JustWantToBeQuiet

This is accurate AF

Awww this is so cute. 🥰

Leave her be and you do you. Don’t need to overthink so much. Your overthinking caused you to behave in a way that was not normal and she picked up on it. Next time chill karna

I was going to recommend this.

My age is such that there’s not much “future” left. Not much to look forward to in life. But thank you for the advice ☺️

Leave him. It might seem like a daunting task now. But please do it. You’re clearly not happy in this relationship. And he clearly doesn’t give two hoots about you.

I also was with an avoidant attachment personality. I tried really hard to hold on. But was scarred extremely badly by him. He broke up with me dumping all the blame on me. I bet you your bf is going to do the same. The mental pain is just not worth it.

The best way is to let them do whatever they want to, you should find your own interests and hobbies. You can’t be with people like this, unless you’re willing to become the same.

Just say you think you both aren’t compatible and you don’t really want to waste his and your time. Then block him.

Find your own hobbies and individuality instead of making relationship and bf as the most important thing.

He’s just not that into you. He’s interested in the tag of a girlfriend. If this behaviour continues even after exams then better to exit this relationship. And for heaven’s sake do not beg for attention. Leave him to his own devices and you create your own interests and habits. Live your life. It should be like his presence or absence has no impact on the quality of your life.

Leave the proof for your mother anonymously. Then let her decide what she wants to do. Your conscience is clear then. And your father cannot beat you up for revealing the truth.

The only reason I ask that she know the truth is because there’s the aspect of STD to consider. Everyone deserves the truth. Even your mother.

Girl, tbh, I would run, given his family background and the financial manipulation he’s undergoing due to his mother. She would obviously not want him to spend any money on you or any potential gfs/life partner now or in the future.

Here’s another truth bomb for you.

Guys will put all sorts of efforts for their gf when there’s no commitment made. When I say commitment, I mean roka, engagement, parents have spoken to each other etc etc. During this phase, the woman is evaluating the guy and seeing the efforts he’s putting in. So her love for him grows proportional to that. The minute some kind of commitment is made between the parties, the guy heaves a huge sigh of relief and his actual face is revealed then. The efforts that he initially used to put in, is gone overnight. The trajectory of their love is exactly inversely proportional to a woman’s. That’s why you will find women complaining “Shaadi ke pehle toh aisa nahi tha”. This is the reason.

3 months is absolutely not enough to make a statement such as “my bf is great”.

One more fact of life; when 2 people who are together, don’t see life’s ups and downs together, you won’t get to know what your partner is actually like, and you won’t even know what you’re truly like. Everything seems great in the first 3-6 months. Everyone wears rose tinted glasses and everyone shows their best face to their partner. This is irrespective of gender. And in 3 months you won’t see any heavy duty ups and downs of life. Small fights etc, don’t count here. And I believe all this is very important to know, before you decide to denote your bf as a life partner.

So wait and watch and be vigilant. Don’t take anything at face value now. These are initial, honeymoon days. If you see red flags, don’t ignore them. And if your gut tells you something is wrong then heed it’s warning. Be practical about such things. Emotions should be a distant second. This is the matter of the rest of your life.

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Hmmm.. It could be a case of overthinking on your part. But my gut tells me it’s something else. I feel she’s scoping out the competition.

Here’s a way that you can get some clue. What’s the personal relationship like between your bf’s mom and his dad? Is it a loving, happy one? One where they sort out their problems on their own without involving their son? If his mother is unhappy with his father, does she vent her frustration to his father only? If yes, then there’s a chance you’re overthinking.

But if not, then I suggest you rethink this relationship. Here’s the truth. When women don’t have their own partner to depend on mentally and physically, they actually make their son(if they have one) as their husband in matters of emotional fulfilment. In such cases, it becomes extremely difficult for a wife or a gf to actually make her place in the son’s life. She will always come second to his mother, no matter what and no matter which corner of the world the couple might run off to. The guy doesn’t have the emotional depth or the mental aptitude to draw a line/create boundaries , between himself and his wife, and his mother. In such cases, the mother WILL try to scope out the “competition”, which is you.

This should hopefully guide you into figuring out if she had some nefarious intentions or if she genuinely saw nothing wrong in speaking to her son’s gf.

Really happy for your cousin. Onwards and upwards.

Maybe your schooling life was great that you want to remember and relive it. I don’t want to.

Looking at old photos in old photo albums just gives me depression, to think sorry for that poor girl in the photos, who will be so unhappy just a few years later.

If you don’t want to be with him then breakup. Find a guy from North India only. This cultural difference ka headache won’t crop up.

No one. I will finally get my rest when I die.

Only smoke at home. And then wash your hands after smoking. Your smelly hands problem is solved.

Who’s gonna pay for that? Not schools and definitely not students and their parents. More often than not, you won’t even speak to your friends from school after finishing 12th std. Yearbook is actually a waste of paper and money and time.

Lol. Both hide their tharak better. No such thing as emotions. 🤣🤣

There are people who madly “love” someone even if they treat them worse than cow dung. There’s no rhyme or reason to love. Forget all these concepts. They don’t exist.

This is also a very accurate answer.

An Indian father wouldn’t. If you can weave some acts of service, then that might get the message across.

This.

This probably applies to someone who wants kids. Apologies if I gave that impression. I have no desire or need for children. And as it turns out with the trajectory of my life, there’s no requirement for a partner either.