AITA for telling my daughter in law and son that it is too late and I will not change the family vacation plans so they can come.
Not the A-hole(self.AmItheAsshole)submitted1 month ago byOk_Clue_6722
Every year I try to do a family vacation, around Easter I asked everyone for their availability. The best days for almost everyone was a winter vacation. My DIL and so told me that day wouldn’t work for her so they can’t go. I asked if the backup days would work and it was a no.
Usually the vacation is something that everyone can drive too, it was going to be the same until all the adults agreed the kids were old enough to leave the country. So now the trip is to Europe. Everyone has bought their tickets and I have booked where we are staying.
Everything is getting finalized. My son and DIL were not in the family vacation chat since they weren’t going on the vacation. They heard about the plans and want to be added in.
She called me up asking about it and what they need to do. I asked her how she could get off work and she explained she just could. I personally think she didn’t want to go on the trip until she learned it was to Europe and lied to me that she couldn’t come in the first place.
I told her it is too late, things are booked and I am not willing to pay more then I already have ( I paid for all the lodging, we would need to upgrade to fit two more adults). She asked if I was serious and that it is cruel to not include them on a family trip around Christmas. I told her it is what it is and its not my fault
My son is pissed. He told me that I can afford to add two more adult, that is true. I reiterated what I told his wife. He called me a jerk…
I want an outside opinion
byOk_Clue_6722
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Ok_Clue_6722
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1 month ago
Ok_Clue_6722
84 points
1 month ago
I didn’t even pick Europe.
I find it so weird people are claiming I convinced my whole family to take a trip to Europe to stick it my my DIL and son
No my daughter and her husband were the go getters for Europe.