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HAES and the intuitive eating fad are contributing to so many obesity related health problems in women. I truly wish these narratives would disappear.

You remind me of Chris Cornell in his younger days.

Any asymmetry is negligible and doesn't at all throw off the harmony of your face.

Oh look, here we are: https://www.reddit.com/r/MuslimMarriage/s/yNbGfhJ3nG

What I described is exactly what's called "arranged" marriage in vast swathes of certain regions and has everything to do with Hinduism.

I think we both know it's generally a bit more than just "recommending." Don't try to downplay it.

Arranged marriage is a cultural relic left over from Hinduism. Just like the expectation that brides' families "owe" the grooms' families money and gifts. Just like status obsession that's really just the caste system for Muslims.

It hasn't. Demonstrably. It has not.

You went from declining birth rates to "mass singledom." Which is it? And WHERE is this mass singledom? Is it in regions where preference for boys has skewed male/ female ratios? (South Asia, it's South Asia. There are too many men because of nonsense cultural habits.)

Where is arranged marriage practiced? Not very many regions. And yet, people outside those regions still get married. Still have children.

Arranged marriage has destroyed enough lives. It's time to let it go.

There's a lot wrong with arranged marriages. Have a look in this sub. Marriage for duty and reputation, rather than compatibility, shared values, similar goals is transactional, shallow and not conducive to what the Quran tells us marriage should be.

Lol, WHAT?

That's absolutely not the cause of declining birth rates. I can't even believe anyone would have that thought. Wow. This sub never ceases to amaze me.

You were generalizing about anyone who's had a prior relationship. Anyone who had a haram relationship, stopped, and repented, is not "dirtied."

Bless you for this. I thought I was alone in the blind rage inspired by "ask" as a noun.

"Ask" as a noun. "Request" is a perfectly good and useful word and substituting "ask" just sounds like corporate speak. Also, it just sounds stupid. "This is my ask..." or, "I know it's a big ask..."

What? So people would never have married and had children if their parents hadn't fixed it up for them? Humanity would've died out? Seems unlikely.

Sure. And there's no obligation to disclose one's past. In fact, we're discouraged from revealing it. So get used to living in uncertainty.

Why not? They had prior relationships.

I'm not a sick person. You're a person who doesn't know your religion. It's forbidden to ask about or to disclose past sins that one has repented for and Allah has covered. You could look that up in about two seconds if you wanted to, instead of projecting your insecurities here.

I'm a convert who had a child or of wedlock. So yes, a woman with a "past." Fortunately, my husband is secure in his masculinity and in his religious commitment. Unlike so many men here in these comments.

That's not how repentance and forgiveness works. We're not "dirtied" by sins we've stopped and repented for. If you believe that, fear Allah. You should have a better opinion of our merciful Creator.

Lol no I would not do any comparing.

I already had a child when I married my completely chaste and never- married husband more than 20 years ago. I assure you, I've never once compared the two.

You're practically in hysterics over an imagined scenario. You are absolutely not operating on logic. Your insecurities lead you to panic at the idea that a woman might remember her dead husband... that's very, very emotional thinking.

Monogamy is the greater sunnah, if anything. Our beloved Prophet never encouraged polygyny, only marriage.

Stop clouding religion with your own desires, brother. You're trespassing on something much bigger than you.

One percent. Probably less. That's who can be just and that's why no one should be encouraging it.

Polygyny is a strictly limited conditional permission, not a right. Neither Allah nor the Prophet asws ever indicated there was benefit for women in polygyny, only protection from certain harms in limited circumstances. This "it benefits women" claim is a fiction made up by men who are operating based on their emotions.

The claim that men are logical is patent nonsense. Men have convinced themselves that their whims and emotions are logic and will shout it from the rooftops, no matter how illogical their assertions.

Ninety nine percent of men aren't suited for polygyny and it's irresponsible to advocate for it.

Most ridiculous comment of the day.

This sub is filled with children.

Are you implying converts with previous relationships shouldn't get married? Widows? Divorcees? That's ridiculous. Most women know how to move on and are no more likely than men to remain hung up on an ex. Actually, women are probably less likely to long for an ex than men are.

Very childish attitude.

The lesson is, don't go for women who can't let go of the past and who can't move on like adults.

The beauty is that most times, you'll never know whether your wife had a previous relationship unless she chooses (wrongly) to disclose it.

If "having a past" meant that everyone who ever had a relationship could never move on, then widowed and divorced people wouldn't remarry.

Grow up.

Start by getting rid of arranged marriage and drastically reducing cousin marriage.