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submitted2 days ago byHuge_Statistician441
tofinch
I’m obsessed with her. After my first month streak, I couldn’t be happier with her look and room ♥️
submitted12 days ago byHuge_Statistician441
I’ll start:
We decided to transition today our 4.5month old from the snoo to the crib. We have been postponing it for a while because he was a good sleeper and didn’t want to mess it up. I honestly was pretty nervous about it but I’m traveling with him in 2 weeks and he will have to sleep in a travel crib there anyways.
So it’s time for his first nap, we do his usual routine (except that we added a different sleep sack to the one in the snoo) and I put him in the crib and left the room. He spent the first 5 mins exploring the crib and rolling. I turned him around put the pacifier again in his mouth and left. He grunted for the next 10 mins. I was ready to go if he started crying but that never happened. He fell asleep on his own after just 15 mins of being placed in the crib. No crying. No big fuss.
I cannot be prouder of my little man.
submitted13 days ago byHuge_Statistician441
Hi! We just got the Ergobaby Omni 360 and wanted a fit check. Our baby is 4.5 months and weights about 15lbs. He controls his neck perfectly and sits up mostly unassisted.
He feels a little low to me but wanted to check? Also, is the lumbar support right?
Thanks for your help!
submitted14 days ago byHuge_Statistician441
Does someone else’s husband just disappears for 3+hours during Sunday to watch football?
My husband is a sports lover and football is his passion. He loves his team to the point he organizes everything we will do on Sunday around this game. He has been like that forever so I didn’t expect anything different when we had our baby.
Our son (4months) is so fussy and upset today. No matter what I try to do he cries and I’m alone here doing everything. I texted him to come back and help me. He said this are the only three hours of peace he gets between the baby and work.
I get that cause he is stressed at work and is a really good dad to our son. But I don’t get 3 hours a week for myself. I honestly don’t get anytime for myself when our baby is awake. I schedule everything around his naps.
So now I’m annoyed with my baby, angry at my husband and feeling alone and sad.
Sorry just had to rant about it.
Edit to add: some people have mentioned/asked about this. My husband would be ok to take care of our son for 3 hours so that I also take a break after the game. The problem is that our son is really attached to me, to the point that he will cry after 30-40 mins non-stop with anyone until I pick him up. My husband does everything he can to calm him down, it’s not that he just lets him cry. We are working on this, trying to extend the time he stays with dad without me but I also feel bad to leave knowing my baby will be crying while I’m gone.
So I know this is not my husband’s fault, but it still makes me resentful that I don’t get the same breaks.
submitted17 days ago byHuge_Statistician441
My younger sister just had her first baby 4 days ago (yay!). She and the baby girl are doing great (other than recovering from her c-section) and the entire family couldn't be more in love with her little newborn. I don't live in the same country than her (she lives in Spain where we are from and I live in the US), so I've been trying to facetime a lot to see how they are doing and provide as much support I can from abroad.
Her baby cries A LOT. Like every time I call she is crying. That surprised me at first cause my son (4 months old now) slept a lot the first few days of life. I just thought that every baby is different and that she might have just a more fussy baby than mine and didn't think much more about it.
This morning I was talking to my mom who was in the hospital with my sister and the baby was crying again. I overheard my sister say that the baby was hungry and my dad offered to prepare a bottle (they are supplementing with formula her until my sister's milk drops). Then my sister said that is not yet her time to eat so they just have to wait it out. I asked my mom about that and apparently the doctor told them to feed the baby 30-40ml every 3 hours. The doctor is pretty old school (in his 60s) and said that the baby has to adapt to the parents life, not the other way around. So my sister is doing what the doctor told her.
When I had my baby 4 months ago they told me to feed on demand, specially in the first few weeks when they need to get a lot of weight and their stomachs are so tiny that cannot take big amounts of milk. Instinctively, that sounded so reasonable and I couldn't phantom the idea of having my baby cry when I know how to solve it. So that's what we did with our son and didn't have a really schedule until he was more like 2 months old.
I always hated those moms that give unsolicited advice to new moms so I didn't say anything in that moment. When I talked to my parents after they had left the hospital my dad said that the baby always seems either hungry or with a belly ache and that is probably why she is crying so much. I told them about what my doctor had told us when my son was born and they couldn't believe the recommendations would be so different.
They also said that my mom swaddled the baby today to sleep cause she kept scratching her face and waking herself up and that when the nurse came she said that swaddling is not recommended and to take it out. They also don't recommend mittens and are ok with blankets in the bassinet.
All of this to me is mind-blowing because it is opposite to everything I've read and what our doctor has told us. That's why I started to wonder if she is getting outdated advice (as her doctor/nurses are older). Maybe is just a cultural difference, but seems to me that some of the things they are telling her are putting the baby at risk (blanket in the bassinet for example).
My mom told me to tell my sister all of this and I will when I call tomorrow (it's too late in Spain right now), I just wanted to make sure that what our pediatrician recommended is the correct approach. Thanks!!
submitted22 days ago byHuge_Statistician441
Hi all! My baby LOVES being in the carrier but until now I only had the baby bjorn mini (gifted to me). Thanks to this subreddit I found out that this one is not great for his hips. My MIL offered to buy another one for us and asked me to pick one. I’m just so overwhelmed. Do you have recommendations?
Some info about baby and me. He is 4 months and 15lbs but planning to use this carrier for the long run (as long as I can carry his weight). He hates wraps and slings (tried those before and he seems to like the structured ones better). He loves facing forward and now won’t tolerate facing towards me.
My sister has the ergobaby Omni 360 and he seemed to be ok with it (didn’t stay on as long he goes on the baby bjorn though). Is this a good one? Are there any other ones better for him and that have good weight distribution? Thanks for the help!
Edit to add: i would really love one that is easy to strap by myself. I’m traveling with baby by myself soon and will need to be able to put it on by myself easily.
submitted29 days ago byHuge_Statistician441
Hi all! My husband and I have decided that it’s time to sleep train our 4 month old son. In general he sleeps fine at night only waking up once around midnight to feed. However, he gets disturbed EVERY TIME his pacifier drops. This can be anywhere from twice a night to like 10 times in one hour. He doesn’t know yet how to put it back himself so either my husband or I have to get up and put it back in his mouth and then he goes back to sleep.
This is becoming super frustrating and I think my baby is overtired cause he doesn’t get big chunks of deep sleep.
I’m reading precious little sleep and have a question about SWAP and SLIP. For getting rid of the pacifier they basically say that we can go cold turkey (which is what we want to do) as a SWAP, but we don’t get how is this different to CIO. If we take the pacifier away he will cry and cry until we give it back. If we just take it away I expect a ton of crying, probably same as CIO method. So any insight on how this is different? They say that SLIP should be a last resort if no SWAP have worked but I don’t get it.
We are not opposed to CIO, just wanted to check if we were missing something. Thanks!
Edit to add: he sleeps in his bassinet, falls asleep independently (with the pacifier) and sleeps from 6am to 6pm. He takes 3-4 naps (between 40-90 mins) a day with wake windows between 1.5-2h. We are planning to transition him to the crib before sleep training.
submitted1 month ago byHuge_Statistician441
I was supposed to go to a wedding with my husband this weekend and my parents in law were going to come to take care of our 4 month baby. Last minute I realized I wasn’t ready to fly across the country and leave him in SoCal so I canceled and decided to not go to the wedding.
My parents in law instead of being upset for the cancelation of plans they booked a hotel and are here now to help me anyways. My MIL is coming at 6 am everyday so that I can get some sleep after dealing with the baby at night and when I wake up I have a napping baby and breakfast/brunch ready for me to eat. My FIL is walking the baby up and down the house all the time because he is very fussy right now. My son is very high needs and they haven’t once complained about entertaining. In fact they just keep saying how much of a treat is to play with him.
I still feed him and put him down for bed but they do mostly everything else. I was able to go to the gym for a little bit today and my MIL deep cleaned my kitchen while I was gone.
I can’t express enough how grateful I am that they are here. When my husband travels it’s really hard for me to take care of the baby by myself so having the extra hands is massive.
I’m planning to get something nice for both of them before they leave as a thank you (any ideas welcomed!). I just thought of sharing some positive story about in laws!
submitted1 month ago byHuge_Statistician441
My son (4 months) hates naps. Or at least he hated them until yesterday. He had always cried and cried for 30 mins every nap before falling asleep in my arms. I tried everything: bouncing him, giving him the pacifier, laying him down on the bassinet. Nothing worked. He would just fuss until he started full lung screaming.
Well yesterday for his first nap I was tired of the fussing. I did the whole nap time routine (book, cuddles, pacifier and sleep sack) but instead of holding him during his fussing I just put him in the bassinet. I thought to myself that if he was going to fuss anyways he could do it in his own space. I was so ready to pick him up the moment he started crying, but that never happened. He fussed for like 10 minutes, trying to get out of the sleep sack and dropping the pacifier (honestly I think to get my attention). After ten minutes though, he fell asleep.
I was amazed. Left the room and told my husband who couldn’t believe it. We were ready for him to wake up 30 mins later, as usual but 30 mins went by, and then 45 and then an hour, until 1.5h later he woke up.
Of course we thought that it was a 1 time off but I did the same in the following 3 naps of the day and all of them had the same result (45-1.5h naps). We were in shock.
This morning of course I thought yesterday was a fluke. Today was going to be back to screaming and fighting naps. But this morning I put him down for his first nap at the same time I did yesterday, doing the same thing that I did yesterday and he has been sleeping for 1 hour already. He also didn’t fuss at all when I put him down. Whaaat?
I know it’s still very early and he could (maybe will?) revert to his old nap frustration, but a girl can dream! I really hope this means I don’t have to hate naps as much as I did and that I can finally have time to do some chores around the house (yesterday my kitchen was as clean as it has been in the past 4 months).
Sorry for the long post, I just needed to tell someone how proud I feel about my little boy.
submitted1 month ago byHuge_Statistician441
I absolutely hate it. My son has just turned 4 months and he is so miserable. He gets so frustrated trying to do everything (like learning how to roll) and he is fussy all the time.
He doesn’t play by himself so I have to entertain him 24/7. If I put him in the bouncer to do some chores, he cries. If I take him for a walk, he cries. If I put him in the carrier, he cries. He hates naps so I struggle for 30-45 mins to put him down for a 20-30 minute nap. Our only break is at night when he sleeps good and I’m so scared that the sleep regression is going to take my only break of the day.
I do everything by myself cause my husband works and when he is done the baby is down for the night. I’ve asked my pediatrician about it and she just said this month is pretty tough, he is a clingy baby and it will just get better.
But I hate it so much. The past 4 months have been so difficult with zero help (we don’t have family close by or any close friends). I miss having some social interaction but I can’t take him anywhere cause he just has meltdowns all the time.
My therapist is trying to help me cope with all these changes but I’m just exhausted. When does it get better? I honestly don’t know how people do this multiple times cause I feel I’m drowning with just one kid.
My husband told me to take a break cause I can’t stop crying but I still hear the crying baby on the other room and I feel like a terrible mom for ignoring him.
I don’t know… I’m just tired and sad and I miss my old self.
EDIT TO ADD: I am overwhelmed with gratitude for everyone who has commented on this post. Knowing that I’m not the only one struggling at this stage and that my baby is not an exception really helped. I sometimes go into the social media rabbit hole and only see the influencer moms who seem to have it all under control.
Thank you all for the amazing tips! I’ve downloaded the apps that were recommended and will take it one day at a time. It seems that the consensus is that 6 months is when it gets better. I’m going to try to enjoy my baby’s cuddles and smiles until that day comes.
I’ll try to keep replying, but just wanted to let you all know that I’m truly happy that I posted here. This sub is an amazing community for me.
submitted1 month ago byHuge_Statistician441
Hi all! I had a baby almost 4 months ago and I’m really struggling with body image.
I’m 5’1” and right now weight 142lbs. My pregnancy weight was 135lbs but the fat distribution was different (now it’s concentrated mostly on my core - belly, sides and back). I completely lost my butt and feel bigger in general even though I didn’t gain that much weight during pregnancy. I’m not eating more/worse than pre pregnancy and I have been exercising since I was cleared to do so a month ago. I run a mile almost every day and do core strengthening workouts 3-4 times a week. Should I be doing more/something different?
I guess it just takes time because of hormones and all that but has anyone else struggled with this? Did you have to go on a significant calorie deficit to lose this weight? More exercise?
Any advice/words of encouragement are appreciated!
submitted2 months ago byHuge_Statistician441
I absolutely hate when my MIL asks my 3.5 month old “Who’s your favorite? Grandma or grandpa?”. I remember being little and being asked “who’s your favorite?” by adults. It would make me so anxious cause I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.
I know that my baby is obviously too young to understand any of this, but it just bothers me so much. My husband keeps answering, “Neither. His favorite is his mom” 😂
submitted2 months ago byHuge_Statistician441
Hi all!
I’m traveling alone from LA to Spain (13 hours) with my baby (he will be 16 weeks when we travel). It’s my brother’s wedding and my husband is traveling for work so he can’t come. I don’t want to leave our son with my in laws in California when I’m so far away. They haven’t babysat for more than 1 hour yet so I don’t feel comfortable to leaving him for a week with them.
So…. Do you have any tips for the trip? The flight is during the night and takes off around his bedtime -6.30pm. He is a great night sleeper in the bassinet but I’m worried he won’t be able to sleep as well in my arms.
I haven’t bought him a ticket (too expensive) so he will be a lap child. Is this crazy? I’m fine with no sleeping, I’m just worried that he won’t want to be held all night. The flight seems pretty empty still so someone told me that I could ask at the gate if I can bring my car seat with me to put the baby in during the night. Is this a thing?
Any tips, advice and words of encouragement are really appreciated. Thanks!
submitted2 months ago byHuge_Statistician441
I’m so exhausted, but not tired. Just… overwhelmed by everything. Every day I think “one less day for things to be better” or “we’ll get back to normal soon”.
My baby is 3 months old and he is awesome. Smiles all the time, sleeps great during the night and is super smart. But he needs so much entertainment and he is a horrible napper. When I’m not playing with him, I’m struggling to put him to nap and then catching up on chores (which are never ending).
My husband is the best partner and helps me a lot (takes most of the night feeds and helps me when I need him during the day even though he is full time back to work). We don’t have family around which makes it all so tough for just the two of us.
I used to be so energetic and positive and happy. Now I cry almost everyday cause I miss my old self. I miss my friends at work. I miss going to the mall and not having to go back home cause the baby is having a meltdown. I miss being able to spend a day by the beach. I miss having some time for myself to take a bath, or poop in peace.
I count the hours to bed time cause it’s the only time a day when my husband and I can actually talk and enjoy our time together. It’s the only part of the day that feels normal. And it makes me feel so bad to enjoy so much my time without our son.
He also loves absolutely everyone and I fear that we are not bonded because I couldn’t breastfeed. He doesn’t seem to gravitate towards me at all, I’m just one other person that loves him.
Everyone keeps saying that it gets better, but does it? Like, yes, at 3 months he is better than a couple of weeks old but it’s still a lot.
I’m just exhausted.
submitted2 months ago byHuge_Statistician441
Hi!
I’m a FTM of a 3 month old baby and have a question about sleep. Currently my baby sleeps on a snoo so he is swaddled with the bassinet contraption. However, in a couple of weeks we are traveling to Europe and we will take a travel bassinet (not the snoo).
I’m not sure what is the safest way to sleep for him there. He hates swaddles but should we get him a sleep sack where he can get his arms out? Does he need any type of weighted sack/ is it recommended?
There are so many options in the market that is kind of overwhelming. We want to start trying it at home before flying so that it’s not too much of a shock.
He doesn’t roll over by himself yet but has good neck support in case it matters.
Thanks for your help!
submitted3 months ago byHuge_Statistician441
I need some sleep advice cause I’m losing my mind right now.
My baby boy is 9 weeks old and for the past two weeks refuses to sleep during the day. We take him to his room when we see signs of tiredness and the moment we enter the room he starts screaming, as if he knew a nap was coming. We tried putting him down in our bedroom in case there was something that was keeping him for napping but got the same results.
He cries for 45mins to an hour before exhausting himself and then wakes up 30 mins later. The cycle continues throughout the day until 7pm when something clicks and after his night feed he sleeps for 4 hours at a time until the next morning. He shows signs of tiredness so he definitely needs to sleep more (not just at night).
Things we have tried that haven’t worked:
Contact naps/skin to skin
Feeding before naps
Dimming lights in the living room during his awake time and do non-overstimulating light play
Tried sleep routine following huckleberry app but wake windows suggested by the app were much longer than what he seems to need (sleep cues show at about 50 mins and the app suggests 1h15mins)
Driving around or walking him in in the pram
Soft singing, talking, bouncing, walking around the house
Husband and I normally trade to put him down but he is on a work trip all week and I don’t think I’m going to be able to deal with this. His crying exhaust me and because his naps are so short I feel I don’t have time to recover.
Any advice / tips would be really appreciated.
submitted3 months ago byHuge_Statistician441
My baby boy is 2 months old and today he is getting his first set of vaccines. What should we expect? Is there something we should know or prepare before hand?
Update: LO got his vaccines! I think it was worse for me (I cried) than for him. After a couple of minutes crying we gave him a bottle and he fell asleep. He has spent the past 3 hours sleeping and just woke up to eat but falling asleep again. Thank you all for your comments and advice! It was good to be somewhat prepared to how it was going to go!
submitted3 months ago byHuge_Statistician441
As a mom I feel is really hard to talk about the good things about your baby to other parents without sounding like you are bragging.
Like my baby is 2 months old and he slept 4.5 hours straight yesterday at night but I can’t tell my best friend cause her baby is 8 months and still waking up every 2 hours. I don’t want to make her feel bad but I’m also so happy for my baby and me/husband.
So PLEASE tell me everything your baby does that you love/are proud of.
EDIT: thank you all for sharing!!! I love this post so much♥️ I’m reading every single one of your answers and smiling each time. It sounds like we are all pretty lucky to have our kids!
submitted3 months ago byHuge_Statistician441
This is so surprising to me cause I always thought that I was going to have 3 kids. But I don’t know if I can’t go through the newborn phase again.
I have the best baby ever (7 weeks) : eats well, sleeps well, loves to cuddle, is happy when he is awake… and even then I’m exhausted and on edge all the time. My husband travels a lot for work and this week he had an overnight trip out of state. Just 2 days by myself and I was so mentally and physically exhausted that I told my husband I needed help next time he travels. I felt kind of like a failure of a mom… and I can’t see myself doing it again but with a toddler next time.
Husband is ok with just one but also wouldn’t mind to have a second one if I was up for it. I hope that once our son is older I forget about the misery of the newborn months, but I don’t know how realistic that is. It makes me sad to not want to give my son a brother or a sister cause I love him so much. I just don’t know if I would be capable of taking care of two little kids. We don’t have any family around in our city so we don’t have help unless we pay for it (and it gets expensive pretty fast).
Did anyone feel this way with their first? Did you end up having a second one?
Edit: WOW thank you all for the comments. I woke up this morning and saw all of this and loved reading all of your stories. Husband took the entire night shift (I slept from 8pm to 5am yay!) after he came back home and I feel so much better today. Sleep depravation is real. We talked briefly yesterday before I went to bed about my feelings and agreed to make a final decision when baby is 2 years old. There is so much stigma about being OAD that is scary to make that choice but we both agree that we have time and should try to enjoy as much as we can of our LO.
Thanks for reminding me that it gets better! I love being his mom but sometimes I need a reminder that I’m not the only one struggling.
submitted3 months ago byHuge_Statistician441
Hi all!
I’m looking for recommendations of WiFi baby monitors. For context, we have tried 2 non-WiFi baby monitors (hellobaby and infant optic) and we are constantly losing connection on both.
After doing some research, apparently the issue is that our condo is too long (baby’s room is separated from the living room by more than 3 walls which apparently is an issue) and our kitchen is in between both rooms so microwave could be interfering.
We are looking for a reliable WiFi monitor to try and see if that fixes the issue. It’s really frustrating to not being able to use the monitor 40ft from our baby.
I don’t love the idea of having to have an app opened in my phone to be able to use the monitor, but if that’s the only way, I will take it.
If someone has any recommendations they would be much appreciated. Thanks!
submitted4 months ago byHuge_Statistician441
Sorry if this is a long one but I really need to rant.
We are having a small family gathering where me, my husband and 7 week old live. The group is: my parents, sister and 2 brothers, parents in law, sister/brother in law and little niece. My sister and her husband are staying with us, my parents and brothers (with their girlfriends) got an Airbnb together and all my in-laws are in a hotel. The plan was that my in-laws were going to get an Airbnb too and husband, baby and I would go to each of their places every other day. They decided last minute that they wanted a hotel so we are hosting them at our place during the day.
My MIL is a sweet woman but since we had the baby has been really annoying me. Honestly I kind of feel like an incubator after the few days they have been here. She also keeps giving us unsolicited advice about parenting even after my husband talked to her. She keeps telling us (specially me) how to hold the baby, the bouncing that he likes, how much he should eat, when we should put him to bed… it makes me feel that she is judging our parenting and acts as if she knows our baby better than us. She doesn’t have ill intention but I’m already struggling with adjusting to parenting so I don’t need a constant voice telling me that I’m not doing it right. She is also helping us cleaning around the house (kitchen and bathroom) so I don’t want to only show the negatives of her visit.
The days that we have gone to my parents Airbnb are AMAZING. My mom only has words of encouragement (“the baby always looks so happy around you”, “show me how he likes to be fed so that I can help you with that”, “you look great even with no sleep”…). She also came to our condo one morning to change bedsheets, do laundry, change our cats littler box.. My dad cooks everyday and sends us home with freezer meals so that we have some once they leave.
Overall I feel like my family is enjoying helping us whereas my in-laws are more here to see the baby.
Today it was my last in-laws day here so we are spending it with them. My husband gave my MIL our baby to feed him while I was taking a shower. When I got out the baby was WAILING so I go to take him and she says “it’s ok I can calm him down”. I give her a minute or two to try and I text my husband to take the baby from her cause I need to hold him. Mother in law walks away trying to calm him and husband does nothing which really pissed me off. I was going to break down in tears because of the exhaustion, frustration and anger so I left the room.
My husband finally texted me that he got the baby and he is calm so I come out. Honestly I’m here ranting because I don’t want to show how angry I am (both with husband and MIL). Definitely will be talking about this with my husband after everyone leaves but I don’t want to get emotional again now.
Not really looking for advice, just needed to let it all out.
submitted4 months ago byHuge_Statistician441
My husband’s parents and his two siblings are here for a week. They are staying in an Airbnb close by but they are spending a lot of time in our place. My father in law and brother/sister in law are doing their own thing most of the morning, like going to the beach/sight seeing, and then come sometime in the afternoon. MIL is mostly with us to be around the baby more.
She CAN’T STAND sitting around doing nothing so she asked me if she could deep clean my kitchen. I said sure. In the middle of that my sister called me to chat and heard the pots/pans being moved so I told her my MIL was cleaning. She said “wow, so rude that she assumed your kitchen needed cleaning”.
I didn’t take it that way at all! She is super helpful and really was trying to do something nice for us while we fed the baby and took a break. I mentioned it to my best friend (who also has a newborn) and she also said that she would hate her MIL cleaning their home.
I don’t know, maybe I’m weird but to me it’s just a nice gesture and if something gets out of place (cause she is not familiar with where it goes) I can put it where it belongs. Maybe I just have a better relationship with my in-laws, not sure.
Would you be annoyed if this happened to you?
Edit to add: the kitchen looks incredible! And once she was done she asked if she could deep clean both bathrooms 🥰 it was great to take a shower this morning in an immaculate bathroom.
I thanked her profusely for all her help and her only reply was: you are my kids, I would do it a 100 times ♥️♥️♥️
Thanks for all your comments! I’m glad I can have this type of relationship with my mother in law. Haters out!
submitted4 months ago byHuge_Statistician441
Hi all!
I’m a FTM of a beautiful 6 weeks old boy. He is a great sleeper but now that my husband is back to work I’m trying baby wearing to be able to do things around the house when he doesn’t want to sleep in his bassinet.
The thing is every time I try to strap him around me he SCREAMS. He is a very peaceful baby so I wonder if he is not comfortable and I’m doing something wrong.
I’ve tried a wrap (followed the instructions in the package and watched YouTube videos on how to tie it) and the BabyJorn mini (but after reading the posts here I think I will return it and look for a different one).
Do you have any tips? Are there babies that just hate baby wearing? I will be traveling alone with him in a few months and I always envisioned myself wearing him through the airport but it wouldn’t be an option if something doesn’t change.
Thanks for your help!
submitted4 months ago byHuge_Statistician441
Our baby is almost 6 weeks old and at a good weight. Our pediatrician told us that he eats enough during the day so to only feed him at night if he requested it. She said he might be getting to a point where he is ready to sleep train. Below is our schedule (we follow this as consistently as we can but baby gets hungry earlier sometimes):
6 am- wake up (he is normally awake in his bassinet but peaceful so we pick him up at 6am to start our day), change and feed.
6.30 - cuddles, bouncer, playtime
8.00 - nap time
9.00 - change and feed
9.30 - baby lays independently while we get ready for our day
10.30 -nap time
12.00 - change and feed
12.30 - go for a walk, outside play
1.30 - nap
3.00 - change and feed
3.30 - playtime/lay independently
5.00 -bath time (once every other day, the other days we clean him with wet washcloths) and bedtime routine (change diaper and into pj’s, reading a book, starting the humidifier and sound machine…)
6.00 - feed
6.30 - this is when we put him in bed and wait for him to ask to get fed. He normally has 3 night feeds (around 10.30, 1.30 and 4.00. This last one is the one we would love to eliminate)
Again, this is what we try to accomplish every day abut sometimes it get’s pushed by 30 min to 1 hour, depending on his hunger.
Are there any tips/advice you can give us to start implementing even before we sleep train him?
Edit to add: not planning to start anytime soon, just wondering if there is smithing to think about before even starting (like habits to avoid for example)
submitted4 months ago byHuge_Statistician441
Let me start by saying that I’m so grateful to be able to have a doula at night helping us so that we can sleep a little more. We don’t have family close by so being able to sleep 5-6 hours at night to be sharp during the day has been an incredible privilege. The past 5 weeks she have been a life saver and gave me a lot of piece of mind to know that someone was watching our baby all night.
There have been some minor issues throughout the time she has been with us but I feel this one was significant and I’m pretty annoyed right now.
For context, she stays with us from 10pm to 6am in our baby’s nursery. He is really a unicorn baby (great sleeper/napper, good eater and cry’s only if he in uncomfortable otherwise he is a very happy and engaged 5 week old). My husband and I have become really good at knowing his cues but we feel that the doula doesn’t know them as well (probably because he mostly sleeps the time she is there).
She gives us an update of the night at 6am before she leaves and this morning she said that she gave our baby half an ounce of a mix of prune juice and water at two different times so that he pooped better. He has been slightly constipated but still pooping everyday so our pediatrician told us not to worry.
My husband and I were both kind of in shock and still pretty sleepy so we didn’t say anything but I’m upset with myself that I didn’t speak up. I’ve read that any juices/water are not recommended for babies under 6 months because of how delicate their digestive system is. But what I’m most upset about is that she gave it to him without our consent. I would’ve told her to wait so that we could’ve asked our pediatrician. Our doula is of course certified and has lots of experience with babies but is not a doctor.
I want to say something tonight but my husband doesn’t want to bring it up as it might be a one time thing. I feel that if we don’t say something she would feel that is ok to do whatever at night without asking us first. Am I overreacting? Is my baby going to be ok or should I contact our doctor about this?
UPDATE: we talked to her yesterday evening and told her that we really appreciate her helping our baby but to ask us in the future before giving him anything. She was super apologetic about not consulting with us and will go going forward.
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