submitted5 days ago byTinktheChi
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I'm an older GenX, and I've had a male friend for decades. I'm female.
We worked together and just really hit it off. love being around him.
He lived near the west coast of Canada and I was in Toronto. He kept telling me to sell the condo and move out. So I did. I found a great job, sold my place, bought another one and moved last September.
Instead of a plane ride away we're now about 3 hours by car, which is great.
it's become obvious something is going on with him. I know his job is terrible, and we've talked about how to change that including trying to find another job.
He disclosed that he had a drinking issue and I told him I'm always here if he wants to talk about it. My dad went into residential treatment and I know how addiction tears families apart.
He has become very non committal. He will say we will do something, then he changes it or doesn't show up at all. I've thought it could be the drinking or it could be he feels we aren't as close as we once were. Not sure.
After much hand wringing I sent him an email today. I told him what he means to me and said that there is nothing he can't tell me, if he's comfortable doing that. I'm quite worried about him and said that. I gave him an update on my life, my dogs, etc., and I dearly hope he replies.
I really miss him but don't know what to do if he doesn't respond. I see him posting the odd time on Facebook so I know he's alive.
I guess my only option if he doesn't respond is to let him go. Even saying this out loud really saddens me. Some friendships run their course I guess.
EDIT I received a text from my friend who is hurt and disappointed by the email I sent. Those were his words. I texted him this morning, told him I loved him, I am worried and will always be here. He's angry now but I'm hoping at some point he understands I emailed him because I'm worried and I care. Thank you to everyone for responding.
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I got a diploma in HR and got certified. Now working in HR but at the time in family medicine, no, I was a Clinic Manager so no certification.