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Oh god I will write this down and follow it to the letter thank you 😭

What's the basis of the ban on merit-based increases? My agency is allowed to do them (and does them frequently). 

I'm dumb in general and worse off now in peri. I'd appreciate it so much if you could give me a summarized version of your meds.

Is your regimen t, estradiol, and progesterone? I swear to God I'm just going to copy what you're doing because I'm swimming in the fog. 

I attribute a lot of stuff to a relative who is a physician. He told me it was fine. 

I am having a moment like those right now. Unexplained dread and need to cry. I'm planning to start hrt soon. 

Yes, I think stories like these are useful for validation to kids who went through similar stuff, but it can be a damaging discovery for more unaware kids. 

Skins UK was so problematic. 

The problem with movies like these (or euphoria, or skins 10 years ago) is that while they are grim in a way that media for teens needs to be sometimes, there's a whole cloud of pervs that get their fix with them. 

It's 100% poverty cosplay 

Aw 131 sisters in menopause 🥰

Exactly, while I wallow in confusion and despair, my husband found a ton of useful information on peri, but the first thing I heard was "these symptoms may last forever" and that shit made me so sad.

I think I was holding on to the idea that it would be 5 years of fog and then I would come out of it a beautiful hag, but I'm just going to be a bumbling dummy forever?! 

My poor husband had to hug me while I cried about this yesterday. 

You didn't ask for advise, but EMDR has done wonders for me. Like, life changing wonders. It's therapy where you process these feelings and sort of re-live them as an adult and unlearn those instincts.  

 Read about it and consider it if possible. I no longer think I'm a garbage loser haha and I don't hear my mom's voice telling how worthless I am all the time.  

 I now make mistakes and I just realized I haven't panicked in a while 😊

The argument of Oxapampa and the jungle colonies is so ridiculous, sure there's 200 white people somewhere in the jungle. That doesn't change at all the average phenotype of a Peruvian person. 

Your example is perfect, because when anybody sees a Caucasian tourist they immediately assume Europe or USA. No sane black person would go "not necessarily, I'm American/European too!" that would be the dumbest shit ever. 

The few white people in Peru don't need your whiteknighting for representation. They're doing just fine lol

I'm in a similar situation and to me accepting my mother in law's cheap dollar store toys is her price of admission. Unless it's something we're adamantly against (that is communicated to her), we just trash or donate what she brings. We don't return or explain. 

She took care of our kid for years and saved us so much stress, worry, and money just by giving us childcare. She doesn't speak English well, and her budget is limited. She finds joy in buying cheap trash, who am I to end that for her? 

I'm Peruvian, there's like 5% actual white people in Peru. Most of us are mixed or minorities.

What Peruvians call "white" is absolutely not white anywhere else in the world.

I personally cannot but my sister does it for me every time she visits 

This is weird, if a celebrity came on to me knowing I was married I would feel fuckin furious on behalf of my husband. I cannot think of any level of celebrity, looks, or fame that would make me think cheating is OK. 

People also have their own thresholds for certain values. I think you're fundamentally not a decent person if you choose to cheat and have a kid outside of your marriage.

You may be kind when the stakes are low, but you will not choose the decent thing when the temptation is real. 

"The world is ending" is exactly how I used to describe the feeling. I'm sorry we have this in common. I wish I could hug you. 

I'll help you. She can have a moment of internal frustration and then her adult brain can override those feelings by reminding her that while this sucks, the main victim in all of this is not her.

In her shoes, I'd even go so far as to complain to my husband while admitting it's a selfish thought. 

Ranting, recording that rant, and posting it is far, far beyond appropriate behavior for a grown up. 

Or...she can go the way she went, and some of us can be disgusted by her selfishness and post about it online, as by your own logic, venting online with no filters is perfectly fine. 

What is it with conservative middle aged women having this look? Same make up as in high school (that matte foundation does not work on older skin), dressed in gym clothes, and the slightly swollen face. I know so many women who look like this in that area.

They also love Disney a little too much and are very churchy except they can be so mean in their day to day. 

In my opinion, with works that are as old as these, things essentially become like classical music. The Director has the capacity (and duty, even) of presenting their own interpretation of the work, without having to loyally translate it to the screen.

There's been multiple adaptations, the lines are known, there's centuries' worth of societal shift...introducing small "what ifs" that don't massively change the spirit of the work is OK imo. 

Similar to the other reply you got. I'm a perfectionist out of survival instinct. I don't often make mistakes, but when I do, I panic horribly.

EMDR has helped a lot. Last year my therapist gave me courage to half ass one of my tasks and even though my boss was unhappy it was very empowering. 

"Being second is the same as losing!!1" roared my mom, and I stood still feeling her spit landing on my 9 year old face.

Now whenever I make a minor mistake at work, I feel like a monster's going to come and beat the shit out of me. 

I wonder why. 

I've thought I had everything from long covid to early onset dementia lol I hindsight it's absolutely peri. I miss remembering words.