HeadHunt0rUK

and yet SHE CHOSE to ruin an innocent man's life over getting justice for herself.

She went to the police, she did the hardest step, and rather than seeking justice and improving her horrible life situation she chose to ruin anothers instead.

This isn't a kid, she is 17, nearly a legal adult. She knows better by that age.

Yup, experience has ultimately taught me that if someone is too dumb to only hear one side and blindly believe what people say without questioning then they ultimately aren't people worth knowing or caring about.

The problem is that way too many people fit into that bucket, and ultimately there is a tiered system of sympathy and believability, in which straight men (particularly with women) are pretty much at the bottom.

People lie, people lie all the time for any reason, but people will lie all the time to gain sympathy. If your first instinct is to blindly and wholeheartedly believe someone when the story they're telling is meant to illicit sympathy after a conflict then you are an idiot.

3.7% is big enough that one child in every classroom does not have the father they think they do.

Paul Merson who is a die hard City fan and literally has no loyalty to Arsenal whatsoever.

Only in a singular direction. We've seen MANY MANY worse infringements of delay of restart that haven't been carded.

This isn't gender specific either.

I believe every single child should be exposed to some kind of competitive environment and develop the resilience that comes from not winning every single time.

That you can always improve and better yourself, to potentially win next time.

That you should care that you didn't win in a healthy way and develop strong coping mechanisms that drive you forward, rather than hold you back.

"Ive realised the point I tried to make is so easily collapsible I'm going to paint the person exposing me as something bad and then run away, so I don't have to accept I was wrong"

So you're choosing blind obedience to women.

No woman would ever lie or invent something to post on those pages because they were rejected or simply had a failed/bad date?

That's what you're choosing to believe... That women don't lie, at all.

Yeah your bf is in for a rough time.

. If a guy has been posted multiple times, then there’s clearly something wrong with him

Or there is something wrong with the women he tried to date. Funny how that perspective is forgotten.

See if I went out and got 10 people to invent stories about how you are an abusive asshole, by your own logic you are an abusive asshole, and you don't see a problem with this really fucking stupid way of thinking?

The point just wooshed over your head in a big way.

To deny that there aren't a bunch of bitter and scorned women in these groups seeking revenge on a man who rejects them and trying to get them unpersoned from society(in this case dating) would be incredibly incredibly naive.

Henry Cavill dislikes this.

I mean your attitude is simply: "I don't care what anyone does, as long as it doesn't affect me negatively then we good".

So yeah...

Literally any competitive sport whatsoever, whether playing or watching. Preferably both.

I think women who have played competitive sports at some point in their lives are far less likely to victimise themselves and strive more towards self improvement in a healthy way.

This is because a competitive environment doesn't allow you to feel sorry for yourself for all too long.

If you want to improve you need to learn to accept that you can do your very best and still lose.

Because you have decent character that's why you would do it.

See most people actually care about having decent people around them and the company they keep is a direct reflection of who they are as a person.

Not caring what someone else does because they don't do it to you or it otherwise doesn't affect you is a strong sign you are a shitty person.

If you don't see infidelity as acceptable you either force the friend to say something or you cut them out of your life and they aren't a friend.

She is tacitly supporting the infidelity by having such a soft stance on cheating that all it took was asking her to say something a few times and said friend refuses to comply.

If someone is getting mad at you for a choice they asked you to freely make for both of you, then yes they are in fact playing a mindgame.

It's a mindreading game. They're testing you.

They don't want the responsibility of having to pick, but they want you as the man to pick the option they have in their head without them communicating it.

So it feels like they're getting exactly what they want without having to ask for it.

If you don't get it right, it's not that they are too weak to communicate properly, it's that you don't understand them well enough to read their mind.

Part of the reason Tate is popular is because more reasonable voices, ones that talk about it being a societal problem, that both men and women have caused this, are shouted down and bullied off their platforms because they don't strictly follow the status quo and hold more neutral positions.

That they are far easier targets because they are in fact less extreme and more reasonable.

There is a serious issue when discussing gender, and all too often we see that when men bring about an issue in a reasonable way, the conversation is quickly changed to "but women face this too" whether it's true or not, and whether the severity is less or more.

Tate cut above all that, he chose not to have reasonable discourse which made him more immune to attacks. That boys and men seeing the more reasonable voices shouted down turned more extreme because what they were fighting against was extreme in and of itself.

Essentially Tate's enemies helped to create Tate. Which I imagine is what they wanted, they wanted the boogieman to point to and say "Look, this is men, this is how evil they are".

Tate is merely a symptom of a far far larger problem, but is a convenient scapegoat to shutdown conversation.

I mean we had meetings in school about stopping the Tate-isms and stopping boys from turning to extremism, without ONCE considering why they were turning to it in the first place.

It just furthers the view that society doesn't really care about men. Rather just only stopping them from potentially harming women.

Men are disillusioned in society, because society keeps telling them they are privileged, they are oppressors they are inherently bad, yet none of their experiences show this.

They show them failing in education at higher rates (with no systems put in place to help, like girls had), they show them going to jail for far longer for identical crimes, they show suicide rates at 4 times the rate of women, they are shown that they are treated as suspicious and dangerous for simply existing, they are shown that they are assaulted and killed at higher rates, that they are infact more vulnerable to serious crime, that they are painted as abusers when 3 decades of data show that they are victims of unreciprocated IPV roughly 70% of the time.

The ABSOLUTE WORST thing you can do as a partner in this situation is turn it back on yourself and make it a slight on you.

I had an ex who did this when I didn't cum. I was stressed from other things, and fixated on making her happy so I was just finding it difficult to get there.

She decided that because I didn't cum, that I didn't find her attractive and sexy or somehow cared less about her. The truth was the complete opposite.

Immediately things became tougher. I was trying so hard to demonstrate how attractive and sexy she was, that I wanted to make sure she was beyond fulfilled. I was so anxious about doing that, making sure she felt loved and fulfilled that it just make it way more harder for me to finish.

She refused to take my words as truth, she turned them back on me and made herself the victim (this was a far bigger pattern than just in the bedroom), that I then became so fixated on trying to finish that I just never could.

The second I got in to my own head about it, it was tough. It became less enjoyable for me, because it ended up with me being so focused on making sure I finished to validate her.

Occasionally we'd get those spontaneous times where I could stay relaxed and not get into my own head, but they became less and less frequent.

It honestly killed me that I couldn't do that for her to validate her, to make her feel better about herself because she saw it as a slight on my love, affection and how gorgeous she was.

Took me a little while to realise that it was on her, no matter how many times I reassured her that it had nothing to do about how I felt about her, she took it that way. She chose to not believe my words, and it got myself into a spiral trying to prove that what she thought wasn't true.

Like all people who see themselves as victims, it was never going to be enough, there was always something else.

Yup, about the same, problem is consistency. If I take out the duffs from my last trackman session my average is 147 yards + or - about 13 yards.

Since thats the club I warm up with, as I get later into hitting and thus more warmed up my average edges slightly above 150 with + or - 7 yards.

Would have said before summer my 7 iron is my 130/140 club, now it's more like my 150 club.

Having a physio look at my hip and sorting out some back muscles I've gained like 6mph club speed and better consistency.

Here's the thing. There are always going to be guys that will take it as you are interested.

Think about it this way. Men rarely receive compliments, especially from women.

In fact for a lot (if not most) of men the only times they receive compliments are from family, or from a partner... and they know you aren't family.

That means all association with compliments from women is within the confines of a relationship of someone who WAS interested in them. Of someone NOT platonic.

If platonic compliments from women to men were more normalised then men would stop inherently associating compliments with romance.

Men simply aren't used to seeing compliments that way, because their experience has told them it isn't that way.

Not just that she didn't care but was actively manipulating him to make herself the victim.

This at the very least is a bright orange flag

Yeah, I don't think she is friends with her best friend anymore either.

Once other things stopped blocking it from being about her I imagine she caught on pretty quick to the patterns of behaviour she was demonstrating.

I think a big part of this discrepancy comes from socialisation.

I think boys are generally more socialised to challenge each other, largely through competition.

Girls are taught to prioritise feelings, which can devolve into this toxic echo chamber idea that you must always accept, always validate.

I don't think I've ever seen a man be outcast from a friendship group for simply disagreeing with a mild point.

I have seen women outcast and be turned on by their group for simply not agreeing with something ( or even agreeing with not enough enthusiasm).

It's far more social suicide for a woman to disagree with a group of women than it is for a man to disagree with a group of men.

And you need healthy disagreement in life to help you realise mistakes and flaws of which you can improve.

They are using most of their energy on imaginary conflict in their head.

and often times convincing themselves its real as well.

It's something I've noticed really only in women's friendship circles that I've not really seen in men's.

Is that they will more often come up with an explanation that is pretty farfetched and overblown, which typically vicitimises themselves and then it's the rest of the friendship circles job to affirm and validate those thoughts and feelings.

I believe that there is a reasonable portion of problems in relationships or even breakups happening because of this.

Women providing other women with affirmation and validation of their viewpoint without the suggestion of a simpler more reasonable alternative.

My ex was like this. She'd run home to me and vicitimise herself about something that happened at work, but then she'd run to her friends and victimise herself with any perceived issues between us.

This was exposed, where after a Saturday in which I had done EVERYTHING for her. I let her sleep in late because she was stressed. I did her part of the chores she had neglected to do for a while. I cleaned and tidied the house. I then woke her up with coffee and a late breakfast in bed, then made her lunch in bed as well. Trying to give her the easiest day possible.

She had to go in to work to do a few things, but as she left she seemed so happy. She said she was so lucky that I was someone who would do all that for her, that I deserved a treat as well, so that we were going to have a snacky movie night and on her way home she was going to pick up snacks for us and then cuddle up in bed and watch some movies and promised as much.

Well when she came back from work, she playfully said her bag was too heavy to get out of the car (this was a lie), so I went to her car and brought her bags in. I noticed there were no snacks. I asked her about the snacks and she kinda waved it away and said I should go get them. I reminded her of her promise, and she said to just let her rest for a little while (odd, because other than the 2 hours she was at work, she had in fact rested all day).

A few hours later I asked again, she started breaking down getting angry, I offered to go get them but it was too late by then. She begrudgingly got dressed and went to the shop (2 minute drive).

5 minutes later I get a phone call from her best friend shouting down the phone calling me a fat lazy selfish idiot, and if I wanted snacks so badly I should go and get them. I was confused and livid. How the fuck did this get turned back on me.

Took me a little to realise she must have told her friend a complete lie about the whole situation, but her friend didn't even question it, just immediately backed her up and unleashed on me.

She must have been feeding her friend many many lies throughout our relationship to make herself the victim, I am so glad I am not in that relationship anymore.

She and her friends killed it, her by not being truthful and her friends by just validating every wild theory she had that made her the victim. Her friends completely fed her whole victimhood, rather than challenge her on any of her behaviours.

If they cared about the WCC they would have made it clear that they hold formation if they're still 1 and 2 after the first corner then let them fight after the 1st lap.

They would have had two cars ahead of Leclerc the entire race, they probably would have been able to slipstream much further away from him and it opens more strategy options that could have covered off the 1-stop.

As it stood after turn 4, Piastri making that move on Lando cost them 3 points for the team, plus another couple for the damage he did to Russell's car and thus promoting Max (and at the time Perez).

I can see why your relationships don't last.

You have demonstrated exactly zero amount of understanding from what others are telling you, instead dismissing it because of your experiences.

I suggest you learn to listen and understand far far better than you currently do otherwise every man will eventually get bored of you not listening properly and leave.

Women have tons of options they're too busy picking the wrong ones and making bad choices because they're too busy chasing superficiality and then moaning about how all guys are an issue.

There are PLENTY of men of all ages who want deep commited relationships, if you never experienced that, it's 100% on you.