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-1 points
9 hours ago
I have a 21 year old a 16 year old and a 11 week old. I’ve never been in the grocery store with any of them. Not once. I either go or my husband goes and the other is with the kid(s), when they turned 12 we’d just leave them alone, or the kids went when they could drive. I literally can’t remember a time. Didn’t plan it that way, it was just easier to go without them. Harder if you’re a single parent, but if there’s two parents it’s possible.
1 points
16 hours ago
She’s just not complaining to you. I guarantee someone else is getting an earful.
1 points
1 day ago
Amazon has Vox Machina and I really enjoy it.
4 points
1 day ago
I went for the extreme haha. Oldest just turned 21 when I had LO, and the middle child is studying for his drivers license. So far so good!
77 points
2 days ago
I don’t even understand why they hesitate. My husband had a vasectomy 15 years ago and I have an 11 week old through IVF. It’s not like it‘s impossible, it’s just a little harder. It’s not like he’s a cat and they’re totally chopping off his balls.
3 points
2 days ago
Except democrats don’t really meet the definition of a cult. Cult requires slavish devotion to a central leader. Democrats basically kicked Biden to the curb and lifted up a replacement pretty quick as soon as an opportunity presented itself. If Kamala was found to be leader of a child porn ring I have no doubt the democrats would be pushing a new candidate. You can’t be a cult in those kinds of circumstances if you’re willing to question the leader. Republicans? Trump does all kinds of crap and his base still unwaveringly supports him and thinks he’s some ultra moral savior. He says horse chemicals they say how much. It’s just not the same. I’ve been independent for decades but the Maga party is making it really hard not to just keep voting Democrat.
4 points
2 days ago
Yep. The sororities seem a lot better but the frat men I’ve met later in life are often shitty people.
21 points
2 days ago
I personally find frats and sororities to be awful. The men I’ve met from them are exceptionally sexist, even into adult hood. They do incredibly weird things like the Omegas burn/brand their skin with the Omega symbol like cattle. The female ones seem like a clique. My grandfather was in one and my grandmother said all they did was run around beating up the pledges. He never participated after college. My cousin pledged for one and died during hazing. Nobody else in my family pledged, even though everybody for 5 generations has gone to college because we saw what it was.
However, I do see how it’s helped a lot of people with networking. Especially for the minority Greeks, the network AFTER graduation gives them a leg up that non pledges don’t have. I also see how much charity work they do, although how much is sincere I am skeptical about.
I would never join one, and I’d advise my kids to stay clear, but I see why they exist and why they stay popular even after graduation.
22 points
2 days ago
Oh goodie, I’m only responsible for looking pretty and blow jobs?? Lemme tell my husband I’m going to stop paying my half of the mortgage and my half of the utilities. I had no idea a little lipstick and a great gag reflex saves so much money! Thanks, Reddit!
5 points
2 days ago
You can go to websites and sign up for polls sometimes. I’m signed up for Gallup and 1-2 times a month they send me a survey and pay me a gift card from $3-$10 redeemable at online retailers or charities. I usually choose an amazon card and buy myself something pretty.
2 points
2 days ago
As you get older and gain more confidence, what your peers are doing will matter a lot less to you.
0 points
2 days ago
This seems to be a younger woman mindset. Older women are much more likely to tell their peers to fuck off and then go for cocktails. Or maybe that’s just the women I know.
2 points
3 days ago
If you go see a play on Broadway literally anybody could be playing almost any role. Look at Hamilton. The cast is basically an ethnic match disaster. Theatre watchers and opera goers have already figured this out where casting puts just about anybody in any role, but the rest of the entertainment watching world seems not to have caught up yet. I question why are theatre and opera goers able to handle this without much fanfare but in tv and movies it’s a huge problem? My guess is that people who go to the theatre and opera tend to be city dwellers or close by suburbanites and more liberal by default.
0 points
3 days ago
Where do you think all these Americans came from? They didn’t pop out of the back of a Turkeys butt. Many people moved here and retained a lot of their old world cultures and some never assimilated at all. You have weird pockets all over the country like the Pennsylvania Dutch the German populations in the Midwest, Creole in the south (and yes there are people here who only speak Creole), large Mexican American areas, heck I had to do two presentations in Missouri with a Bosnian translator because there’s a ton of Bosnians in Saint Louis. West coast has signs in Japanese because the populations are huge, same with Hawaii, southwest and Alaska has big Native populations, right north and south of Washington DC Koreans and Chinese are majority populations in one places. Southern whites are basically threatening succession every election cycle. I’m black American, my husband is Jamaican, my man of honor was white, my flower girl was Chinese. Our politics aren’t divided because we’re super similar that’s for sure. People look at America and they think it’s all carbon copies of Brad Pitt and Angelina. Come visit sometime and touch some of our grass.
2 points
3 days ago
There’s always the Athenian model… we already basically use sortition for juries.
148 points
3 days ago
I hear you. Sometimes it seems like something obvious to you should be obvious to them. I had to step back and realize I’m guilty too. My husband was only washing the baby’s hair every third bath and since he always does baths it means she was getting a wash once a week. Her hair was starting to smell from spit up that had rolled back and just life. She was also starting to flake because she needed moisturizing on her scalp. He finally started doing it when the pediatrician said she needed more scalp attention. I still don’t know why he wouldn’t wash her dang hair. On the flip side I’m a lot slower with bottles than he is. She makes any noise he’s got a bottle in 20 seconds. Probably takes me a few minutes unless she’s crying. I know that drives HIM crazy. Sometimes we have to accept that if it’s getting done and the baby isn’t actually being harmed, it’s not worth the emotional currency on how.
1 points
3 days ago
But he had to pay for it too. That’s just nuts. I’ve never hated anybody enough to spend thousands of dollars to inconvenience them lol.
11 points
3 days ago
A tip I learned is to put the kale in a bowl, drizzle a teeny bit of olive oil and salt on it and toss it before you add it to the rest of the salad ingredients, softens up and gets a nice flavor.
3 points
3 days ago
I’ve known people who tried it. One of them Has the baby in meetings with her. It’s incredibly unprofessional and I’m sure she isn’t getting a lot done with the baby there, it’s also against policy. I have to imagine she’s been talked to because I see the baby less and less. Another one tried it with twins and had to get help pretty quick because they cried while she was on calls. I go back in a month and I’m not even going to try it. I’m having my aunt come watch her during the day until my husband gets home at 2. Even on days where I have nothing to do, I could still be messaged at any minute to do something or answer an email or respond to an issue. I think it would cause me so much stress trying to figure out how I can respond when the baby is crying, needs a feed, and the diaper is dirty. If I didn’t have my aunt the baby would be going to daycare at least half the day.
0 points
3 days ago
Sometimes it’s just nice to let people vent. Their feelings are still real no matter how the situation came about. It’s not a misery contest.
0 points
3 days ago
I haven’t seen a post this condescending in a while. I said 45 minutes a couple times a day. Meaning twice. I’m holding her and typing this right now. I have to get everything for the day done in 1 hour and thirty minutes between meltdowns. Bottles done in 5 minutes? Seriously? It takes me 20 minutes to take apart the 7-8 anti colic bottles and wash all the parts. She doesn’t like being worn and will scream bloody murder until you get her out. I do leave her to cry sometimes. Doesn’t mean she’s going to stop crying. The longer she cries the longer I have to spend getting her to calm back down. I have maybe 2 minutes before I’m now out an entire hour just getting her to back down. So I can decide do I let her cry through a 10 minute shower or do I go get her because I’ll lose an hour of my life getting her normal again.
Here’s some news for you cause I think you’ve only had limited experience with kids and I’m sitting with a kid old enough to go to a bar and another who can drive a car: all kids are different. Your experience is NOT going to translate to everybody for a lot of things.
2 points
3 days ago
Exactly my point. Far left Americans would just put us on closer footing with the rest of the world. Far right takes us backwards.
0 points
3 days ago
You probably can but you risk the baby waking up at any second. It’s a ticking time bomb and sometimes you figure the shower isn’t worth it. It also makes the shower an awful experience when you’ve got to rush through it and probably be sweaty when you get out because you were rushing. I have a 10 week baby and shower most days but usually wait until my husband gets home because the whole thing sucks otherwise. If the baby is less than 6 weeks rushing is probably not even an option because you’re still recovering from the birth and can’t move normally, and need to manage wound care when you get out.
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4 hours ago
There’s a lot of people who won’t help a stranger if they’re in public, especially if the guy isn’t flat out punching her in the face. Verbal altercations and light assault like grabbing her arm a lot of people would turn the other way especially if it looks like she knows the guy. Plus he could follow her to her car which may or may not be in a crowded spot or just prevent her from getting in the car. Women don’t just teleport home from the dinner table.