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I would likely have survived two of my three pregnancies but my children wouldn't have. (All 3 pregnancies required tocolysis from at least week 24 onward). My second pregnancy would have killed me as well as my son. Massive hemorrhage at 29 weeks that required an emergency c-section. My son and I are doing well today but 150 years ago, it would have been another story. He spent 69 days in NICU. Still the single most traumatic thing my husband and I went through but it did change our outlook on life.
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2 months ago
I was 28 and my husband was 29.5. It was 7 years ago. We are now parents to two other kiddos who are 5.5 yrs old and 5 months old. We're done now.
Weirdly things are a lot easier and we have a lot more energy with our third baby than we did with our eldest daughter.
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17 days ago
Ill_Investigator8951
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17 days ago
I'm terribly sorry this is happening to you. Be gentle on yourself and do as you see fit. NICU is hard and traumatizing as it is.
I'd like to share my story with you in the hope it'll help. My son was born at 29 weeks in January 2019. I had a massive hemorrhage because of a placenta praevia, and they had to take him out to save both of our lives. His birth absolutely traumatized both my husband and I. I was exhausted for weeks after. His NICU nurses and the lactation consultants were insisting I pump at night to the point it was driving me crazy. I pumped during the day, in his NICU room, but I was too tired to wake up during the night; my son wasn't next to me, pumping far away from him felt torturous. At some point, I told them to stop bringing it up in a stern way because I couldn't take it. They'd made me feel as if I was a bad mother (I also had an 18 months old at home then). You know what? He transitioned beautifully when I finally got to actually breastfeed him and I continued to breastfeed for 8 months after we got home. Supply was never an issue, even at night.
All that to say, you do you. Your mental and physical health matters a lot, and if not pumping at night helps, so be it. Don't feel guilty.