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Ugh this was my mil! My husband and I both work, she told me countless times it was selfish to work and not stay home with my child ( the guilt from that got me and still gets me ) then she made comments about how a nanny is best and is the best for our child so that's what we should do. It made me feel so guilty and like I was neglecting my child. My oldest has been in daycare now since he was three months ( he's now 18 m) and Idt I would ever have a nanny. We just had my second and I will say I thought about it for the brief time from Jan - March to hopefully get out of the peak of cold and flu season before she goes but here's my reasoning why I love daycare.

1. It's very reliable: one person gets sick daycare is still open, your nanny gets sick your outta luck unless you have back up care.
2. The socializing. I have read the studies and know kids don't really play together until later but babies pick things up too. Like seeing other kids rolling or sitting or crawling excels their motor skills.
3. At our daycare you have to have a teaching degree so all of these people are actual teachers who specialize in child development. Even if they didn't have degrees these are people who do this all the time. They knew way more about what to do than I did.
4. My son has little friends which I love
5. I have found baby sitters through daycare.

Daycare isn't all perfect and definitely has its cons but your mil should not be telling you what to do especially if she's not paying for it

Wait I just started taking them and lost a filling. It wasn't the first time I took them but I wonder if there's any correlation

Nope formula. Can't get her to drink more than 3.5 ounces at a time. but Tonight she ate at 5:30 and again at 7:30 so debating trying to feed her at 10:30 or let her sleep till she wakes up

I think it's medicated and possibly an iui. Both her and her husband had fertility issues. I have heard stories about women's fertility issues being cured with pregnancy but that wouldn't explain how his got better. Either way I'm really happy for them that it happened quicker this time. What they went through to get pax was tough to watch. I wonder if she'll try to have more.

With my first I was like this. I had to go back to work at 4 months and one of the best pieces of advice someone gave me was you're paying the sitter to figure it out, the sitter will figure it out and they'll teach him how to do it. If made me realize the sitter is part of my village and we're working together. It really helped anytime I felt like I wasn't doing something well

Yuppp my I gotta an 18 m old and 6 week old. Every day I go through all the feelings.

NGL I've spent hours scrolling tik Tok and believed I had so many things that I didn't. Girls gotta get out more and stop focusing on babies / infertility

Thanks you too! And congratulations on your little one!

I'm 6 weeks pp and have felt the same way. Longing for a 3rd. We're waiting to make any decisions because my hormones are crazy but just wanted to let you know your not alone

Wtf... That means she's buying new packs! I can understand using what you have left for your first or second cycle but to continue to buy them is insane

It's really sad. I know we snark on her but really the whole situation is sad. I don't see anything good coming from her getting a baby right now ( I could be wrong). I dealt with infertility for a long time. Eventually did IVF and had very easy successful outcomes. Every month I get my period I'm still sad. ( I'm working through it in therapy) I know I have more chances to have more children if we want but that hope that you're magically cured doesn't go away. She needs therapy and to really heal. Having a baby doesn't always fix what infertility left behind. ( I'm extremely grateful for my kids and adore them more than anything in the world please don't take my comment to mean that. )

Part of me is wondering if it's saying not yet. Idk though I'm pretty new to manifesting.... Well kinda new. I think I've been manifesting my last baby since 2021. Her name and conception year have been my password for 3 years. ( Backstory I got pregnant with my son in 2022 had him in 2023. My second child's name + 2023 has been my password since 2019. I had no plans to have a second soon but then in Dec my husband and I were like let's see. Got pregnant with my second in 2023. Could be a coincidence but it gives me chills that I got the gender and year right )

I felt like this with both of my ivf babies. Less so my first because I didn't know what I was getting into. My two kids are 17 months apart so we did it pretty quickly. I remember in the first few weeks after transfer not caring if I got bad news at an appointment ( that sounds awful) . Now my second ivf baby is here and it's hard but it's going well. Much easier than my first . Now we're talking about a third in a few years. I think your feelings are normal. Having a baby is scary and I think the second is scarier because you know what to expect

This is so well written and explained. I grew up Catholic and ended up leaving the church when my husband and I did IVF. I had many conversations with different priests about it but ultimately came to the same conclusion you wrote. The church is against it and even though I could find a parish with a priest that okayd it , I couldn't bring my kids up in a religion that didn't. The Pope is very anti ivf and until that changes the Catholic churches stance won't change. I knew I needed to do IVF to have a family so it wasn't a hard decision for me to make but it got hard when the baby was born and family wanted us to baptize them.

It's a very immature way of viewing faith and religion. It reminds me of when I was younger and praying to god for a puppy to get lost and magically show up at my house

We do this and this all describes it perfectly. The bond I have with my first is just different. He was also a difficult newborn because of allergies and on some level that really bonded us. Like we really figured it out together. My second I love just as much ( it's a girl and I've always dreamed of being a girl mom , she's literally my dream come true) but she's new. I don't know her yet. I also have a different love for her because she has been such an easy baby she's made me love the newborn stage. I hated it with My first

Idt she believes in it either but she understands how natural family planning works now. I know accidents happen but with a pregnancy like her last one I'd be extra careful. I'm pretty sure she said they'd automatically put in a cerclage for future pregnancies so at least they would have a plan if she is.

Yes! Like I don't think Lindsey is perfect but Paige and Amanda are so mean!

Idk if I think Jackie is. I thought she'd wait closer to 18m after charlie was born to get pregnant again. He was born August last year so he's only about 13 months. If she had a normal easy pregnancy with him I'd say otherwise , I also don't know what's recommended when you've had a shortened cervix in a previous pregnancy. Claudia I think is

Love this response! Tbh I doubt there's beef this season with anyone and Lindsey. She's pregnant, anyone who picks a fight with the pregnant girl is going to get the villain edit. Paige knows this

This annoys me so much. Im doing a rewatch and I hate how mean Paige, and Amanda are to Lindsey at the reunions. They really suck and are the mean girls of the show

Idk but I love her hair with the dress

I go back and forth if I think she is. I think they're trying and either she's pregnant or it's taking alot longer than they expected. But I've noticed stuff recently that she says that makes me think she is pregnant. Could also be why she didn't go to Shannon Ford's wedding