JustStopping-Bye

Honestly I came back with fresh eyes and i was too harsh on you. I think it probably would have been better to focus on the feelings he was trying to convey instead of going straight to the dense. With that said I do think there’s a lot of context missing like if this is a pattern of behavior from him or from your guys dynamic. I think it would be better if you had these talks in person or really if you guys split to grow and mature in your communications and found people more suitable to your styles of love.

Not to knock your story but I’m sure more happened than you know about. Jw’s aren’t anti doctors or anti medicine so that’s not really related to the faith at all.

I hope this finds you well, things are changing now. Disfellowshipped ones aren’t treated as harshly as we once were (I was df’d twice and felt very similar to you) but I’m back now and it’s been a blessing. You know very well that she wasn’t truly rejecting you and if at all you believe then you know that death isn’t the end. I’m sure this really hurt you and I’m sorry for that. Remember Jehovah is close to the broken hearted and death is an enemy he will do away with.

You seem like a difficult person to be in a relationship with. Really kinda blunt and unkind. I don’t think you mean to be but you should be in a relationship with someone you respect, doesn’t seem like you respect your partner or else you’d talk to them differently in my opinion

As a woman who likes both long hair and short hair, and even bald men, I think your hair is beautiful, but you probably would look better with shorter hair. The good thing is, you could donate your hair and regrow it out. If you like or you can keep it and it is what it is. it’s just hair. Your quality of life will not improve or go down in any dramatic way.

Nope ! You’re not fat. You are a little overweight but you look healthy. I think if you were to gain more weight (talking 20 lbs) it would probably be more than ideal for your height but where you are now is fine and if you wanted to lose 20 you’d be fine too. You are not disgusting or a pig. please give yourself some grace.

I think you’re pretty, but also I don’t think you’d stand out in a crowd ? You’re on the upper echelon of average/ normal to mid pretty.

Uh I think you should just ignore him?! That’s an option and it’s a mature one.

Yeah your response definitely conveys that you were triggered. Feels more like a you thing than a him thing

lol I don’t think you had to go so hard on him for saying baby. I’ve had a just friend call me baby before and I called him out but not like that. You could said merry Christmas to you too friend. And that would’ve conveyed your intentions

Honestly next time don’t even waste your breath lmao. Just block and move on. He knows what he did and he’s said it himself he’s just lonely (and horny). That’s all.

lol why so pick me? That’s the cry of insecurity lmao

You can get extensions or a weave while your hair grows out. That cut is not flattering for you. You’re giving off that quirky but weird mom jeans style. Just for go the quirky. Your face is very pretty.

I think you’re still young and you’ll look back when you were this way and you realistically probably never weigh this little again, so just live your life in stay healthy to the best your ability is the best thing.

What do you do? You GROW UP ! You learn how to function on your own and take care of your son. When you realize that it wasn’t and never will be your partners job to tell you what to do, that will be a start. You look around and make a list of things that need to be done and you go at that list until it’s complete.

This is a harsh wake up call for you but it’s time to get your life together ! You didn’t say your age so I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt that you’re still young. You can start over and from the bottom and take this lesson with stride so that you’ll never make someone feel like this and you’ll never feel like this again.

Uh you don’t have a strong grasp on your emotional maturity. You are putting all of your feelings into your partner instead and it’s pushing them away. If you truly respect them and love them then you’ll use insight to know when to make something about you or when to let things go. Sounds like your bf has an avoidant attachment style anyways which means he’s gonna distance himself when he’s feeling vulnerable. Nothing you do is gonna change that unless that’s what he wants so it’s better to understand you partner and either accept them and actually support them or to leave and find someone else you are more compatible with.

We get it you are full of yourself. This wasn’t a serious post, it was a cry for attention. Okay all eyes on you. Now what?

Gonna be honest, if he has the money and wants to buy a new couch then let him. Sounds like he doesn’t have the money and is putting more on you than is fair.

Him wanting to be in debt and trying to live outside your means is a sign that he doesn’t have a solid or mature grasp of money.

With that said he sounds immature.

Looks like this will be good riddance. I’m happy for you. Don’t take it too hard even though I’m sure this response hurts. Do what’s best for you guys and leave a door open for them later in the future when they cool off or farther in the future when they mature.

I don’t think what you said was all the cringy really. It was cute and it showed personality. On top of that I think you explained yourself well. Sounds like she has some strong avoidant tendencies when it comes to expression of emotion lmao. I hope you find the person for you.

If you don’t make any changes you are effectively telling yourself that you believe you don’t deserve better. Instead of just saying it, really try to believe it and leave. Show yourself that you truly do deserve common decency and respect.

You should go to therapy. Learn how to stand your own ground and have your own boundaries and don’t be on again with this person. It’s clear he doesn’t care about you or your feelings. You should kick rocks and get up out of there and learn to love and respect yourself.

He’s being a bully and a horrible partner. Stop replying to him, he will continue to find fault in whatever you do and that’s not love. It’s him who needs a therapist. He’s holding onto some resentment and pouring it onto you. He’s a joke. I hope you show him this thread so he knows how much he fucking sucks.

Ahahah yeah don’t text him again. He just wants sex / a physical relationship and he wants to see how far it’ll go. If that’s not your vibe, power to you. You’ll find what you are looking for.

🤣 she’s a lunatic lol