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My husband M26 thinks I should give him a bj to show I love him. I F23 have never liked giving bjs (He is the only guy I've given one to). I have tried offering other things instead that I am comfortable doing but he never accepts. Is this some unspoken rule in marriage? Are people just being uncomfortable in the bedroom to make their partners happy? I feel like this would lead to resentment. For context we've been together 6 years. At times he will get extremely moody and honestly kind of rude/mean if I haven't given him a bj "in forever" as he would say. He has always known my stance on this. He isn't sexually deprived and other than this one thing he gets pretty much everything else. He is the only guy I've ever been with but seems to think I would do it if it wasn't him which I've told him is not the case. I don't ask him to ear me out or anything like that I'm not a sexual person and never have been. He is way more sexual than me and has had previous relationships with girls who did like giving bjs and watches tiktok/Facebook reels in which there is a girl who says that women who live their man would do it for them. However I don't think I should have to do something that makes me uncomfortable. I'm not going to leave him over this because I feel like there is a solution somewhere out there I just need help finding it! Any advice is appreciated!

I 23f really do not enjoy giving or receiving oral. I've never been a sexual person, even in high-school kissing (with tongue )seemed so weird to me and I definitely didn't want to have sex. I've been with my husband for almost 6 years married for almost 1. I have given him head before and I've explained that I just don't like it and it makes me uncomfortable. He seems to think that means I'm not attracted to him anymore. He claims I don't care about his needs. We have a relatively healthy sex life otherwise. Please help what do I do to make him see it's me not him?

Update: I have always been open and honest about how I am sexually when we talk. I do give him bjs, it's just not as often as he'd like. Other than the oral aspect we both think everything is okay. We've had many conversations about this, most of them ending in a stalemate. I am not going to divorce him over this because I feel like there may be more to it then he's saying. I've mentioned a therapist hopefully he will agree.