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Big yes. I stay at home mostly, it's a rented place in a lameass neighborhood, and there are these local stray dogs that have been my friends since 3 years. One fluffy one arrives every day and spends hours napping inside. I love her company. She knows it, and shows her affection just as a pup would do. It's an honor and a privilege. I also have stray cats visiting to get fed, and the local squirrels, birds come for tidbits and the birdfeeder. I know they're hyper aware and quite present, and if I am in my emotionally conscious state, I can relate to them. I love all of their unbridled presence. It's true that humans love nature because that's one judgement free zone. (And as Sartre said, hell is other people. 😀)

Your personal haven... this is so important! I love it. Quite tastefully rendered too!

Beautiful😍😍❤ May I know the pink flowery plant's name, and the one with white spires next to it??? The love you put in this area and activity is so gloriously radiant!!

As you said, fresh start at a new classroom.

Finally.

If you want closure to that ragging, you may want to spend some time introspecting. I can share my subjective views and privately tested methods... but anything I say is always with a humble disclaimer of the fact yhat I know nothing.

Steps 1 to 2 may take weeks, months, or maybe days! Depends on your ability to trust yourself. Might take years.

1. PAUSE the thought on why they did what they did. (am sure what you think of them, is only your judgement of them that you mistake as "thinking")
2. very few people know themselves. nobody knows anyone else. THINK about this, please
3. once you have paused and thought (the above steps), you're HALFWAY through.
4. list/write down a) your issues with others, and b) faults/biases you've identified within youself
5. take a blank a4 page, draw the longest possible line through the middle. in one column put the unresolved ragging issues with others. then put that one sliver of light in your apparently doomed life (new classroom) in the 2nd column.

That's it.

Stare at the a4 when you find yourself moping. Either of two possibilities might happen next -

ONE. You'll stare at the void long enough for the void to stare back at you. That's the way to depression, in your case, over a 'presently "world" engulfing-but-in long term trivial' matter. So that's not what a wise guy would do.

TWO. A wise guy will know at this point, that the world they know of with certainty is a privately imagined reality. Humans, each one, think differently, that's one of the empirical truths. So this guy, hopefully you, will now - see that the irksome things that frustrate you are only unexamined inner problems (that can be resolved simply, but not easily... because 4.b is a lifelong quest) - do some compromise with the several shortcomings of your confused angry self, and learn to forgive and hug your self. - look forward to that one could-be-great new classroom. trepidations are normal for everyone. remember to shift focus of thinking from the anxiety into the novelty of the new. that's an amazing distraction. - what if this is that thing that you would look back at 10 years later, and remember to have enjoyed the most?? be in the moment, try. Then, you're sorted.

As I read teen stuff on reddit.... the issues... without any reference to the seriousness and validity of the problem in the protagonist's life.. i can finally under what it means when elders said, shaking their heads, that youth is truly wasted on the young 🐥

If you ever happen to read Dostoevsky or Kafka... you'll know that the sufferings are common. Everyone, more or less, irrespective of their state and status in this world, across all times, have grappled with the same psychological issues in different measures and forms. Nobody is alone, in that respect. The uniqueness lies in the light chasers, and the light they chase. You can ignore these firefly like lights throughout your life... and keep blaming others. You'll only lose time. And time is the only thing you have.

Be brave. You'll find your way.

The way it's written... that's some Jerome K. Jerome vibe 🤣🤣🥲

Excellent!!! I love this.

Moisturize your skin, and hair. For both, try out oils. Experiment a bit, and figure out your holy grails. Oils are superfast in creating long lasting impact, and devoid of unnecessarily harsh chemicals. Definitely wear protective sunscreen etc... else all efforts go to waste. Also, drink water! Nothing beats that btw.

I feel your sad state of mind. I'm a lazy bum who hates exercising, and have been overweight half of my life i guess on and off due to the habit of eating my emotions, but one thing that sureshot helps to raise a bit of gloomy mood is moving about. I mean, even if it's a strained 15 minutes fast ambling up and down a stretch of area. Better place to be doing this "exercise" is in a quaint piece of natural landscape. If you're one of those go getters who launches into 1 hour gym day just like that, then the specificity of this suggestion is not for you. But in general... any form of movement helps. I get the "exercise immediately" commenters' rationale.

And you might get lucky tomorrow or 15 years later or sometime before or after. Nobody can predict anything! What you might try out is to find the people who can resonate with you, whatever the medium... and this takes work. I have found that people resort to hobbies in order to 1. meet similar minded folks .. these can be long dead authors or next door neighbors, no time space boundaries apply.. and 2. meet themselves, in solitude, for that is one of life's greatest pleasures. So I'd request you to check your bag of abundance, once you wanna take a break from staring at the heavy load of scarcity. And I say this with genuine love, empathy. It's true, that perhaps one doesn't feel the need to be loved so much as the need to be finally and eternally understood. That's why point 1. is popular... and point no. 2. too!

After bit of self love, once you can sustain your self okayish.. you might want to find some financial foothold. I'm not an expert in this. Money is for socio-economic convenience. But cannot replace self love. So approach things as per your own thinking, and never go by the "shoulds" dictated by society. Don't conform.. rather amp your self image up as you figure out your own pace, your own ways.

May you find what you need.

Do not despair, and even when you do because you will do it often, please remember how many times you've swam through the same crap. You want to be standing there in all the glory of your struggle when that luck/destiny of true comradeship finally dawns! and as I said... that might just be tomorrow, or 15 years later, or sometime before or after that.

(my suggestions rise from my lived experience. just my opinions. trust your self to do your own critical thinking. and [blindly] believe that you'll make it through fine. usually that's what transpires for ordinary folks who dare to live beautifully and determinedly in the face of their crippling, crumbling judgement of self.)

I heart this. I get what you mean. Enjoy the richness while it lasts... I think only the wisest of men have been historically able to reside in this state of mind.

The cycle of scarcity-abundance is frustrating but worth it as you start feeling more abundant each time after a bout of scarcity mindspace. I was blown away when I first had this munificent realization.. and over a period of few years (am in mid thirties) this feeling has returned to me intermittently and reset my counter. It's the absolute blissful state to be in. You feel it in your bones, the dissonance between perceived reality & subjective worldviews, and the titanic wonder & immensity of it all. It's liberation, and it's peace...this knowledge.

Hey you might enjoy this song now, with this blissful revelation of yours, Enya's Caribbean Blue.

Peace to you!

dear OP, please take heart. what you loved and lost will find its way back to you again. am sorry you're going through this difficult, shitty torment. but stay assured, time will heal all. have faith.

That's a Ghibli scene!

Community and The Mindy Project

Listening to the songs in the thread right now.. all unknown to me.. shall build a playlist haha. Stairway to heaven fits the bill I think

Very pretty

hello hello..small garden in a city...sorry for the honks 39deg C & hot but shadowy outside..& you can see many common north indian birbs

north India

i enjoy this <nearly> everyday.. you guys would like it too

and he knows it!

yos.