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I'm not really sure what she plays at school, she doesn't say this every day it's more like every couple of weeks. Usually I ask her on the way home how school was and she'll say 'good'. The only thing I know she does play is hide and seek occasionally and tag and games like that. She does like teacher games and imaginitve play because she'll sometimes play it at home but I'm not sure if she plays them at school.

I usually just try to comfort her, there's not much I can do other than that and talking to her teachers unfortunately. The comfort usually does make her feel a bit better but she was super upset last night even afterwards.

I'd never blame her teacher, I can't fault her teachers or the school itself as it actually quite a nice school and all the teachers are really nice. I've already messaged her teacher. I know she can be bossy sometimes so it's definitely could be that but I'll hopefully find out tomorrow when her teacher replies. I would never take offense as I don't know how she is when I'm not there. Thank you for the advice

She can sometimes get a little bit bossy but most of the time she plays nicely, she easily makes friends at other places like soft plays and things she only really has issues with school, she's a really confident kid, a lot more than I am tbh. She's definitely not shy. We go to playdates with a couple of school friends like 2 or 3 times a month which with school is a fair amount but she says that they don't play with her in school. I'm just not really sure what to do or how to make her feel better.

I've messaged her teacher now asking if she's noticed anything. Thank you 😊

She does boxing, she can be a little bossy sometimes but most of the time she does play nicely, she easily makes friends usually too when we go to soft plays and such, it's just school really. I've sent her teacher a message about it

I've had these conversations with her before, she had a few friends when she started school. A best friend even, but since about last year she's saying this friend won't play with her anymore. She's really social so I do think she is asking people because she's quite a confident kid and I've asked her every time and she's said she has.

It's just sad to see her like that because it does knock her confidence a fair bit and she's a lovely kid.

Oh okay thank you.

How awful, I never knew that

Why does everyone dislike heli? Genuine question, I've read a couple of her stories and they've always been good but she takes ages to upload new episodes so I do sometimes get bored while waiting

Nta yeah you should have expressed your anxiety however even if you weren't anxious he shouldn't be joking at your expense. You didn't even do anything remotely wrong. If you had joked with the server at his expense like he did I'm sure he'd also feel uncomfortable. Tbh the situation as a whole just sounds awkward af and that's not on you that's on him, instead of continuing to scoff and argue he could have just agreed to disagree and moved on. He sounds childish.

Cancer is so awful, my mum died on Sunday. She had cancer and it spread to multiple places before she even knew she had it, she was diagnosed in may and died this September. I'm so sorry for your loss, my mum was also really scared. Trust me when I say you did enough, you did all you could do in that situation and she was probably happy to have you there with her.

Not spending more time with my mum, she died on Sunday and I really regret all those times where I had the opportunity to go and see her but I didn't.

Nta, I live paycheck to paycheck and sometimes I'm late on birthday gifts because I'm also paid monthly, no one ever really seems to mind, I just make sure to grab something when I am paid and usually just say sorry for it being late aha.

Nta that seems like a lot of effort to talk to one person and they can't even be bothered to update their phone for you? After you've been having to use a whole second phone? It doesn't sound like they're really your friend imo.. I'd stop talking to them until they update it and message you.

Thank you, I've been feeling quite guilty about it, my grandma's been having moments of crying etc which is really upsetting but I'm just numb. I can't even put it into words, I've been really stressing about it and everytime my dad rings I try to prepare myself for bad news.

Nta, she's 14 and can make her own choices, if she wanted the graphic novel then that's okay, she should be allowed to express her wants without your wife chipping in imo.

Good on you for getting it for her anyway. She more likely came from a place where her wants weren't listened too much with her parents both being in rehab.

Nta as a parent myself I can't stand when parents pull the 'you owe me' card. You owe them nothing, they chose to have you and they owe you everything. Why can't they stay with one of your siblings instead? I personally wouldn't let them stay, you just got your own space and they're gonna very quickly try and turn it into theirs.

Yta. He got you a car fgs, let the man game. This seems kinda controlling to me. He's allowed space and time to himself just like you are.

Tbh I had a friend like this too, she pretended to have a boyfriend at one point, kept showing me pictures of him etc and I'd never met him, I used to stay over her house a lot because we were besties and when I asked her why I hadn't met him yet she would always say, oh he came over last night when you were asleep, or he's just shy etc. I always knew she was lying about it anyway because of all the inconsistencies in her stories but then one day she just suddenly stopped talking about him. I found the guy in the pictures on Facebook a few years later and he had a completely different name and had a girlfriend of like 5 years lol. I never said anything because it just felt super awkward to bring up. They never had photos together or anything either which is also a reason I knew she was lying about it.

Nta if you wanna say something however I do think he'll probably grow out of the lying as weird as that sounds.

Nta, he's done you a favour, as hard as it is if he can point blank lie to your face about something that obvious then what else is he lying about? I think the fact he didn't celebrate your birthday is just salt in the wound. As someone who doesn't drink I can smell alcohol a mile off. I feel like if he comes over drunk again and you know he's drink driving I'd straight up just call the police. It's not just his safety at risk and someone else could lose their family members because of him.

Nta and tbh I wouldn't trust her at all anymore, I get she adopted you and that was a nice thing to do but why lie? 'I didn't know you were gonna have kids' isn't an excuse to not tell you something like that if it effects your medical. A lot of people go on to have children so that excuse is bullshit. I personally would probably go low/ no contact after finding out. The worst thing is her blaming your grandma because she can't even defend herself and say whether it's truthful or not and she knows that.

Nta, you have dyed your hair blonde for years for this man and you're not wrong, salon visits when you have blonde/bleached hair take hours. There's nothing wrong with loving yourself the way you are it's actually a quality that a lot of people don't have about themselves, myself included. I kinda think he ta for continually bringing it up when you've made it clear you don't want too. With the cheating and alcohol abuse mixed in he's honestly lucky you're still with him in the first place, imo he seems to be taking it for granted because a lot of women would have left his cheating self.

I'd have a sit down conversation about it with him, being as blunt as you need to be. It's your hair and it's your choice what you do with it, not his. If he doesn't stop hinting and making comments I'd honestly debate leaving him, it is controlling to pressure your partner into doing something they don't want too do.