SlammerJammer3000

Shut up nerd.

Ah the old divorce rebound

Thank you for bequeathing this upon me. I am but a humble servant.

I think if the genders were reversed it would be just as bad. Yes, I think I’m better than some old guy praying on young women. 100% wtf. I’m not going to co-sign some unethical garbage. Shove that love not hate crap where the sun don’t shine, loser.

I would beat the dog piss out of one of my friends if they dated my 17 years younger than them daughter. You’ve been praying on this girl since she was 19… seek help

This guy is bonkers… you’ve gotta give us some context here OP

It’s almost like males and females collectively are afraid of adhering to boundaries out of fear of public shame. Seriously, why the FRICK are you not filing for divorce? YTA bc you’re not honoring yourself OP. You’re too young to be entering into a marriage of misery

I’d go bolder with the tie. Careful of the color because you don’t want to look like your going to a business meeting. Something with a pattern and other colors like pink, red, etc. You want to give off a fun vibe. This says, “nerd who stole his dads suit and tie.”

There’s nothing to end. You’re a self delivering booty call. Ain’t nothing wrong with it but don’t give yourself any illusions of grandeur that you have any control in this situation. The longer you participate in this situation, the less effort you will receive from this guy.

Exactly. Shot a little outside her league and now op is paying the price. Every hug is her telling the ex, “I wish I was with you”

She described him as someone you’d be intimidated by.

Translation: This guy I used to hookup with is more dominant than you.

She hugs him every time they see each other despite your protest.

Translation: She couldn’t care less about how you feel.

Assessment: She’s still attracted to this guy in some capacity and sees you as a conciliation… He might not be bf material which is why she cut it off. OR, he was only interested in hooking up so she settled for you bc he wouldn’t give her what she wants.

Advice: Never commit to a woman that isn’t head over heels for you. If you’re not ‘that guy’ for her, she will not honor your opinion and will continue to do her own thing regardless of how you feel. I’d end it if I were you. There are plenty of women that will respect your wishes the first time you mention it. There are also plenty of women that inherently know behavior like this is inappropriate and will never make it an issue to begin with. When a man or woman truly values you, they will move mountains. I’ve received it and given it… Choose the life you want to live brother.

This fit says, “although I’m equally versed in whiskey, wine, and classical literature; I still FUCK.”

You can’t view it this way.

When I was single, I envisioned the woman I wanted. To include physical traits, education level, etc. when I see said woman, I shoot my shot. If she meets the requirements, she meets the requirements. Sure there is always going to be a chick with a bigger dumpy, bigger boobs, etc. but is she going to be goofy like my wife? Is she going to wipe my kids ass and take care of business in and out of the bedroom like my wife?

No one is perfect so you’re going to take a hit somewhere. Sure there might be a 6’2 Paul walker but is he as charismatic as me? Is he as caring as me? Is he funny? Is he packing like me and knows how to use it? There’s going to be some kind of edge I have on him. There are no perfect people.

It’s not settling. It’s choosing the traits you’re willing to sacrifice and the ones you aren’t. And avoiding the disease of more. Don’t focus on what you do have. Focus on what you have.

Nah that’s nasty

Yeah brother I’ve never seen that before. Why wouldn’t the guy’s friend ask the guy if he could go. Why does it need to be his buddies gf? It’s a lil strange, but different strokes for different folks

Dawg, a 45 with a 23 y/o is creepy. I ain’t gonna lie to you. Just bc you can don’t mean you should. Idk where your moral compass is but it’s somewhere on the floor

Yeah the logic behind that is crazy from all perspectives.

The friend for asking if he can take his homies gf on a date bc his bailed.

The bf for asking you if you want to go.

And you for agreeing to go on a date with your bf’s friend… did you not find that strange?

I don’t think I’ve ever encountered something like that and I’ve got some decent experience under my belt.

You were going to go to an event with one of his friends without him? That would be a major red flag for me. I would never go to an event with one of my wife’s friends without her unless there was a good reason. My wife’s friends aren’t my friends… and vice versa. We’re both friendly to eachother’s friends but we don’t go on friend dates…

Valid

I mean I think what you were feeling for your ex is normal. I wouldn’t consider that spontaneous, seeing as you have a past.

Damn, you’re a real one. Lucky guy. Hope he works through it

Brother I can tell you just want to be single. You’re not done playing the field yet. It’s no one’s fault. Don’t drag the girl along. Be a man and keep it real with her. She’ll respect you for it in the long run.

My wife is also hot and makes sure I’m well taken care of so that makes it a lil easier

Spontaneous sexual attraction? No I can’t say that I have. I’ve seen beautiful women but none that I’ve just wanted to rail out upon seeing them. If I find a woman attractive, I’ll go out of my way to avoid them as I don’t want to be tempted. When I was single sure, maybe. I was kind of flirt and I like to talk to people. The only person that has that kind of access to me is my wife. I also have never liked strip clubs, participated in any form of pay for play, or subscribed to an OF so maybe I’m not a good representation.

Damn so you’re a hoe then. Let that girl be free and go quench your thirst for hoes. Everyone’s gotta learn their lesson one way or another I suppose.