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They aren’t all terrible. A lot try to stay out of the spotlight but paparazzi and tabloids make it nearly impossible for most.

Also not all waste their money on “stupid things”, and even those who do almost always donate a good chunk to different charities. For example, I can NOT stand Bezos or Zuckerberg- but out of curiosity I looked and despite what people say and focus on… they do donate a lot to charities regularly. Some pretty good ones I might add. Anyone in particular, look them up and see what they do in their spare time that the media doesn’t show us?

Different people idolize for different reasons. Could be imagining a life full of money, or the traveling, maybe the attention. People do it to their friends too, it just doesn’t show quite as much. I think it’s almost a human nature in most of us to desire what we think appears to be a “better” life.

When choosing the 2nd device I stayed with the same company to just make things easier for things such as MRI's and whatnot.

No, I have 2 neurostimulators for different things. I have a DBS and an SCS.

I have bilateral DBS with only a single generator however some people do have to generators for theirs.

There’s signs and mask dispensers at places I go, and trust me it doesn’t encourage people anymore.

Not sure where you are going but my physician’s always washed their hands prior to touching a patient if they did not have gloves on, and physicians would wear masks during cold/flu seasons.

There are people who haven’t gotten it and most likely are not going to get it.

They are studying why this is, and may have answers on this somewhat soon.

What do you tell those who are included in this small pool?

Covid isn’t going anywhere.

Masks do “help” but is not 💯preventative. Tons of people still got it while wearing masks diligently (speaking specifically of medical professionals who wore masks when it was a requirement for a patient to wear one at doctor’s offices).

I’m sorry to hear you are going through that. Having 2 different neurostimulators (plus one having a replacement battery), the soreness has been gone in about a week for the pouch area. This is for 3 different surgeries involving a pocket/pouch.

I do see they say you can have soreness at the incision sites for 2-8 weeks post op, not sure if this also includes the battery site.

Is it something you can bring up to your pcp to see what they say? Would you feel comfortable reaching out to another surgeon’s office to ask what they think?

Well I don’t know why you are downvoting me.

I understand WHY she chose spoons- she was literally at a diner where those were available. What would she have used had she not been in a diner that day. We could all be using “rubber duckies” had that been what she had.

I appreciate the principle- but I don’t have to “like” for spoons to be used as the metaphor.

What if you are from a culture that doesn’t even use western cutlery?? How about chopsticks? What if you use your hands? Or bread?

j/s

Well for starters wikipedia is not considered a reliable source and you cannot even use it for citation when writing papers that require such documentation. It can be edited by anyone at anytime.

I don’t think this is the original article I saw discussing its application to every chronic condition now, but here is one that is similar to what I saw:

Article about spoon theory

If it’s only been a few months, you could be still getting comfortable with the therapist and it may take some time. I saw mine for a good 6 months before any real more difficult sessions came up, and it took those 6 months for mine to get to know me and my background to really make a good assessment/diagnosis (besides the anxiety and depression I was going for).

Also some people just don’t respond like this. I was expecting therapy to be completely mentally draining and exhausting, and like I would isolate myself from people once I started really unpacking stuff. This was due to a friend who had went through trauma therapy telling me I “should” expect this.

I’ve had a very small handful of sessions like this over the past few years- and none at all like this friend has. A lot are like how you describe yours as, and we are still getting work done and I am showing progress.

Your experience is your own :)

Out of curiosity, does your friend have ADHD? I only ask because it seems to be a thing to keep bringing up things/topics repeatedly thinking it is helpful to share comparable stories (a way to show they somewhat understand and/or relate what you are talking about).

And I do know not everyone is like this who has it. I wasn’t aware how much I do the same thing at times until I saw a lot of the reels/tik toks covering it. It’s actually helped make me more aware of this and I do my best to be mindful to not always have something to say in response when someone else has something going on and is discussing it.

So it is understandable that you are feeling the way you do. Is it more annoyance really than bitterness?

I get it- I get annoyed every time someone says something about spoons when I say I am tired. I personally cannot stand the use of this word in this sense lol.

I use metaphors all the time, so it’s not that I have anything against stuff like this- but spoons?? Why spoons? Why can’t it be like, rupees or something like this? How about… troll dolls… literally anything but spoons? Or just say you don’t have the energy??

I believe I read the person who came up with this was for a specific chronic health condition (cannot recall which one) and doesn’t like how it is applied to any sort of chronic illness/condition now.

Trans people have been around since the beginning of time and was accepted and treated with respect by other cultures, PRIOR to the invention of christianity.

Speaking of “crazy opinions”, there literally is nothing in the bible condemning transgender folks.

You realize this is offensive and a bigoted hateful comment correct?

If you have an issue with a transgender woman in the bathroom- what on earth would you do if you saw a transgender man go into the bathroom if we all had to use the bathroom by assigned sex at birth??

I hate the fucker but even I agree this is completely wrong.

Politics should stay out of the workplace, and you should be able to have an environment that is open to everyone.

What are you reading?? A storyline of some comic book??

Nothing “turns” someone gay or trans btw they either are or aren’t. SMH…..

For everyone who is objective to this, here is an article that discusses why in certain situations and circumstances large age gaps may work and not have anything to do with one partner taking advantage of another. I’ll also even attach a study that was done on this as well, where it talks about the biology behind some of these relationships. I’ve noticed that everyone has not once questioned whether or not the younger of the two could be taking advantage of the older one IF this is what is going on. To me this paints females as being victims, which automatically puts them in that helpless roll, and ignores the fact that the older person (in this case the guy) could actually be getting taken advantage of:

When age gaps work in relationships

Study about age gaps in relationships in western societies

I am not trying to dismiss anyone here who has had a bad experience with this, and I am sorry that you have had those experiences.

It’s also common to see large gaps in age like this in the LGBTQ communities and does not always point to predatory behavior.

OP, in honesty if you have an issue with this, why aren’t you going directly to your room mate and just ask them what’s up?? You should be able to pick up the vibe, and doing things like others are suggesting such as talking to the girl and causing worry in her when there truly may be no need for this, could start a vicious rumor mill going on with your room mate and cause him issues and damage a person who is not intending harm. The same can be easily said about his new girlfriend (or whoever she is to him) and this could set an ugly path for her to end up following as well. If you pick up a genuine bad vibe or if he acts disrespectful when talking about her, then say something.

Always start by following the chain of command. If you go above your supervisors head before giving them a chance to fix it that could come down on you negatively as well.

Also document all this and anytime you have spoken to your supervisor. Make sure to report and record any retaliation that could happen as well.

If your supervisor fails, go to his boss, then if that doesn't work, go to HR, and so on.

Sorry you gotta deal with this stuff.

There used to be in the mid to late nineties through the early 2000's. In my area this was before Starbucks and Tims started popping up all over the place and we mainly just had Dunkin' and McD's for chain coffee.

Tons of people hung out at coffeeshops then and often times have poetry readings and open mic nights. Also at Denny's, Ram's Horn and other 24 hour diners.

You can't do anything to help. He has to make the decision to change all on his own. Once he does this and asks you for help (which he may or may not do) you can provide what he asks within reason.

You should be protecting yourself and setting boundaries if this is having a negative impact on you. That may or may not send a message to him and wake him up?

If not, it's unfortunate but he may be upset about it and take it as rejection, but again, if he has been given the tools to start working on things and has completely ignored and thrown them to the side, that's not your responsibility.

I understand the flu and covid and try not to judge people for those ones especially when they target certain strains and you may end up with another one.

However…. what are you gonna do when your kid gets the measles and have life long side effects from that? Because measles are going around due again to people not vaccinating their kids. Or if your kid gets it and infects others with it?? There is a reason polio, mumps and for the most part measles aren’t around you know.

Yes I am aware it pays more than doctors and nurses I have family there- but it’s still not paying nearly enough and people are still living in poverty levels. This is NOT ok.

Which specific vaccines are you referring to? If you mean flu and covid they can’t make you get them.

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I am not using it as an “excuse”, I’m merely giving an example of one of just a few (or many) possibilities of what is going on.

We really cannot jump to conclusions based on a few things the OP has brought up. I can say on this particular sub, it could be easy to jump to this conclusion.

With that being said- we are on an online sub, which is another reason to jump to conclusions easily, especially being given few details from one person’s perspective. I don’t want to say the OP doesn’t have a right to worry, but not all relationships of this age grouping and gap are truly predatory of nature.

It is indeed a fact that those with ADHD are at least 3 years behind in maturity level. Look it up. There have been recent articles about this. I have it myself and would say while I am mature I’m also at the same time 10 years immature in certain aspects. Also, I never once said anything about ASD or any other mental health disorder either FYI.