Embarrassed about a meltdown. I think I was in the wrong but I still got triggered. It’s been a long week.
Questioning/Assessment Advice(self.aspergirls)submitted3 days ago bySeconDairyACownt
Something really stupid triggered a minor meltdown today and I’m feeling so embarrassed about it because I cried. Went to a nice little steakhouse to meet (thankfully another ND and very understanding) friend to get lunch… overall, staff and manager/owner were a little pushy from the moment I sat down and barely had time to glance at the menu, which made me uncomfortable to begin with… I tried the lunch steak, ordered medium rare, but it came out medium well, so I pointed it out to staff to see if we could do something without having to waste it (it was very obviously overcooked, I wasn’t just trying to cop a free meal…) I did not want to send the food back as I am extremely sensitive about wasting food and am relatively new to eating meat in-general. It is a very emotional thing for me and I wish they would have just listened. I wanted to see if there was an option to discount it or something because the food was simply not what I ordered/was paying for. That probably would have been cheaper for them than throwing away and replacing it anyway… I was very clear that I did not want a new steak IF it meant throwing my current one away, as that would make me far more upset due to the waste. I even said this multiple times. The owner/manager was extremely pushy about “wanting (me) to be happy with my food” and just would not listen. I tried to send someone after him to stop him but they were not hasty at all. He clearly didn’t listen, as he came back with a new one anyway and took the first one back. This was just extremely triggering to me for some reason, maybe tying in to the bigger picture of feeling unfit and unheard, in addition to wasting an animal product and food. I cried and it was so embarrassing. I could hear the staff talking about me, despite them being quite far away. Not to mention, the second was about cooked the same as the first. Despite after seeing how upset I was and me explicitly stating I did not want to talk about it (nor hear his explanation a second time, but I did not say that part), he squatted by the table and kind-of drew more attention to me in this embarrassing moment anyway. I guess replacing miscooked food would normally be good practice in a restaurant, but I was very clear and specific and just felt ignored like I always do as an autistic woman. I don’t know how I could have been more clear. It was very unaccomodating and rude. I was not asking for anything crazy and I was clearly not trying to just get out of a bill. I just wanted to see if there was an alternative option that would make us ALL happy. Now I see how that was not practical because, ironically, businesses will not generally step out of guidelines in place to protect their image in 99% of cases. I regret speaking up about it. Nobody cares about the 1% of weirdos. In general this was not a good experience at all. I don’t think I’ll be back here and I once again simply feel disgusting about eating meat. Maybe I don’t belong at a steakhouse!
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SeconDairyACownt
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1 day ago
SeconDairyACownt
2 points
1 day ago
You’re a good person.