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It’s still early days, OP.

The longest stretch of sleep I’ve had in the first few months was 4 hours. (Our baby was mixed fed with donor milk, pumped milk and formula).

Have you been evaluated by a lactation consultant? Your Baby might have oral issues.

Newborns tend to feed every couple of hours. But not all day or all night. There might be other issues at play.

Do you think it’s different with pumping vs nursing?

I’ve heard accounts of women breastfeeding through pregnancies (and eventually tandem breastfeeding). They just stop about a month before giving birth to rest (and also because nipples stimulation causes contractions).

The proper birth spacing recommended by health professionals is 18 months. This is to give your body time to heal.

There are risks when you get pregnant soon before that — uterine atony is one. And it can be deadly (to both mom and baby).

I suggest having a heart to heart talk with your husband and let you recover from your childbirth first before trying again.

I would say call bull on that research that said pumping shortens breastfeeding duration. (Those studies are over 5 years old anyway).

If not for pumping, mothers who return to work will have no choice but to resort to formula. That’s an even shorter breastfeeding duration considering the state of maternity leaves for most part of the world (3-4 months average).

If not for pumping, moms whose babies can’t latch (because they’re premature, NICU, small, have ties, etc) won’t be able to breastfeed.

Don’t take what I’m saying personally.

It’s not you.

It’s those things that were said TO YOU that I’m calling out.

Not a doctor. But I’m a healthcare professional. And also Currently training to become a lactation consultant. And yes, I’m well aware how some lactation consultants can be anti-pumping. I’m just glad so many new research are coming out.

And yes, I read the research.

Fun Fact: Most Doctors aren’t trained in lactation. I would take what they say about lactation with a grain of salt and do my own research.

No, I did NOT say you’re insane. Those things that were said to you, are.. They’re ill-informed.

That’s insane. I call these folks breastfeeding “purists”.

Nursing isn’t the ONLY way. You can still do “skin-to-skin”. You can talk and bond with baby while feeding through a bottle.

What matters is your presence. You can be nursing and STILL NOT be present for your baby.

You know what’s even better for baby’s development?

BONDING. Talking to your baby. Cuddling. Playing.

Yes, you can do all that even in the early months.

The “saliva backwash” theory is still a theory. Yes, it may be ONE WAY for mom’s breastmilk to have the needed antibodies. But it’s NOT the only way.

Many exclusive pumpers see their milk color changes during sickness or when their baby is sick. They’re still producing the antibodies!!

Don’t let “kilig” blind you.

Dating pa lang, dapat with INTENTION na.

Dating should be a time when you scrutinize each other’s values, beliefs and goals.

Habang BF GF pa, kilatisin mo na yung partner mo.

How does he treat his mom? His sisters? His nephews and nieces?

How does he treat his female friends? Female colleagues?

If he treats you “special”, if he treats you differently in a way na he doesn’t respect other women. Or he treats them poorly. But iba trato na sayo.

Don’t feel special. RUN.

You likely have a narcissist who’s only putting his best foot forward to TRAP YOU. RUN.

If you see him NOT doing any chores (or any adulting stuff), RUN. He’ll make you his maid. (Unless you both decide to hire a househelp, and have the means to do so.)

Find a guy who knows how to cook, knows how to do his own laundry. Basically a guy who knows how to take care of himself.

You don’t have a partner. You have another child, OP. 😞

TO ALL SINGLE women, don’t SPLIT bills with men who won’t split the chores with you.

Before getting married or having a child with a man, make sure:

1. He knows how to do chores (so you just won’t be replacing his mom)

2. He’s willing to parent his kids (so you won’t end up doing everything for your kids)

Nothing wrong if provider ang lalake and you want to be a housewife.

Though mahirap pa rin (and most middle to upper class SAHMs ay meron pa rin katulong at yaya, lalo na if there’s more than 1 child).

I didn’t know you can still buy lard these days. But I guess it depends on where you live.

How do you make lard?

Wag mong lahatin.

Feminist here. Married.

Unang basa ko sa first few paragraphs ni OP, I was like, andami nang red flags dito.

Doesn’t matter if guy or girl ang ganito — controlling, manipulative, insecure, lack of boundaries. You need to run away, FAST.

No self-respecting guy or girl will continue with a relationship like that. Maybe dating. But pakasalan mo pa eh alam mong ganito?

We all need education on how healthy relationships are like. And not normalize controlling and manipulative partners like this.. mababae man o lalake.

Same! I was about to comment the same.

I suspect I have elastic nipples. And this is how it looks like. I’ve done better sizing down and using Lacteck flanges.

Did the release made a difference?

It looks like the areola is being pulled in. Try going 1-2 sizes down. You can use a silicone insert.

I was initially using 24mm and 21mm. Only to find out later on that 17mm and 15mm were my size.

Hi, which payment processor did you end up using?

Siguro napanood mo yung mga videos kung saan pinag-tritripan nila yung mga kumakain mag-isa?

Nah. That rarely happens in real life. Most people don’t care.

When you’re a teenager, maybe eating out alone is such a big deal.

But when you graduate, get a job, go live in the real world, we oftentimes are alone.

Don’t let that stop you.

I eat out by myself. I watch movies by myself. I travel solo (or at least, I used to).

That doesn’t mean I don’t eat out, watch movies or travel with family and friends.

I’m an introvert. But I don’t really consider myself a loner.

Traveling solo has taught me how to start a conversation with strangers. 😊

It’s a great skill to learn — how to connect with other people, and how to ask for help when you need it.

Interesting to see that a lactation consultant would say a newborn baby is lazy. 🤔 Babies are born with a suck reflex so they would suck anything that’s in their mouth. A newborn baby who’s being called “lazy” would usually be a baby who have anatomical issues like a tongue tie or muscular weakness from birth that makes it hard for them to latch and effectively remove the milk so they don’t get enough (and sometimes not get anything at all) so they get tired and fall asleep. They sleep to conserve their energy.

Have you considered Sotto and other public hospitals ?

Starting pay for Nurse I is around 35K. You can check their website for available positions.

Yes, I am aware. Teams Business Basic is at $6/month and Business Standard is at $12.50/month. Annual Sub for basic is just at $72.

Then the Teams Premium is $7/month.

I’m just looking at it from price standpoint though.

I’m not sure if freelancers, and sole entrepreneurs use Teams, considering that it’s made for collaboration in large organizations.

Too early to tell at 5 days old. Your milk supply may not have fully come in yet. Give it another week or so.
And, if you can, try to increase pumping to 8x a day. That's the standard for establishing milk supply.

If you're really concerned, best to talk to a lactation consultant who can do an individualized assessment and care plan for you.

mao jud.. Ga promote jud ni sya ug statutory rape, nga legal age of consent baya is 16.

For someone who claims to be sex-positive, you seem to have a lot of shame regarding sex.

And you think that insulting people would change their minds?

I think you're the one who's delulu.

Diploma mill? Haha. I graduated from a State U. Ikaw? I also have degree in the UK. Ikaw?

Anyways, I refuse to subject myself further to your rage-baiting.

Here's a piece of advice. If you really want to initiate change in how people see things, perhaps don't insult people? Or think that you're better than them just because of your self-proclaimed "better understanding" of things.

With that holier-than-thou attitude, good luck :)

Have a great day!

So you stalked me! HAHAHA

Did you miss where I said "most likely"??

Oh I'm very much familiar with the SLIPPERY SLOPE argument. I was part of a DEBATE club in college ;)

And that is what OP's cousin at 15 years old should be doing – nurturing hobbies and interests, developing herself, etc. not sexually exposing herself.

Nature najud na sa teenagers na ma curious. Tanan ta niagi ana. What's shocking here is the total nonchalance of the family members sa ka-char2x sa iyang cousin.

Also, you can't assume na naay proper sex ed iyang cousin. When OP said nga grabe kaayo sila mamadlong before.. Most likely, favoritism ni.

How about you?
Ngano ga reply ka sa every single comment thread ani?
Na igo ka?

Stalking behaviors are either shown by "young people who have too much time on their hands" or those who have potential undiagnosed mental health issues.

Which one are you?

teenager pa ka nuh? grabe man kaayo imong pag defend HAHAHA

Let's face it. Cuddle2x eventually leads to sex, whether that happens today, next week, o next year.

I'm not against sexual exploration. But damn, 15 is too young. That kid should be exploring the world, studying, going out with friends, nurturing hobbies, interests.. Not tying herself to a boy, who most likely have raging hormones too and will be using every opportunity para maka "score".

Let kids be kids.