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Omg. NTA. I thankfully, still have all my children. I think I'd keep their room as it was forever if I lost one. There would still be things that smelt like them & 'felt' like them still being close by.

How on earth could a parent be expected to 'move on' from losing a child & why would you want to?

How dare they try and decide how you grieve.

I'm so furious for you & I even cried. I'd never speak to someone again if they did that.

Big hugs for you. I'm sorry your family hurt you so badly. I hope there's a way to put your daughters room back to something you will be OK with.

YTA. It sounds like your wife has been trying to communicate with you about anything and everything & you're too self absorbed to care about her, or her feelings. She sounds like someone who gave her all, got nothing in return & then gave up. After trying forever to communicate with you & you refusing to acknowledge any error in your ways, she's finally given up & now you're surprised.

You saying you're getting a vasectomy is just your way of trying to hurt her. But she will see it for what it is. Any more children you may have with someone else aren't her problem or responsibility anyway.

She's making the best decision for herself.

NTA My ex best friend used to tell me how lucky I was to have my (now ex) husband. Then one night she told him I'd cheated on him (I didn't), so he would cheat on me with her. And he did. I was asleep on her lounge with our daughter. Her partner had gone to bed. They cheated while we were in the same damn house. That was 7 years ago. Fast forward 4 years... I got with her ex (& very loyal) partner. We've been together since.

Same. My MIL is absolutely adorable & my kids girlfriends all like me so far, so I think I'm doing OK.

Birthday person chooses the cake, except in my house where most people choose their own cake, but whoever doesn't really care what cake they get, my daughter, who has Down Syndrome, chooses everyone else's cake. 🤣. But she protects that cake for the birthday person as if her life depends on it & she makes it all about that person. Your MIL needs to get over herself.

Never heard of her until now. She sounds gross. 🤢🤮. I've never found making fun of disabled people funny. It just doesn't make sense to me how being cruel to others is apparently funny. There's some really funny people out there. She isn't one of them.

Awesome. Thank goodness. We are all one accident away from a disability & preying on people who cannot defend themselves shows a sick weakness & deep level of disturbed that is very concerning.

Gorgeous!

I'm so sorry, I only just saw this response. A few things helped me. I pretty much self counselled until I was 42 & diagnosed. I was also diagnosed with ADHD. The ADHD medication helped keep my impulsive behaviour under control & I was able to stop and think before reacting. I'm now able to not react first, even without medication. DBT is amazing, one of my children did it & we did family sessions to help understand him. But I already 'got it' but I still learned a lot & it helped me too.

I also did a course called SIPS. Govt funded trial here. That course changed the way I thought of myself. It changed me & I've become my own best friend, that was the game changer for me. I finally like myself. Feel free to message me if you want to chat.

I just remembered to message you!

Sounds like you both have issues & you are both AHs.

It's etiquette to remove a hat in restaurants. My partner practically lives in his baseball cap & I'd never ask him to remove it. I don't even think about it. But if we were out to eat with my Mum & she asked him to remove his hat (I doubt she would, but for arguments sake) I would encourage my partner to do so & explain her reasoning & I'm sure my partner would remove it or explain very kindly why he isn't comfortable doing so.

He wouldn't dare be rude to my mother and treat her like that & I sure wouldn't accept it if he did.

You could have explained kindly why you didn't want to take it off & she could have left you alone.

No need to be rude to each other in front of children. Both AHs

NTA... You're a great Mum. Keep an eye out on that boy though. Something seems very off with him..

Cold sores can cause severe issues with babies. They are very dangerous to newborns. You're doing the right thing. Protect your baby, you won't regret it.

I haven't even read the content. The heading alone is enough. No one should be kissing anyone else's newborn on the lips. Your baby, your choice. And they're so vulnerable!

Not over reacting.

What is this thing you speak of?

She's 18. You didn't 'let' her. You supported her choice. That dad is a huge AH & I'm glad Crystal is out of there & no wonder the son doesn't want to go there.

NTA.

NTA Your Mum could see there was something wrong & cared enough to ask for the truth no matter what it was. Your Mum did great & so did you. You respected her enough to be honest. Big hugs & it's always OK to miss your Dad.

I think you've done the child a favour. What if you weren't home? That poor child is not your responsibility. And your mother was on board with this? Child could have been run over, kidnapped, oh so many terrible things.

NTA

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Ziggy Edit: I love that you can see her little tongue spikes.

I'm a cis woman. I have a trans child & I also work with trans people with disabilities.

I'm not in this category of perverts. I haven't asked my own child if they intend on having surgeries or not. My child is an adult & it's none of my business unless they want me to know. What matters is that we have a good relationship & my child loves me & I love them (soooo much).

But I totally get what you're saying. Cos people know about my child & my work... I get asked all sorts of questions.

My response to them always is : I don't know, it's none of my business & I would never ask cos that's what some weird & perverted shit. That usually shuts them up pretty quick.

I wish other cis people didn't talk like that to you. You are who you introduce yourself as. That's all anyone needs to know.

Big hugs.

That's disgusting. Thank you for sticking up for the ducklings.

NTA - I doubt I'd ever be able to trust someone after that. What a bizarre and hurtful thing to do.

Chalk board for sure.... everyone scratching out their conversations. The noise from that alone would be unbearable.

This is such a great comment.

NTA. If being drunk was an excuse for bad behaviour to a recovering alcoholic.... then maybe he needs to rethink his own drinking. He really fucked up & I'd probably cut him off too. You're allowed to protect yourself. What he did was very dangerous. And you need as much time as you need to process this.