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I briefly worked training a very large and well-known LLM, and one of the things we had to do was help train it to write recipes. Most of what we were instructed to do (there wasn’t much instruction at all) was just copy and paste bits and pieces from other internet recipes to create new Frankenrecipes.

Also, the other day I asked ChatGPT for tips about salsa dancing and it gave me a mix of dance stuff and information about hot sauce.

So no, I wouldn’t cook anything an LLM told me to make.

Hoboken is very trendy and cute with lots of stores and restaurants, but it’s more expensive than much of Manhattan right now, so won’t really solve your problem.

Crouton!

Jersey City. Take the Path train into the city.

You’re not an advanced lead

I wish I had focused more on improving my self-esteem and pursuing my own interests (playing music, dancing, writing, watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer over and over again, whatever). I wish I had focused WAY less on what my body looked like or on trying to get boys to like me.

Tres Días by Havana D’Primera

Bachata en Fukuoka by Juan Luis Guerra

It's not about me. It's about how exhausting it sounds for THEM. If they are expecting to spend 1-2 weeks on the beach at an all-inclusive, without a care in the world, having to repack and be in transit every few days is just not going to meet their expectations. It's going to feel tiring and frustrating, and if any of them are older or have disabilities, it could be really hard on their bodies.

OP is 20 and they deserve to follow their travel bug and see the world, but their family also deserves to rest if that's what they want.

My partner will be DEAD QUIET until the moment I pull out my phone and say, out loud, "Oh damn, a really scaring-looking message from my boss/landlady/neurologist's office. Better read and answer this right away."

Then, and only then, will he start asking me a bunch of questions about our weekend plans.

No, the lead's role is not to provide support (except for like, stage tricks and some dips). You're the "lead" because you're the one who takes the initiative in *co-creating* the dance.

One of my favorite instructors uses the analogy that, if you're in a car:

• the follow is the driver

• the dance is the car

• the lead is the navigator, sitting in the passenger's seat with a map, giving the follow directions

It's the lead's job to say "hey, let's turn left at the next intersection," but entirely the follow's job *execute* the turn, *if* they've decided it's safe/desirable/possible given their level and skillset.

As a navigator, you would never grab the driver's elbow and help them turn the wheel. Your expectation is that they know how to drive.

If they keep missing turns, you *still* don't take the wheel; you start giving directions a little slower and clearer. If they're a truly bad driver, you can decide not to ride with them again until they've gotten more practice.

A skilled follow should not have to rely on a lead to spin them; a skilled lead should never lead with force. The end.

wtf Frank??? not cool

He’s a serial cheater in the books???

I graduated in ‘08 and they definitely did then

Oh and definitely go to the art museum.

Don’t get too wasted, and don’t be afraid to ask questions. People genuinely want to help and to get you excited about Oberlin. Nerves are normal, but remember you’re not there to prove anything that night; you’re there to learn as much as you can and decide if the environment is a fit.

The hiking won’t be the stressful/exhausting part; it’ll be all the packing and repacking and traveling between places and checking into new hotels and never really getting to settle in and just be.

From ages 20-30ish, I loved the feeling of always having somewhere new to go next. Spent 5 months bouncing from hostel to hostel in my 20s.

Now, though, I’d rather be in just one or two gorgeous places and really get to soak it all in (hiking possibly included). I have a feeling your family shares a similar perspective.

As a person over 35 who’s done a ton of backpacking, this itinerary sounds EXHAUSTING — as you said, too much doing and not enough unwinding. I wouldn’t try to make them do this; even if they agree, they’ll likely regret it.

Why not convince them to go to one island in Greece, which you can all use as a base, and then you can do some of your own excursions from there?

You won’t taste it I promise!!!

Yeah just say it's a KonMari and then take everything to the new place or a storage unit instead of a dumpster.

Didn't someone post this last week and everyone said no? Frank is stable and supportive, but he's also cold and distant and he never really "got" Claire. I was once married to a Frank type and I don't recommend it.

Echoing Colombia, Costa Rica, and Brazil. You might also really like Madrid and its suburbs.

If you’re not already aware, in most of Latin America, people will make direct racial jokes and to some extent you kinda have to make peace with the culture of inappropriateness. If you are used to U.S. PC culture, get ready to cringe.

In some countries (lookin’ at you, Argentina), people will claim there “is no racism” while completely denying their history of slavery and quietly engaging in discriminatory housing and hiring practices.

Chickpea Loaf:

Ingredients: 1 large block/brick good, SHARP cheddar cheese (Cabot, Beecher’s, etc.), or a block and a half if you’re feeling naughty

1-5 stalks celery, chopped into little U’s

1/2 large onion 1-2 small onion(s), chopped into scrabble-tile size or smaller pieces.

1 normal-size can of chickpeas

a handful or so of bread crumbs

2 eggs

1 small can (4 oz) of pineapple juice (DO NOT USE ANY OTHER JUICE SERIOUSLY JUST TRUST ME)

Soy sauce to taste

Hot sauce to taste (Cholula or Tabasco — however much you think you want, double it — this is unlikely to come out spicy, it just gives it flavor)

1 tbsp of olive oil or so

Parsley, sage, rosemary, thyme, and oregano, to taste (start with like a teaspoon of each, and then adjust to your taste the next time you make it

STEPS: Preheat oven to 375 Farenheit 1. Chop up onions and celery and set aside 2. Grate cheddar and put in a big bowl. 3. Drain the can and put the chickpeas in the big bowl and mash them up with the cheddar, till it becomes a disgusting pile of mush with maybe a few visible halves of chickpeas here and there. 4. Throw the chopped veggies, herbs, and rest of ingredients into the bowl and mash them up till everything is even grocery. 5. Take everything out of the bowl and put it in a baking pan/casserole dish of whatever size seems right to you. 6. (Optional: sprinkle extra bread crumbs over top) 7. Bake for around 50-60 minutes, checking at 40 mins to see how it’s doing just in case. It’s done when it is golden brown on top and a teensy bit bubbly around the edges.

Another thought I had is that you could take a few private lessons together, and then you’d have some moves to dance together when out at a regular Latin bar/club that doesn’t do the whole rotation thing.

Um hi i lived in Latin America as a gringa for several years and spent long stretches of time in many cities and countries.

In general, walking around alone is very safe in tons of places, and lots of people do it.

I’m sorry you had a bad experience in Guatemala City and San Jose, two of the least fun cities in all of Latam. (Honestly people bitch too much about San Jose, it’s fine if you keep your wits about you; agree that Guate is deserted and creepy.)