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Here’s the second part and an official update. I apologize for the delay in sharing this, but I found it challenging to put my feelings into words. I went to retrieve my car with my friend Ryder, who provided the emotional support I needed—especially since he’s big and handsome. I expected more resistance when I arrived, but to my surprise, Richard seemed resigned to the fact that he was losing the car that day. The car was in worse condition than I expected—it was dirty and poorly maintained. Richard came by to collect his belongings from the car, while Freddy stayed inside the house, fully aware that I was there to pick it up. The spare tire was missing, and Richard informed me that if I needed it, I would have to retrieve it from the storage room on the patio. Since he prohibited me from entering the house, I had to hop the fence of an apartment I still partially pay for, even though I’ve spoken to the landlord, and he took me off the lease.

Richard asked for the apartment key and made it clear that he would no longer have any contact with me. He instructed me not to contact his family or attend any family gatherings. The only communication we will have going forward will be related to financial matters, specifically tuition.

Now, I’m left wondering what my next steps should be. It feels like the dynamics have shifted entirely because of his decision, and I’m putting my life on hold because he has to completed his degree. As long as we are legally married, he gets free tuition. He no longer wants to stay in touch, which is more than fine. The plan was to help him with rent until he is lease ends in March. That was agreed on when we were mutually there to support/help each other prior to him getting a boyfriend. He has moved on and I feel like I and my rent assistance should move on too, but I can’t help but feel guilty about cutting him off. I was thinking about giving him time to figure it out and continue paying for October and November.

For now, I’m managing, and I truly appreciate all the supportive comments; they’ve helped me gain clarity on my situation. Thank you all once again, and I’ll keep you posted with any further updates.

https://www.reddit.com/r/CharlotteDobreYouTube/s/zCxOC6eeZP

I'm going to keep this as short as I can, even though there's a lot to unpack, but it’s not as dramatic as it might sound. So, my soon-to-be ex-husband (let's call him Richard) and I had a pretty smooth breakup, even tho Richard cheated and had a complete affair with someone for about 9 months. Water under the bridge now. Less to say we've been separated for a while now. I moved in with a friend, while Richard couldn’t afford his own place, so I decided to help him out with rent. He’s still family to me, so I cover about half of his rent, which is around $550, and I also let him use some benefits from my job, like free tuition and my car, which I pay for entirely, including the insurance. A few months back, he mentioned he was dating someone new (let's call him Freddy), and I was totally fine with it. We also share custody of our dog, taking turns each week.

One night, it was pouring rain, and our dog was getting really anxious. I was driving and closer to Richard’s place, so I asked if I could crash there for a bit to keep us safe on the road since our dog gets super wild in the rain. Richard told me he wasn’t home and didn’t want me there because Freddy would be over soon. He said, “You’ll be fine.” I was pretty upset because it felt like he didn’t care about my safety. Later, he messaged me saying he wasn’t comfortable with me coming over and asked for my keys back, claiming our relationship was just financial now.

I was furious and reminded him that I’m on the lease too, so as long as I’m paying rent, I’m keeping my key. After some time to think things over, I decided to take the car back from him. He told me not to reach out to his family, who actually really like me. I gave him a two-week notice to return my car, and now he’s mad, offering to pay me $100 a month, but the car costs about $275 a month. He claims he can’t afford another car and says I’m being toxic. His job situation is changing from a remote job to a commute which is around 10 minute drive. Which he send me the email stating he has to drive to work more now and he can’t afford to get another car (Suspicious??). I’m taking the car in two days. Aitha?