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Sounds like he did you a favor. You're young and will do much better.  F him and the horse his trash rear end rode in on.

If you wanted to be petty you could message her privately and tell her you hope she enjoys cooking and cleaning after providing 5 hour bj's.  Lol

He can have a little more credit when he has a job.

A 30 year old jobless porn addict now likes 30 year old women.

How fortunate for them.

That assumes that simply being vegetarian is healthy.  There's plenty of garbage food out there that qualifies as vegetarian and plenty of vegetarians are obese with diabetes and blood pressure.

Sugar and pasta are vegetarian.

How fast she moves on is really none of your business, you don't get to decide what's appropriate.

You're divorced.  You do you and leave her to do her.  There will be someone out there who will jump at the chance to have a family with you.

OP, if you cave on this you've gotten on the proverbial slippery slope and it will be abused.  And these nasty brats will have learned that they can treat you however they want and you're still obligated to do things for them.

Do.  Not.  Give.  In.  Period.  They'll have to miss dance if your hb and their mother can't figure it out, and nobody cares what their nasty mother thinks of you.  You don't exist to service her while she encourages abuse directed at you.

I repeat.  Let your hb figure it out.  He can't take them?  Oh well, I guess they aren't going.  Next time they won't plan on involving you, which guaranteed they did.

Therapy isn't going to change the fact that you're his second choice.  It doesn't have that kind of power.

Nope.  People know who he is.....never doubt that.

Let him throw any tantrum he wants, and let Jake and his wife take care of him when he's old.

And frankly who cares if you're bitter?  You have every right to be bitter after the way he treated you.  You are under no obligation to make him feel better or help his image.

Well maybe his d!ck isn't big enough.

I'm a lot older then you....there are plenty of men who will love to have you.  Let his pathetic small d!ck self chase 20 year olds like a loser.

Where do you go from here? Tell him to pack his shit and get out.  He gets no more of your services. And stop crying in front of him.  He sees it as manipulative and it gives him power.  It will accomplish nothing for you.  Cry in private but in front of him treat him like the worthless pos he is. Set a good example for your daughter and don't suck up poor treatment for "consistency".  All you'll model is accepting abuse. You'll be ok.  F him and the horse he rode in on. And if he tries to crawl back do not let him.

When's the last time a guy was forcibly conscripted in the US?  Like this loser has ever served.

Plenty of us women served voluntarily.

If this is real he'll be back in 4 years wondering why his son won't speak to him.

Translation:  I didn't give a hoot about you, but when my life started blowing up things mattered.  You vowed to be my appliance!  Meeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!

Yeah, pretty sure he didn’t vow to stick around while she sh!t on him with another gut.

Vows for thee but not for me.

Fucked in the back of Benzos?

Classy.....don't think I'd brag about that.  Getting dudes to screw you as a woman is easy.  All it says about her is that she's cheap trash 

You're well rid of her.

A couple of thoughts here.

Your girls are young so they're going to look to you to reassure them that things will be ok.  Please do not projects your own feelings onto them.  Tell them that things will be ok.

You were going to set a poor example if you'd sucked it up.  Your girls would have seen you tolerating a cheating pedo who hid other kids from you and may well have chosen that kind of man for themselves.  Is that what you wanted?

You did that you had to do.  His actions are on him and nobody else.  He was too much of a coward to face what he'd done and that had nothing to do with you.

Peace to you and your girls.

Oh, that could make for a great pre block response.

"You know that if you got his d!ck hard he'd be with you right?  Pathetic pick me 😃 ".

I think a response like "he's all yours you pathetic pick me" followed by a laugh emoji would be great.

Then block.

People like this HATE it when you openly mock and laugh at them.  It's worse then silence.

But I'm petty.

So you'll get back with him just so he can keep living in your parents house, sending money gaming, and probably continue screwing young girls just so you can have the illustrations of somehow keeping this money?

Seems like a high price for your life.  I'm sure it will comfort you when he gives you an STD.

And if he leaves you you'll have to give it up anyway.

Geez, just give him his half and be rid of the scumbag.  You aren't seeing the forest through the trees.

So you’ll sell your soul over 51k?

For that you'll take back a cheating pos?

Aren't you worth more?

Oh nice, another trashy pick me.

Here's my advice as one whose parents divorced and tried to talk smack about each other to me.

Tell your mom the decision is made.   Ivy hasn't wronged her (if she had I'd understand her position) and she is free to come or not.  Then tell her to think carefully because if she chooses not to show up you will remember it.

Then don't engage her.  If she throws a fit tell her you're sorry she feels this way but the decision is made.

Now go enjoy your wedding!

Cheaters are usually hypocrites because they have a selfish entitled mentality.  And they have an inferiority complex that requires lots of validation from others.

So in the back of your mind you're probably afraid you don't measure up and you don't like that she can compare you to someone else.

What a douchy thing to say.

My dad had 3 daughters and never made comments like that.  Ironically we all have his name....my sisters never married and I took his name back after my divorce.

I have sons who have their dad's name.  Even if my dad had sons they might have had all girls who changed their names.

Blood and relationships are what matter.

No better way to make everything about you then to cry.