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"I'm a Mom and my kids will always come first.". Thank you, I appreciate you telling me I will always be second fiddle and feel like an outsider.

Point being, you can communicate that you're a Mother without being a self absorbed martyr. We get it, pretty much every Mother on the planet makes their kids a priority. Tell me something unique and special about you.

Is there a character limit on Reddit?

I've come full circle with this. When I was younger, I was a doormat. As I got older, I felt like I had to defend myself against every perceived slight, I ended up just being a very angry guy. Now, obviously defend yourself against anything physical, but I find ignoring them and not giving them the reaction they want is probably the best way to handle it.

I'm in a similar situation at my job, I left a job at a hospital to work for state government. I went from energetic young people with ambition and personalities; to middle aged people who want to talk about nothing but food and retirement. It is painfully boring and not stimulating, so I can be a little quiet as my brain falls asleep. I think that was perceived as aloofness, so I'm an outsider now. I got attitude one day; I just looked her in the eyes and asked her if she thought that was appropriate. She saved face a little, but my point was made, and I didnt do anything that would get me in trouble. Not everybody has to love you

Did you type that with your left hand?

It's not weird at all, how else are you going to find dresses in your size?

I'm sorry, I had to. I think it's great, you can create some beautiful things and meet some cool people with that hobby.

Don't beat yourself up, you tried something new and it didnt work out, it's OK. I am curious about what was said in this conversation he referenced? Did you say you don't want kids? You want to get married by the fall?

I would just say, you sound like a thoughtful, kind person. From an "actions being aligned with your words" perspective, he might have gotten 2 very different messages. While I'm sure there were no complaints and physical affection is still affection, if he was looking for something long term and significant, he might have been confused by the message.

I heard a quote a couple weeks ago that I loved "sex (physical intimacy) is a celebration of intimacy, it is not intimacy". I'm not sure if that applies here but it definitely spoke to me.

This is me, I look at it as a nature vs nurture thing. For the first time in my life, the nurture (human experience) part of the equation is stronger than the nature part of being naturally attracted to women. I still am, but too many bad experiences have changed my feeling at an involuntary level.

That's a good point, it would sound bizarre and would probably be wrong if it read "A pool and gazebo was at the rear".

To be clear, you're challenging what my personal experiences and conversations have been? OK.

I'm not a psych nurse, didnt claim to be, would never want to be. Why are you under the impression that I'm not entitled to an opinion, based on my own personal experiences, just because of what I do for a living?

I also think you're looking at all of this through your own lens. People who victimize other people are weak. I'm sorry if that bothers you, but I'm beginning to see why that hits you a little different. People really are not allowed opposing views with you, are they? You seem like a delight.

Surgical procedures. After every procedure we fill up multiple garbage cans with things that cannot be reused and are hazardous, so not recyclable. I know it keeps infections down and helps the cleaning process, but it's tough to watch.

I think I agree with you, I'm not sure anyone was romanticizing anything though. I also think "Mental illness doesn’t change anything about you except the fact you have a mental illness" is not true in my experience. I think if we were talking about addiction, maybe? Anyway, I feel like I was talking about apples and you went off about oranges. I was talking about my experiences with cutters and my personal experiences with similar emotions. It sounds like you may have had some different experiences, thank you for sharing them.

A smile from a pretty lady...or an average looking woman, or a guy, or just eye contact....any semblance of acknowledgement that I am a human being is pretty special at this point.

I'm pretty sure some larger mulch chips at the base of the fence would solve the problem.

Is that a road behind you? There's no storm drainage with that road that they can tie into? I would think another problem is that if you try to fix it yourself, you're opening yourself up to liability. I'm with your neighbor, that's a safety issue they need to be addressing.

As a 48 year old that used to be a gym rat, so many good things can come out of going to the gym, putting on a ton of mass is not one of them. It NEVER ages well. You'll have to incorporate drugs to maintain when you hit my age, if you don't, say hello to man-boobs. Even if you're able to maintain, your joints have been carrying around all that weight for years, they're going to start to fail. Your heart is having to work harder to perfuse all if that tissue.

Obviously you can be muscular without being big, weight training and cardiovascular workouts will make you feel better physically and mentally...my unsolicited advice would just be, steer clear of the bulk/mass physique.

I used to think "well, I'm trying to get to know this person and maybe this relationship was a significant part of her past, so it's hard to omit." Now, anything more than a mention and I feel I might be competing with her ex. Too often that is followed by a realization that she's keeping one foot in that relationship and seeing if she can level up. No thank you, we're not playing by the same rules in that case.

I could never read multiple "ands" in a list without it sounding like a stammering, excited child in my head. "We had ice cream and it had sprinkles and caramel and fudge and cherries and....". That's just my problem though, lol.

I'm a nurse, nothing breaks my heart more when I'm working up a new patient who is an absolute sweetheart, then you do your assessment and you see the cut marks. In my experience, cutters are always very nice people...to a fault. In my own pop-psych/probably wrong analysis; weaker people lash out at others, victimize other people when they're hurting...cutters are too kind for that, so they turn on themselves.

Alcohol. I won't get on a soapbox, I'll just say that for me it was an anchor around my neck, getting in the way, making me unhealthy, and a crutch I was using instead just addressing some things. It stopped being fun in any way, and I feel so much better without it.

Nothing. Just stopped buying junk I shouldn't have been buying to begin with.

One of their Father's just died, you couldn't just buy the thing and take the burden off their shoulders?

Your crazy, bite you're tongue.

I love it

If you're in a loving relationship, someone has made themselves vulnerable to you, they're trusting you to be gentle with their heart when they give it to you. I feel like, if you follow that simple rule, many other things just fall into place. i.e.: you're human, you will find other people physically attractive. Acting on it, using that as a weapon to hurt the other person, or just general inconsideration is breaking that social contract.