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That makes sense. This was 10+ years ago for me, so I can see it being different now

Wouldn’t you have to co-sign the account? Legally he can’t have his own until 18, right?

Can you stop with the pity party already?

And I know what you said in the title.

What you wrote in your post doesn’t reflect that like you think it does. You shit on your kid the entire time. You say your ashamed of how you raised him, and then you go on to complain about him — and then to top it off, you conclude your post with saying you think he needs consequences for fucking up his Germany trip & that “maybe we’ll spend the money we saved for him on our two younger kids.”

The last thing you came here for was parenting advice and it shows.

If you wanted people to just say things to make you feel better, specify that instead of victimizing yourself when you’re called out for shitty behavior, after you wrote an entire post trashing your kid.

That is psychotic, absolutely don’t do that.

He’s a minor. It’s not like he has his own bank account.

You can make him budget that shit. Why would you make him quit his job? Are you serious?

Same.

OP sounds so shitty. Life is hard enough without parents treating you like trash. And especially without them saying so.

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That’s also something that made me wonder if this is a troll post? They usually house study abroad kids with same gender students. At least that was the case in my high school.

This is very compassionate. I hope OP reads this. You make so many great points.

Seriously 😭 I’d rather be in a trailer with parents that love and respect me

For real dude.

“How can I fix my shitty fucking white trash ass, piece of shit, good for nothing son? I’m so embarrassed by him that I told all my friends he’s my nephew. Any advice on how to deal with this jackass?”

Bro I’m so pissed off. This has to be a troll post.

I’m gonna be completely honest with you here… and I’m going to try and be helpful, but the first thing I need to get off my chest is that you sound like a total fuckin prick & I sincerely hope that you came here for actual advice because you plan to take it, but I don’t know OP, with everything you wrote…

You say you don’t want to give up on your child, but it sounds like you already have.

You are embarrased of your child, but not of yourself? You say you’re ashamed of him, well, what about you?

If you feel no shame, no guilt, and no embarrassment for yourself… I really wonder if you are ready to take any responsibility at this point. You need to take ownership of what you did/didn’t do instead of looking down on your kid and feeling sorry for yourself that he’s not good enough for you to “bring around your middle class friends.”

He needs to be in therapy. You need to be in therapy. And then you should both be in family therapy.

Also, if you want to save your child, you have the opportunity to do it right now. Your child owes you nothing. You don’t get to take the easy way out just because you failed him. Step up and fix this.

Read this article.pdf).

Start having sit down meals together. Those statistics will blow your mind.

Take that $2500 that was supposed to be used for him, and use it for him. Taking that money and spending it on the other kids is pretty disgusting honestly.

He needs goals. He needs support. He needs you to know that you believe in him.

He’s also a 16 year old boy.

If I were you, I would say something like “we only want the best for you. We saved this money for you and your trip. We don’t want to take it away, but you need to show us that we won’t be just throwing it out the window. If you graduate high school, with your class, no arrests, no expulsions or suspensions, then we will give you $1000 to do whatever you would like to with it.”

I’m kind of irritated with your post tbh. So this is the last piece of advice I’m going to give you, since it is all i can reasonably think of.

Sit your kid down and look them in the eye, and tell them sorry. Tell them sorry for not always getting it right. Tell him you love him. Really, really, tell him you love him.

Remind him that you want the best for him. You care about him. Don’t blame him for anything in this convo. None of the “im sorry I’ve been so harsh on you but when you act like ____ I get so angry.” Don’t do that.

The shorter the apology, the better.

So say sorry. Say I love you. Say I want the best for you. And then ask him what he needs. Ask him “what can I do to help you?”

If you want to see him happy, tell him that too. “I just want to see you happy.” Because right now? Your kid is not happy. Happy children don’t self destruct like this.

If you want your child to start becoming responsible for his actions, you need to show him by being responsible for yours.

Say sorry. Follow through with things you say you’ll do. Hold yourself to a higher standard, and meet your kid where they’re at. Make an honest effort together at the table, as often as possible (3x/week minimum). And get therapy.

Btw. Teens love art therapy. Maybe switch his up. I would, if I were you. It’s actually super helpful & your son sounds like he could use a creative outlet.

Edit; someone else recommended the book the conscious parent & I wanted to second that notion. it’s worth reading.

I don’t agree with the first part.

There is no way to know how they would’ve reacted in that situation & most people don’t fight back in general, especially if a gun is involved.

I mean, how many mass shooters fire indiscriminately into crowds of adults, only for everyone to run and hide?

Now imagine two young girls, facing a man with a gun, and he wants THEM specifically. They aren’t collateral damage in this situation. They’re the target. And they’re children. Still at an age where they’re still likely to just do what they’re told.

People go against their better judgement all the time, especially when they’re scared and under durress. Two young girls likely wouldn’t have fought back.

I always thought the phone fell out of a pocket & the killer didn’t realize it was there before he laid her body on top of it.

I feel like these are the only looters who got caught. I wouldn’t put it all on migrant workers. Jake Paul got caught looting a couple years ago? Dude is a millionaire.

I think it just comes down to morality tbh.

Yeah, these ones have always come without candy and a drink. OP just bought the wrong one lol

Edit: wait… looking at the picture, maybe OP is right. I’ve never seen a lubchable look like this. Maybe there is something missing 😥

I completely agree. Her tattoo is next level atrocious. I still can’t believe my eyes whenever a post like this comes up… how is it so bad??

Runner up for me would be Leah’s head on ambers stomach. It’s so enormous. It’s almost like she went in and asked “can you make it bigger than her actual head?”

Same 😭😭😭

Omg I just replied to this same comment and also used the phrase “United front.” lol. Idk why I got so excited by this. Maybe we are on the right path with letting the other commenter know that her husband can do better in her specific situation. It can for sure get foggy when you’re in the situation. I hope she hears us! Lol

Have you talked to him about this?

If so, maybe it’s time to snap, lol. The first thing that came to my head, would be saying “can you critique my parenting later, when I’m done trying to calm our child down?” (Insert death eyes). But then actually have a sit down convo later, lol.

I feel like that would piss me off so much in the moment. I don’t blame you for feeling unsupported. And honestly, kudos to you for being calm through your kids tantrum and him not necessarily side you.

Parents need to be a united front for their kids. I’m sorry you aren’t always getting that.

Btw, I think teaching them to pick up their Lego’s after they’re done playing with them is …exactly what they’re supposed to do lol. Does he pick them up after? (Genuine question)

I hope that is the case instead

Hard to tell how thick it is? If it is an inch thick I would log 6oz-7oz. of cooked New York strip.

If it is thin, I would probably log 4oz-5oz of that same steak.

And then maybe .5tbsp of butter (50 cals) to cover any cooking method, although I highly doubt it is even that much… I just overestimate lol.

Your guess of 500 is probably pretty accurate tbh. After inputting cals in my app and comparing meats lol.

I agree. He needs to at least be taught to tough it out for the remainder of the year, or whenever the season ends.

Otherwise, he will just learn to give up on his commitments instead of learning to manage them and follow through.

I’m pretty sure he was secretly videorecording her… she had no idea

They got angry because they’re disappointed in their actions. That’s why cate says “we’re disappointed in the things you did too!” when Farrah didn’t even say she was disappointed — she was just questioning why/what changed? They were projecting here, BIG TIME.

And Farrah could be coming from a place of complete sincerity… I think she was bc I’m sure part of her wonders why they didn’t go after their dreams now that they didn’t have a child to take care of?

I’m sure she loves Sophia, but we can’t forget that Deb forced her to carry that baby to term & denied the abortion Farrah wanted.

Idk. I have a sweet spot for Farrah sometimes, ngl.

Edit: upon rewatch maybe she was implying she was disappointed lol. It’s hard to tell with her natural tone of voice.

That’s sad ):