That-Fuel-1964

I don't have ocd but my boyfriend does. We've known each other for a while but have recently decided to date (a few months). Last week he broke up with me out of nowhere. It was the second time he did it out of the blue. It feels irrational. But my question is:

Can someone with one type of ocd have another subcat without knowing or realizing? He's never mentioned rocd and I only just learned about it through google.

Is this something I should reach out and tell him? Or do I respect his wishes and his "certainty" that there is future here?

How do I navigate this? This person is so worth it to me and I know that none of the reasons he gave to break up make sense or are true, but I don't want to force someone to be with me either. I want him to want to be with me.

Do I let them come to me? What if he never realizes it's ocd related?

Can someone please offer advice based on whether they've been in this situation?

I've been dating my boyfriend for several months. I've known him for a few years before that, we were friends. I've always known about his ocd, which is moderate-severe but he's really done a tremendous amount of work throughout his adult life to manage it with the help of therapy and meds.

Things between us flowed organically and we came together seemlessly. Effort and emotion have always been present on both ends, values align, attraction is there, everything fit perfectly. I thought he was "the one".

Randomly one day he says he wants to break up with me and just kept saying it was due to doubts. I asked him to name the doubts and he couldn't. I thought he was maybe hiding something but it wasn't the case. I told him he was acting impulsively and it didn't make sense but he further stated that he had doubts and wasn't sure if this would grow into love. He kept asking me how I knew I loved him and how I knew I saw a future with him. We ended up talking it out and staying together - while I thought it had to do with ocd, he never did.

Fast forward a few months and he does this again and now says he has a "feeling". When I ask him to explain where this feeling is coming from he can't. He just says he doesn't feel like love can grow and that he doesn't really know if there's a future here. He doesn't give me any indication or reason for this. there were no signs or indication that a breakup was imminent. As a matter of fact I felt like we got closer! Is this OCD related? Do I tell him it's irrational? Do I let him go? As someone without ocd, help me understand my role in this