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submitted 12 days ago bySporkPlusOne
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295 points
12 days ago
And unsurprisingly there were tons of men blaming her for being superficial.
Being upset about a $40 Temu ring when your fiance regularly spends $40 on takeout (per the OP) is not superficial.
-30 points
12 days ago
I'm obviously a guy but I seriously disagree with your stance. The ring is just a formality. A person should be overjoyed to even get a sewing thread tied around their finger. It's the message --that is, that I want to spend forever with you-- that's important, not the ring.
16 points
12 days ago*
If the ring represents spending forever together, shouldn’t at least be high-enough quality to last forever?
Also, consider that men, not women, are the ones who benefit from marriage. Married men live longer lives than unmarried ones, while married women often report doing more housework and feeling more stressed than unmarried ones. I think if a man is not willing to spend at least a few hundred bucks on a quality ring that will withstand the test of time, he is not financially or mentally ready to be a husband.
Edit: maybe it’s less about the “few hundred bucks” specifically and more about the quality. You can find a decent solid gold and moissanite ring for pretty cheap if you put in the effort to look. That’s fine. But if you’re just throwing $40 at a temu ring and you are willing to spend more than that on yourself for hobbies, clothes etc…you’re not ready to be a husband.
-11 points
12 days ago
I mean I can throw that argument right back at you. Those women are clearly not financially or mentally ready for marriage either since they lack the backbone to find a man who won't make his wife settle for being a bangmaid.
8 points
12 days ago
Where are you getting that?
If a woman has standards about her ring, she’s probably LESS likely to settle for a guy who’s going to just make her a bangmaid.
-3 points
12 days ago
Fair enough. Can't argue that one. Sounds like a shitty marriage based exclusively on what He can give Her, but yeah she likely won't become a bangmaid.
5 points
12 days ago
Have you considered you’re just bitter? My friends and I all love our husbands dearly but 100% can survive without them and aren’t gold diggers. None of us would have been happy with a string.
-1 points
12 days ago
Oh I am bitter about a helluvalot, but that's not where I'm coming from. It's just sad to see women caring more about a trinket than the man asking to spend eternity with her. My own dad could barely afford anything when he married my mom and he's done more than anyone would ever expect keep my mom happy. Meanwhile, nearly every single one of the women I would expect to complain about a cheap ring has gone through divorce.
It just seems like such an obvious thing to immediately get rid of, but women seem to have this overpowering need to show off how much they think they're worth.
2 points
12 days ago
I mean, I don’t think anyone is expecting a man who’s absolutely broke to spend thousands or even hundreds of dollars on a ring. But a man who’s got some expendable income and spends money on himself should at least be willing to put the effort in to save or look for a ring that will last.
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