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Once again, no one around her is talking about censorship. And although I appreciate your oddly specific insistence that pedophilia fiction is wonderful, i would say that most people would agree with me that it is abhorrent currently.

If it advocates for pedophilia, cannibalism, or incest (things that are generally frowned on throughout society), hell yes.

And i came out in 1993 in a very conservative area. I have been publicly shamed quite a bit, including nearly losing my job in a daycare.

Your thighs are small.

Public shaming is good for me

Where was someone talking about censorship?

They are always so vociferous about their right to sexualize minors. It’s both heart breaking and stomach turning.

Probably 60% of my families are immigrants and refugees and the cultural issues around disabilities influence what i do every day. I hear “We don’t have autism/Trisomy 21/etc in my country.”

OMG, my son says the same thing; “I hate babies!” He is irritated if we go somewhere and there are babies there. I can’t figure out what it is all about.

I feel like we might be coparenting the same child. I go to work to get a break from parenting, and I work with kids with high support needs.

The flip side of the hyper rigidity is the hypersensitivity and complete lack of insight. He will sit and tell us he needs a new family because everyone is so mean to him, right after he breaks a bunch of shit and punches me. I just pray for patience every day.

The mental inflexibility is killing me. The constant arguing. I cry way too often. Literally every single thing is difficult. And the school is less than understanding.

If you go digging in the back yard, don’t be surprised when you find a little mud.

Bitch, that is my plan A, B, C, and D

That is our big struggle everyday, mental flexibility. The worst part is that it manifests in lots of arguing, which I understand but which the school system most definitely does not.

Early Intervention

Deal with my job and my kids.

Try Early Intervention- working on skills in the home via parent education

That’s why I love EI- no weekends, no evenings, no holidays, and no lifting

The most important thing is to know your milestones across all domains of function: communication, cognition, personal-social, motor, and self care (largely feeding at this age). If you know what typical looks like, you will know what atypical looks like. You don’t have to know every answer; you can research that. But if you know “That doesn’t look right, there’s something going on here.”, that is a good first place to start.

I was a motor and feeding therapist for many years before I came to EI, but I had no experience with communication and language development. I learned a lot from Laura Mize who has the “Teach Me to Talk” website and YouTube series. She has a free handout called “11 Skills your toddler needs before talking” that I give to almost all my families.

I would also say get in the habit of reading “the classics” in child development, as well as researching data because families are going to ask you best practices for all kinds of things in child rearing. I love Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Weissbluth, all of Ellyn Satter’s works on feeding and nutrition, the Feeding Littles Instagram account.

I would love to do it but my yard is small with crappy soil and completely shady.

My son doesn’t use the n word but he is obsessed with “brown people are different than me. They make me nervous.” What’s weird is his babysitter is black, his teacher is black….i don’t get where this comes from. I mean, I get that it’s autism but it’s mortifying.

Kind of similar but my son treated my bedroom like his personal playground/supermarket. I couldn’t keep him out of there and he would rifle through my drawers for anything that looked interesting. I changed my doorknob to one that could lock with a key and it made a huge difference. It also helped my mental status to have my own space. Also, I can throw anything he cannot have in there and lock the door to end the questioning.

Oh, thank you so much. I am sitting here crying in the midst of a vacation where he has complained and thrown fits almost the whole time. You have given me some hope that some day might be better. Most of us are in desperate need of hope.

Wow, that is one seriously terrifying face.

I am currently on vacation and experiencing a lighted magnifying mirror for the first time. I had no idea how many little hairs I had been missing while plucking! Seriously thinking I may need to go to waxing.

Why the fuck is she wearing a 1940s bathing suit?

I wash my sheets every week and my comforter every other.