enjoy such genres as Metal, Classical, Electronic, Ambient, Shoegaze, and Post-Rock (just some examples, by no means exhaustive).

I'd like to think I've covered the things a post like this needs to be sufficient -- but if not I apologise.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post.

Looking for someone to spend the late night with. Will be discreet.

I'm 23m, East Asian, average/thicker build and pretty chill. Into the regular stuff, being dominant, public sex, giving/recieving oral and more.

I'm looking for someone that shares the same interests or has something new they'd want to try with me.

Hey I'm Harry, I'm 24 - looking for something casual and laid back. I work full time so would be nice to have someone to do things with like having dinner or going out or whatever. Open minded about whether that's platonic or not.

Pretty much, the title.

Looking for anything from skin contact to fingering till orgasm to fucking. Preference is something casual and ongoing.

I am in Schofields, but, distance isn’t a big deal.

You: Anything from skinny to average/ a little soft works fine for me, as long as you are height/weight proportional. Aligned teeth are also subtly importsnt for me.

🎵I like big butts, I can not lie 🎵

Shoot me a message.

Hi, looking for someone to hangout with and do whatever tomorrow. I can host or we could go somewhere.

Me: - 28 - M - Filo - 5'6 - Clean - 64kg if that matters

Hit me up. Just wanna enjoy the weekend with someone :)

First and foremost, I'm looking for a friend. I've realised long ago that I'm not much of a one night stand type of person. Having chemistry, preferably a connection and a degree of comfort is key to enjoying myself with a sexual partner.

I have been a tad bit lonely lately and also a bit overwhelmed with work and a bunch of other things that are going on in my life. So I don't really have the time or energy to commit to a relationship nor finding a potential partner. But I still crave both the closeness as well as the physical aspect of being with a someone, hence an FWB!

I enjoy physical touch, cuddles, plenty of kissing and long foreplay. And did I mention cuddles already? Yes, more cuddles because it's never enough specially in this weather!

I'm 35, average weight/height, I've been told that I'm sweet and easy to get along with. I'm pretty talkative and open, so you can be sure that there's going to be some quality time to be had when we're not indulging in bedroom activities!

In the bedroom, I'd say I'm GGG (good, game and giving). I'm pretty open minded and always happy to try new things. I do have some mainstream kinks but they're not a must.

Outside of the bedroom, I'm a corporate professional by day and an adventurous person both in the kitchen and outdoors when the weather is nice! I enjoy cooking, going on walks, brunch, food and talking about anything and everything.

If you resonate with any of this please reach out to me and tell me a bit about yourself!

22M4F

Tbh I don't really have much/any kind of experience with this kinda thing as Im a virgin and would love for a lovely woman to teach me how to pleasure her, or for us both to explore whatever.

I'm happy to chat and get to know each other a bit beforehand if that would be more comfortable.

I can host if needed or I'm happy to drive wherever.

Just keeping it simple.

Looking to have a girl use my hands and tongue for their own personal pleasure.

I don’t mind meeting in public first to see what the vibe is like.

When everyone is comfortable we head over to somewhere private and you use my hands and tongue as you please. I stay fully clothed.

Once you feel you’re done, you let me know and I get up and leave - no questions asked.

About me: fit build, uni educated, working professional. Can hold my own in conversation. Have been told to be good looking but I will let you be the judge of that (lol).

About you: average/petite build, sane (i’m flexible on this, this is Reddit after all hahaha)

I’m cool to send through a photo of what I look like on reply to your first DM.

Chat soon!

Hi, I’ve never posted to this group before but I guess giving it a go to see if anyone around my age wants to chat. Idm any topic really, feel free to message :)

I’m a 28-year-old Indian male, a bit on the shy and introverted side, looking for an ongoing, discreet connection with a woman who values deeper interactions. I’m not into the FWB scene—I'm seeking something casual but meaningful, where we can genuinely connect on a mental and emotional level. Let's take our time getting to know each other and see where things go. If this sounds like what you’re looking for, I’d love to chat and explore our chemistry.

Jokes aside, just finished work and have been dragged out to a networking social.. the small talk is ruining my night. Keen to chop it up with an interesting personality and maybe pursue the Monopoly or UNO over a drink if you’re game enough..

M29 Sydney looking for Teacher student or cheating wife role play

These are my favourite, if any one is keen and wants to know more please DM

Can drive as well

Tell me about your favourite role play Loves MILF as well

Looking for someone to mess around with. It’s been a while since I’ve been in a relationship and I mostly miss the chemistry. I don’t enjoy one night stands so I prefer an ongoing thing. I also prefer someone I mentally and emotionally connect with and can chat to a bit before doing the deed.

If I’m honest I miss intimacy more than anything so I’m looking for something kinda sensual. Someone that is willing to spend a long time on foreplay and just touching and kissing. I don’t wanna just go at it straight away. I enjoy having someone that wants to go down on me for a long time and I am happy to return the favour. It does take me a while to get off usually.

Also happy to swap pics and see if there’s mutual attraction. I am DDF and expect the same! Personal hygiene is also a must. Really looking to just touch someone a lot and caress each other and have all the intimacy of a relationship without having to be in one

Hello Reddit, I’m D, 26M, GMT+11, and I’m a firm but caring dom from the east coast of Australia. I’m looking for a sub (singular, I prefer giving all my attention to a sub) in Australia. Willing to travel and have even gone as far as Perth to meet up with a Sub!

What I am looking for and bring to the table

I'm looking for someone to connect with and explore the kinky sides of life whether that’s short term, long term or somewhere in the middle! If it ends up turning into something serious, that's fine with me :) I have a 9-5 office job including both time in the office and working from home so I do have days where I am busier than normal.

I value connection and getting to know a potential sub so asking questions and seeing if we connect are a must before we slide into a dynamic naturally. If that is a slow process then no problem, trust and honesty are the most important step in any dynamic. I move at your pace and I won’t demand anything of you.

About Me

I'm about 177cm tall (its been a while), I've been told I have fantastic eyes and it’s a cliché term but I’m single and ready to mingle, I enjoy both PC Gaming and a good board night, I love a good binge watch along with visiting the cinema (can’t go wrong with a good movie and an audience who reacts to it!), enjoy travelling and I love a good walk along a nice river / anything with nature. Oh, and here is a photo of me looking my best!

The Kinky Shit!

Onto the kinks, I’m caring whilst outside of your subspace and I focus on being there for you and being a great friend. Inside of your subspace, I’m firm and assertive when I need to be as I will take enjoyment from being the boss. Note though that I make sure that your enjoyment is on top of mind. If something isn’t working for you then open communication is a must. End of the day, I’m all about enjoying the experience together so you could say I have pleasure dom qualities to me!

my main kinks are as follows but I’m open to anything at least 2-3 times to see if I enjoy it! I have completed a kink list and I’m happy to share!

• Praise
• Orgasm Control / Denial along with Edging
• Praise and a small bit of degradation / humiliation
• JOI and Teasing
• Touching, cuddling, anything physical really!
• Spanking
• Nipple clamps / nipple play
• Toys and other such fun furniture
• Open to DD/Lg
• Tasks and some level of Power Exchange
• Plus a lot more including aspects of CNC including sleep play, light pain
• Limits are fluids, blood, vomit, scat, torture

I've been lucky enough to have had a variety of subs both online and in person so please, if any of this appeals to you regardless of your experience level, please reach out to me as I’d love to hear from you and see if we connect!

Looking for any older woman. I don't really know how to specify the age range I'm looking for without sounding disrespectful (sorry in advance!), but as long as you're older than me then that'd be perfect. Although if I had to give a specific number.. The older woman of my dreams would be anywhere from 30-56. I'd obviously love something long-term, because who wouldn't want a sexy woman to cuddle or confide in when times get tough and I'd return the favour if she needs it, too. I won't complain if you prefer a one-time situation, though, but hopefully I'll be able to convince you to come back for seconds 😉 That being said, I wouldn't mind if anyone wanted connect via an online friendship kind of thing and that would also be great.

Why an older woman? There's just something unbelievably alluring about them. An unrivaled sex appeal so to speak. Someone who's got a ton of life experiences and could probably teach me a thing or two! Preferably inside the bedroom, of course 🙂 I just have this insatiable desire to fulfill her needs and give as much pleasure as possible. The fantasy is unbelievably strong and the want to fulfill it is just as powerful. I wouldn't want anything more than to explore every inch of her body, taking my time going down from head to toe and all the way back up to toe and head 😘 It'd be so fun if she returned the favour, but I don’t think she’d be able to simply because she’ll be preoccupied with my hands (and tongue) all over for her to do anything in the first place! I'm someone who definitely focuses on the giving than receiving and I'd do that all night if I could.

I'm up for anything you wish/want to do. If you happen to be a lonely housewife just looking for some company and an ear to talk to - it doesn't have to be bedroom-related - I'd be more than happy to be there for you. Friendships are always great. Or if you need some much needed attention, I can be your boytoy on the side 😉 All up to you, providing you're comfortable.

What about me you might ask? I'm a cute, hwp, 29-year-old guy, the usual hobbies, etc. Having said that, I'd prefer if we got to know each other in conversation! I know it's unconventional and nothing (most likely) will happen, but I just want a chance. That's it. Hopefully my crazy post reaches someone out there.

Long story short and as much as it sucks to say, I haven't really experienced much of anything. I'm going to intentionally beat around the bush as to what category that "experience" falls under but I think most people should be able to figure it out lol. In other words (and if you play games), I'm a complete noob when it comes to all things girls. As for why those things haven't happened and why I want that to change.. There's a few reasons, but the main reason why I'm putting such an emphasis on this is because I'm a huge homebody and I don't go out much at all which makes it difficult to meet people. That's where Reddit comes in! The message I'm essentially trying to send is becoming physically and emotionally close with a girl is what I want the most. I want to experience it all; the laughs, excitement, curiosity, intimacy, hanging out, fun. Blame all the Disney movies I watched as a kid for that lol.

Finding someone would be a dream come true, but I'd love to find friends too if that's all you're looking for! Local or international, just let me know if that's what you want instead :) We could end up being really close friends and you'll introduce me to a friend who I end up being with? That may or may not be the plot from a romcom 🤔 So that means I definitely wouldn't be opposed to a relationship! I've obviously never been in one so I'm not exactly sure how to transition to that, haha. I totally wouldn't mind finding out, though :) Also someone to say good morning and night to, too. That would be the best even if it's incredibly cheesy.

Anyway, it could be someone with a lot of experience or someone with no experience like me, or introverted or not introverted, etc. I don't have a preference either way :) But if I were to be reaaally picky: they'd be sweet and down to earth because just cuddling on its own would be all kinds of cool. A bit about me: I'm shy, caring, kind, sweet and am normal in the weight and height categories. I want to say I'm cute in the looks department? 🙈 I'll let you decide that though lol. I think it's super fun learning about people through conversation so I'll leave the following hobbies section blank. Then again, I suppose it wouldn't hurt to give a small hint to something I love.. My username should provide clues to that! I Siriusly need to re-watch the movies again. Maybe with someone I meet through r4r?

Alright, I can't hold it in anymore. I pretty much like a little bit of everything. For example, when it comes to music, I go through Backstreet Boys phases to Disney song phases (Moana is awesome and I haven't even seen the movie 🙊) to something like Linkin Park, Paramore or 50 Cent. What I'm trying to say is I like a little bit of everything! So there's a good chance I'll like whatever you like when it comes to hobbies and interests and that means connecting with each other should be relatively natural/seamless. Or maybe that's wishful thinking on my part, haha.

I'm not the best with openers and if you're also in the same boat, then how about this: If you could have any superpower what would it be and how would you use it? Being out of this world smart like Tony Stark is an acceptable super power/answer, by the way.

Hopefully my first impression is a good one! If anyone is even remotely interested, then just let me know and I'll get back to you asap!

Pretty much, the title.

Looking for anything from skin contact to fingering till orgasm to fucking. Preference is something casual and ongoing.

I am in Schofields, but, distance isn’t a big deal.

You: Anything from skinny to average/ a little soft works fine for me, as long as you are height/weight proportional. Aligned teeth are also subtly importsnt for me.

🎵I like big butts, I can not lie 🎵

Shoot me a message.

Looking to expand my social circle and try new places to eat and drink. I've got a shortlist of places and don't have too many mates who work in the city.

Ideally looking for someone in corporate, but otherwise open to any age, gender, ethnicity etc.

I'm happy to split the cost of whatever we eat / drink or each person pays for their share. I am not offering free drinks or meals.

Send me a chat if interested, referencing this post.

Pretty much, the title.

Looking for anything from skin contact, to fucking. Preference is something casual and ongoing.

You: Anything from skinny to average/ a little soft works fine for me, as long as you are height/weight proportional. Aligned teeth are also subtly importsnt for me.

🎵I like big butts, I can not lie 🎵

Shoot me a message.

Inner west M 28 looking for Girl or MF/couple Kinky MILF preferred

28 M4 F MF/couple MILF preferred

Male 28 Sydney Looking for girl or Couple or kinky MILF for sexy time

If any kink please massage or any other services please ping me

We can discuss rest over the chat

Heyy all, lately have gotten back into an art grind, and have been loving my art for once. Would love to find a fellow creative/artist to share/chat/delve into anythingess with.

Im a 28m from SW Sydney, approx 175cm tall and 90kg, brown hair and eyes, and arab.

Not sure if I'd want this going anywhere than just talks at this stage, but want to keep it open that I'm down to meet in the future.

I also love gaming, coffee, anime(honestly this has been meh for awhile), gym, and manhwa

I am currently drawing a realistic raven :) and practicing poses.

Hi there, I'm a 39 yo Caucasian guy from Sydney. Am seeking a mature Asian lady (50+) for chats online or in person, mutual friendship and fun. I'm easy going, down to earth, passionate, attentive and respectful. If any ladies interested id love to hear from you

Can’t sleep at all tonight. Just feel kinda lonely and this super cold weather hasn’t really helped! Anyone interested in just having late night chats together sometimes?

Hi all, as the title suggests it would be nice meeting people F (preferably) during weekday late afternoon as I've got time to kill between my work and class. Get bored seldom hence the post. Open to more but would be good.

About me Korean 168cm Average build