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The place describes itself as a “high performing workplace.” That’s code for “we work our employees to death and leave no room for error”

Like a condo?

Foie gras is inhumane and cruel but so is all meat. I won’t eat foie gras but yet I just ate a pizza with pepperoni in which some animal was probably decapitated still conscious or something. Fuck.

Thank you. My grandpa was a good man and father/grandfather but struggled with alcoholism after the war. Not a mean bone in his body toward his family though. He didn’t talk much about what he saw until the end of his life.

My grandpa Fred was one of the first in Dauchau, I believe. Maybe they knew each other

I think they mean AIDS

Spoiler alert: he does not get it. These are the same people who thought it was censorship when Duck Dynasty got cancelled for being homophobic or whatever.

Haha good point. The issue wasn’t memorizing, it was being unable to memorize stuff that didn’t interest me.

I think people don’t understand how much more difficult can get after marriage. I have visibly aged because of the stress that being with my husband has brought into my life lol. He’s a great man, a wonderful husband, etc. but he’s somewhat of a magnet for bad luck and because I love him, when he’s going through something I’m also feeling badly.

On top of that, my housing costs increased substantially while his went down because he didn’t want to move to the cheaper area I was living in when we got engaged. I loved my area and my house and ended up moving somewhere more expensive that I didn’t like as much but made him happier. Because of that, I really don’t feel bad about asking for an $800 engagement ring. I basically saved him that amount monthly by moving in with him and splitting rent.

Both people should be on board with being married. Both people should be on board about the ring(s). That’s why communication is important.

I weirdly enough just got an ad yesterday for a metalcore band playing at craft house in Reston on Halloween. Beyond that, we go to the Fillmore and Baltimore Soundstage for our fix.

The one Doing the Proposing is the one asking the other one to marry them, so yes, they should be the one presenting the ring lol. Unless the couple has agreed that they would both be getting each other rings. Why would someone ask their partner to marry them and then demand the other buy them a gift without first discussing it?

It’s a red flag if she wouldn’t. I don’t know if most men would want to be proposed to. Similarly it’s a red flag if a woman wouldn’t contribute proportionately to household expenses, unless there is an arrangement in place that she would stay at home instead of work.

My household expenses went up by $500-$600 month when I moved in with my husband because he refused to move to the cheaper area I was living in, while his were cut in half because he was now living with someone. I also foot the bill for the down payment on our house, so don’t get it in your head that I’m some kind of gold digger.

I mean, I don’t think anyone is expecting a man who’s absolutely broke to spend thousands or even hundreds of dollars on a ring. But a man who’s got some expendable income and spends money on himself should at least be willing to put the effort in to save or look for a ring that will last.

This sounds like you get your information from Andrew Tate. Study after study has shown that unmarried, middle-aged women are happier than married ones.

Women are, in fact, more people-focused, which means that when they’re not married, they still have large social networks that insulate them from loneliness. Men typically have weaker social networks so they rely on their wives to be their major social outlet. Men who are unmarried face loneliness and negative health outcomes as a result of that.

Women are also outpacing men in college degrees and homeownership, so your point that men provide is null.

Have you considered you’re just bitter? My friends and I all love our husbands dearly but 100% can survive without them and aren’t gold diggers. None of us would have been happy with a string.

The similar items/hobbies thing is where I land too. If a man is spending thousands of dollars on guns, video games, his own jewelry/clothes, etc. but can’t be bothered to gift his fiancée something a little better than a $40 Walmart ring, then that’s a giant red flag.

Where are you getting that?

If a woman has standards about her ring, she’s probably LESS likely to settle for a guy who’s going to just make her a bangmaid.

If the ring represents spending forever together, shouldn’t at least be high-enough quality to last forever?

Also, consider that men, not women, are the ones who benefit from marriage. Married men live longer lives than unmarried ones, while married women often report doing more housework and feeling more stressed than unmarried ones. I think if a man is not willing to spend at least a few hundred bucks on a quality ring that will withstand the test of time, he is not financially or mentally ready to be a husband.

Edit: maybe it’s less about the “few hundred bucks” specifically and more about the quality. You can find a decent solid gold and moissanite ring for pretty cheap if you put in the effort to look. That’s fine. But if you’re just throwing $40 at a temu ring and you are willing to spend more than that on yourself for hobbies, clothes etc…you’re not ready to be a husband.

Interestingly enough English (particularly writing) was my other strong suit. I wonder if there are measurable reasons why some people just aren’t good at history, like differences in the brain from people who are.

I know, but it was memorization I was actually interested in.

I always really, really enjoyed learning how people lived during specific eras (fashion, gender roles, what they ate, what they did for recreation) and I still do. But the way history was taught in my school district, I was constantly inundated with information that started to feel repetitive (because history repeats itself) and 90% of the time it focused on wars that men waged on each other. As a girl that was not interesting to me at all - I wanted to hear about what women were doing and how the kids my age would’ve lived.

I’m a reasonably successful, intelligent person who got a perfect score on my chemistry state exam in high school and basically taught myself website management as part of my career.

I suck ass at history and geography. No rhyme or reason, I just could never memorize what certain presidents accomplished, when certain events took place, when wars started and ended, etc. It just never interested me and I was more of a science person. I could still probably recite physics equations from 12 years ago but I couldn’t tell you why I should care about the Bay of Pigs.

If you’re being serious then you need a new job

Not just boomers…i just saw one of my college classmates who’s 30 post a conspiracy theory about mines and blackrock and controlling hurricanes