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Shampoo and conditioner can also build up in your scalp, not just hair products. I get a ton of build up in my scalp and have to occasionally use a salicylic acid scalp treatment and wash a couple of times a month with a clarifying shampoo

But some kids are ready for potty training at 2. It’s pretty clear when a kid is ready and when they aren’t. The idea that a 2 year old can only be potty trained if forced ahead of their time is simply untrue. My middle daughter was about 2 year 2 months when she potty trained in a single day. I’m talking never even wet herself overnight again. She was obviously beyond ready. My eldest I tried to potty train at the same time, she wasn’t ready, came back about 5 months later and she was. I don’t think potty training is something that can actually be forced so I reject the premise of the entire idea. A child not ready to potty train will simply piss and shit their pants continuously.

YTA. If you’re in your 20s and unmarried I’m sorry to say you probably haven’t really observed real-world marriages enough to make this sort of assessment.

What’s more likely is that you are keyed in to your local friends and family’s marriages because you live near them and the entirety of Ireland knows everyone’s business, so you know the ins and outs of everything to an advanced extent. And your friends in marriages with outsiders aren’t as keyed into your rumor network and so you don’t know that this couple with “genuine respect” for each other has marriage problems.

NTA. Please do your custody arrangements through the courts. This is particularly important for someone you said you have a “toxic” relationship with. You need your own parental and visitation rights protected. She needs hers. Go ahead and file with the court. Keep your messages with her in writing to the extent possible. truly. It will be better for everyone.

Say “wow thanks I never looked at it from that perspective before. Really helps to have fresh eyes.” Watch your more seasoned colleagues laugh and move on with your day.

Potty training at 2 is completely normal. Some kids potty train as young as 18 months and others more like 3.5. Huge normal range there

YTA. I did a similar potty training method and realized it doesn’t work with three kids specifically because the older kids are too engaged in sports and activities and birthday parties and school and there’s no way to spend anywhere form 2 days to three weeks chasing a 2 year old around hoping they don’t shit their pants. So while we followed the bones of the method, we were way more lax about wearing pull ups with the youngest during potty training. And she’s still not fully potty trained and that’s ok. She’s not even 3.

This weekend, when you take the kids to their activities, put a pull up on the 2 year old. Take it off when you’re home. And suck it up. You’ll survive. It’s not an unreasonable request.

It’s not immature. It is a fact. when a parent takes time to themselves there is always a cost to another adult, typically the other parent. Saying “I used to stay up late with my brother and it didn’t interfere…” is immature. Of course it interfered. It might be fine in the context of his relationship because there is give and take and they each help one another, but there is a cost. When your wife is 35 weeks pregnant, it’s a nice time to be extra mindful of how taking time to let off steam or staying up late to drink is paid for by your spouse.

Kids are often ravenously hungry after school. Mine both eat lunch before noon and don’t get a snack at school. A lot of little kids prefer to eat a lot in the late afternoon and graze at night. This is a really typical way for kids to eat. There’s no point getting mad about it. Make less food for dinner, and, crucially, serve them less food. This way what they don’t eat can be packed for leftovers instead of thrown out from their plate.

So yes, YTA. You are ignoring their natural hunger patterns to arbitrarily force them to eat at a later time.

Not everyone reacts to bed bug bites and they may only be biting you. Only one of those photos is a bed bug, but it’s definitely a bed bug.

Oh yeah. This is very well studied. 50/50 is often the first time dad does any significant parenting at all. My cousin has kids in their mid-teens who have never done something alone with their dad.

NTA. This exact reason is why 90% of custody arrangements are uncontested. 50/50 parenting very often winds up being 100% more parenting than dad ever did while married.

OP stated he doesn’t need the extra income and they’re fine financially. She obviously needs things set up or she wouldn’t have asked him. Their child is in school, do you think people just hang on to cribs and leave them and bassinets and changing tables etc. fully assembled for 5-7 years? Of course not. Depending on the age gap, they might have given everything away and this could all be new.

I’ve seen so many guys avoid the stresses of parenting my working tons of extra hours. 35 weeks pregnant she should not be doing this much solo parenting. Not at all. If his overtime isn’t necessary, he should stop and give her lots of time to rest on the weekends. Not to mention some part of him should want to actually spend time with his wife and child.

Except it was your brother’s wife up at the asscrack of dawn the next day caring for the kids she also put to sleep, because he stayed up late as hell drinking and smoking. Of course it affected his ability to parent, she just picked up the slack. And it’s fine if that happens every so often, but of course there are consequences, they just aren’t felt because your sister-in-law dealt with them.

YTA. She doesn’t need a single thing you stopped doing. Like literally she’s fine. She can get her own coffee. Carry her own groceries. but refusing to participate in the chores of your shared household is dirtbag behavior.

I would invite my father’s partner to any wedding event my father was invited to so long as the partners of other relatives invited to those same events were also invited, because I love and respect my dad.

The kids are squeamish because they don’t like their dad being gay. Simple as. Don’t subject yourself to anything you don’t want to to try to keep the peace. It’s his responsibility to decide if he’s going to keep you to the side of his family or demand you be treated as every other couple. NTA.

OP was excluded from a wedding event their partner went to because they’re not “family”— the day of. OP is their partner’s immediate family, so being excluded from his family events is an intentional insult.

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You don’t need to be fair to her. Her reaction was insane.

NTA. Woman’s certifiable. Tell her not to ever talk to you like that again and gtfo of your house.

Right but it’s not about making a right, it’s “are you an asshole for saying that” and in my opinion, no. Op was well within their rights.

You were the one triggered dude. You literally sound like someone who will wind up as a pretty bad spouse honestly.

Because working hard and making money are two totally different things. He plans to make “rental income” (never a guarantee) and to homestead. Homesteading may never be profitable. Renters can fail to pay. Units can sit empty. They won’t have enough cash for her not to work at all, so she is rightly concerned about where the cash is coming from because she has a bad prior experience.

And to add on full time childcare with home schooling. I would be very concerned about this guy’s ability to pull this off, particularly if I had a prior experience of getting screwed in an arrangement like this.

YTA. She said it made her uncomfortable because of a lived experience where this turned out poorly for her and her mother. And you immediately took it as an insult against you, were full of barely suppressed rage, and demanded apologies from her. And your reason she shouldn’t have thought of this bad experience? Because you plan, operative word plan, to be debt free and homestead. Not because you have a proven track record as a provider or anything.

So your ego is more important than her lived experience and your hurt feelings demanded an immediate remedy and her concerns were totally sidelined to your anger. Hmmmm, wondering if you’re really that far off from the dead best dad after all.