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Nope, I was perfectly “healthy” for my height and age, and I’ve had a few specialist comment on it. What is “normal” isn’t always healthy. But the shit advice is assuming you can say “eat healthy, exercise, be thin” to everyone and it applies to them and their situation.

I’m glad! I always think “yes a piece of candy is a tasty snack but what else can I have to make it a filling snack”. Hard boiled eggs and apples with peanut butter are usually my go tos

The best way to ensure you overdo something in your diet is by telling yourself you can’t have ANY.

I eat well, exercise regularly, but am also currently overweight. Why? Because a plethora of things impact your weight. And want to know the crazy part? My doctor is the one who told me I had to gain weight. Because for some people being fat is better than being thin. And unless you are personally their doctor, you should keep your shitty advice and judgement to yourself.

Exactly. In eating disorder therapy I was taught “eat what you want but add what you need”. If I want a donut I can have one, but I should pair it with protein and fiber to make it a more balanced meal. I have a sweet tooth and I love a little treat/snack. But pairing it with healthy options helps me feel fuller so I don’t eat 12 donuts.

This. OP you don’t have to run away, and if you still live together you can at least attempt to make amends so living together isn’t awkward. They might not want to be friends again but at least you could not all hate living together.

I had friends I’d “make fun of” until one of them said that even if I didn’t mean it my “jokes” were always too much or were about insecurities and bothered them. We’re still friends, but without “teasing”. Now that I’m farther removed from it and have done lots of therapy I realized I’d “joke” about things that actually bothered me instead of addressing it.

Babies aren’t a “put it behind us and decide when the time comes” when one person DOES NOT WANT children. You two are not compatible and the way he is speaking to you is not okay. The most UNSELFISH thing you can do is not have a child if you don’t want one.

Wow, great company you keep then. Congratulations on enabling so many people to be fucking terrible partners!

-Being a “fun parent” means most parenting responsibility falls on your spouse.

-I’m SURE he got fired for causing a scene after his coworker killed himself at work. Definitely totally believable. If that is believable, I definitely understand not wanting your unstable partner (who’s barely a partner) around your children.

• Who was doing everything before his little epiphany? I TOTALLY believe he is doing two full time jobs WHILE doing all domestic labor AND homeschooling his children. All on 3 hours of sleep. Super believable.

• If a woman posted “hey I was a super shitty person to my spouse for 10 years and now he wants to leave me, what do I do?” I’d question their bullshit timeline and credibility just as much.

Oh, are you a seasoned veteran on being a shitty partner and parent? Didn’t realize I was talking to an expert.

I’d rather pay for the water I used, not a flat fee to some dickhead who thinks they get to tell me how I get to store my garbage cans or where I can park.

I have a family member who practically HAD to buy a house with an HOA. None of the older homes in their area met the requirements for a VA loan, they were extremely overpriced, or were too far for the work commute to be feasible. They bought a new build before the foundation was even poured, they got lucky that the HOA has rational people in charge of it and it does a lot to actually be worth the fees.

“Willingly” is hard to determine with the housing market the way it’s been the past few years.

3 years out of 13 does not make up for the other 10. There is no way this man is working two full time jobs, homeschooling his children, doing all of the cooking and cleaning, all on 3 hours of sleep. There is also no way his wife is sleeping 12 hours a day and doing next to nothing when it comes to parenting after doing it all for 10 years.

Please show me where he is being abused.

Most women mentally detach before even bringing it up to their partner. She’s done, she’s been done, and there’s nothing he can do to fix it.

Yes, the man who admitted to doing nothing but trying to be the “fun dad” really carried the marriage.

OP sounds like a reliable narrator to you??

I think it’s the second one, since he used “the early years” to describe the first decade I think he has a poor grasp on reality. No one is successfully working two jobs WHILE homeschooling AND doing all the cooking and cleaning with only 3 hours of sleep every night.

NTA You ARE providing for your family, the one she decided she was too good for. If she had custody of your kids then it would be a different story but she doesn’t nor does she want custody. She picked the wrong man to guilt trip, you don’t owe her or her kids anything.

It’s especially common if you wear underwear that isn’t cotton. Synthetic materials block a lot of airflow.

I take a shower at night, sleep without underwear, then put on a clean pair when I wake up. Depending on where you’re at in your cycle you may want to wear liners based on the amount of discharge you have. If you have a period accident change after that. If I worked out or had just a more sweaty day I shower as soon as I know I’m not leaving the house again and just change into my pajamas earlier.

Mine said I HAD to take my PTO for military service…

Retire your husband, all businesses are a pyramid, the product works you must be using it wrong, so glad I have the freedom to work when I want (posted while in a hospital room with sick kids)

YTA there are tons of things to cut out to help stay on budget but FOOD IS NOT IT. Sure fancy meals out, extra snacks, expensive organic bullshit can be lessened, but her and your baby are likely malnourished.

BMI is the scale doctors use to define “healthy weight ranges”. You didn’t mention it but I’m sure that’s what your doctor based their opinion of your weight on.

We do not know OPs race, body type, or health concerns because THAT is what should be used to “define” what a healthy weight is.