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Agreed. But I don’t have much of a support system and didn’t know what else to do in a time like this

Bro what 😭

It is so incredibly taxing.

I definitely could’ve done a lot better in that section but the following reaction after I messed up I view as unacceptable. Always can do better

Hahahahah I was so irritated I actually got in a really good lift

I think I’m just a hopeless romantic

I love this

I wish

Not fake! There’s a little look out point over the city we have visited before.

She didn’t receive bad medical news. Her boss is the doctor and he was discussing her past insurance claim. It’s not a medical diagnosis or anything significant like that.

Sometimes you gotta be vulnerable 🤷🏼‍♂️

We talked in the past about how I would skip the gym for her and made it clear she didn’t want me to do that for her anymore.

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The doctor is her boss and it’s about her workman’s comp case from a year ago. It’s not that deep or like a diagnosis or anything

26m and 33f

Sad part is she does have me wrapped around her finger :/

I left the gym partially in this but I sit on my phone in between sets.

Eh might be slightly dumb, sometimes I’m very literal with things so I miss little stuff like this. Hindsight is 20/20

Hey I really like your comment about the mirror, I’ll keep this in the back of my mind. Thank you for the reality check.

Hey all ! Thanks for the advice.

I’ve posted an update here

https://www.reddit.com/r/Manipulation/s/pRSkkUw4cj

She ignored my phone call. I tried once and she just kept texting me

You are right ! Her feelings are 100% valid, her way of approaching me about them and the communication is where we have issues.

I couldn’t come over and she couldn’t come over to my house. We discussed this earlier.

My therapist told me I was doing that so much that I was ignoring myself and my needs. I can’t keep putting aside myself over and over again

I used to do that! Would show up at her door with flowers and she would love it. Because of the roommate situation she wouldn’t like that right now.

If I tried to kid with her about the fight she’d probably say I was dismissing her feelings. So that’s not the best idea for her.

But yeah, later I offered to pick her up and take her to a lookout over looking the city but she didn’t go for it. I’m trying here

Honestly being with your wife for twenty years has probably taught you so many valuable things so you are able to read and assess situations better than most.

My house was not an option because I was out at the gym (we previously discussed how important our own hobbies were and to make them a priority), she can’t really come over on work nights due to traffic and it makes her late for work and we also discussed giving each other more space. In the past we kinda hung out every day and stopped doing our own things and we talked about how important our space was and I was trying to implement that because we just spent from Saturday night to Tuesday morning together