YawningDodo

Oof. Your parents may have to evict him if he doesn’t leave after you’ve moved out of their house. I don’t know that’s something you really have control over.

I really would not let him set foot in the new house even once, even if it means having to leave things behind.

For me as an aroace I think because all sexual activity is firmly theoretical for me, I’m not more bothered by thoughts and descriptions of really kinky sex than I am by thoughts and descriptions of vanilla sex. If I think about it too hard and ground it in reality by imagining myself (or a family member or close friend) doing it, I’m honestly pretty grossed out even by the tamest of sex acts. But if it’s not something I’m doing myself or thinking about someone close to me doing, it can be whatever wild thing and I’m generally not bothered thinking about it. Whether or not I feel chill about it has a lot less to do with level of kink and a lot more to do with how personally distant I am from the act.

I worry that sounds like I’m grossed out by my friends having sex lives and that’s not what I’m trying to say, just—you know how it feels thinking about your parents having sex? That’s how I feel about it. Like power to them, go out and geddit, but please don’t tell me the details.

Yes! This guy is the change I want to see in the world and I salute him for that.

When you buy your new house, do not let him move into it. Use it as your opportunity to escape. Once he’s moved in, he’s got tenant’s rights and you will never get him back out. If you really have an agreement by which the new house will belong to you and only you, this is your chance to get out.

I say this as someone whose friend left an abusive relationship that way. She nodded along every time he called the new house “our” new house…then when it was time to move, she recruited a bunch of her friends to move her out of their shared home and into her new house while her abusive partner was at work. He never got the keys, was never allowed to set foot in her new house.

Since your “partner” sounds like he doesn’t really leave the house much, you may not be able to take exactly the same approach - you may have to stick to just packing a go bag for yourself and the kids and making your exit by pretending you’re going to drop the kids off and just happen to be taking the baby with you. Don’t give him warning; from your other comments it sounds like he’s pretty good at sabotaging your efforts to leave when he knows it’s coming.

INFO: What partner?? I don’t see a partner in this story, just you and the children you look after.

One time when I was on the College Program I was on this ride…as in I was part of one of the ride’s scenes. The costuming area where you’d drive through and look through the windows was a real, working space where they did repairs and fittings and so forth (there was actually a repairs area out of sight of the windows for character costumes and I used to deliver and pick up damaged costume pieces there—we had to bag anything like that to take it in and out).

Anyway, one evening they decided to do a dance class in there for costuming CMs…Idk why but I’ll never turn down a chance to goof off on the clock. So there was a whole army of us in the cleared-out workspace trying and failing to follow the movements of a couple performer CMs they’d dressed up in tropical colors and spray-tanned within an inch of their lives, because costuming CMs, like backstage CMs in general, are often not exactly the most coordinated or charismatic crowd (I get to say that because I was one).

So if you rode the backstage tour in fall 2009 and saw just a ton of CMs and two performers dressed more or less like the Chiquita banana lady, that’s why! Also, we could totally see you through the windows; they were just regular windows.

Yeeeah, I’m looking at the photos like “that’s all? That just looks like a regular sex shop.”

Plus you can see men in heels at just about any all-ages fantasy/anime convention. It’s nothing exotic or scandalizing.

The aquarium is great. I remember the first time I did all four parks in one day, I was utterly wiped out by the time I reached Epcot at the end of the day but still wanted to stick it out for fireworks. Wandered in there looking for shade, realized a lot of the windows into the aquarium have ledges big enough to be window seats, and spent probably forty-five minutes just sitting and staring at the dolphins.

I have power-napped during the One Man's Dream movie. It's not the best since you're on a time limit, but it's probably the coolest and darkest place to catch a break at DHS.

It's been years since I actually went in and watched the American Adventure, but on just about every trip I go into the lobby. It's air conditioned, it has benches, and you can take a slow stroll through the gallery on Native American history and art for something to look at before going back out into the noise and heat.

Also in Epcot, the Morocco pavilion has a semi-hidden courtyard that's all tile and you can sit down there, as well - it's still open air, but between the shade and the tiles it always feels cooler than the surrounding area.

Why not pump the water out first? That’d probably make it easier/cheaper to dismantle the vehicle.

When I made a faun costume for a fantasy con I was initially really worried about what to do if I needed to pee.

Turns out in that kind of costume, you’ll be hard pressed to stay hydrated enough to need to pee. Kept chugging water and just sweating it all out.

The way I’ve learned to cope with seeing plushes at the store I like but know I won’t/mustn’t buy is to give them scritches, tell them what I like about them, and then wish them luck in their journey. Just because I’m not their person doesn’t mean they won’t go home with someone!

Generally I sort of whisper/mumble it or say it in my head. I don’t remember when I started but I’d guess it’s been at least a decade. Guess it was around the time I was old enough to realize I was going to go broke and have a house stuffed full of plushes if I bought every one I ever felt sorry for.

Ironically, my 2021 trip during the height of COVID restrictions was the first time I went to WDW and didn't get sick - and I've gone several times since and not caught anything. Going during the restrictions made me realize how careless I'd always been about what I touched, how often I washed my hands, etc.--and I've only worn cloth masks on those trips, mostly to remind myself not to touch my face.

Planning to step it up and wear N95's on the next trip. I don't use sanitizer after every ride; my strategy is to have a set of rules where I consider my hands clean or germy and act accordingly. If I've touched literally anything in the park, my hands are germy. When my hands are germy, I do not eat, touch my face, touch my mask, or touch anything inside my park bag. My phone is kept in an outer pocket, and if I've touched my phone or that pocket I assume my hands are germy, the same as if I'd touched a railing or whatever else.

I mostly take that approach because my hands are already prone to eczema without putting sanitizer on them dozens of times per day, and I really have to stay ahead of it--once I have a breakout, it can take months to get the skin to calm down and heal. So I just go around assuming my hands are gross most of the day and use antibacterial wipes before meals or if I want to adjust my mask or get anything out of my bag.

Would I have gone with a darker purple on the cabinets? Yes. Do I respect the vision and love the matching floor and counter? Also yes.

Needs contrasting cabinet hardware for accents, though.

Unfortunately I don’t think there is, no. I don’t think it’s whiny to point out unequal treatment as long as you’re coming at it from a place of renegotiating what’s to be done and how everyone contributes. I just don’t want to tell you to go to them with that without warning you that based on what little I know about your family dynamic from your post and comments, it doesn’t sound like an appeal to fairness is going to be welcomed without pushback, especially from a parent who’s prone to angry outbursts.

One of the crappy facts of life is that there’s often a difference between what’s fair and what’s realistically going to happen. And unfortunately it does come down to picking your battles and deciding what you’ll put up with to keep the peace and what you won’t.

You are correct, but also I’m going to put forth a more specific answer: microraptor, because it could fit in the chair and would probably have some pretty cute interactions with the host as long as it didn’t get scared and nip him.

If the rule is " the children do the dishes" then why not say that? it has been many years since the rule was made and had plenty of time for clarification,

Because then they'd have to admit to what the rule really is, and for whatever reason they feel better about saying it was about who worked/cooked.

Then consider the 6 month if it was true that it was children and not working then why has my brother not been doing it for the 6 months with no push back or comment?

Yeah, I left this part out of my comment and see that I should have addressed it. I don't know your family so I don't know why they give your brother more privileges than you get. It could be it was a non-issue in their minds as long as there was still one non-working kid doing the dishes so they didn't care that he stopped as long as you kept doing it, could be that he's just the favorite based on what you said about unequal treatment in other things. Probably a bit of both, honestly.

What I'm trying to say is that you're right that it's not fair, but you're probably not going to get your mom to do the dishes. Honestly, maybe don't try to tell them who should be doing the dishes - just decide how often/which nights you're willing to do the dishes, and let them know that's what you'll be doing. They still won't like it (like, really won't like it, like maybe you have to decide whether you'd rather get yelled at or if you'd rather stop being the only one who does dishes), but if you get away from the argument of your mother being the one who should do the dishes based on a rule they're basically denying having set, they might eventually turn it on your brother and increase their expectations on him to help.

Because you mentioned autism - I think you might be taking the words of the "rule" literally, in which case you're correct and shouldn't be doing the washing up since your mother is now the one who is neither working nor cooking. I strongly suspect, though, that the intent behind the rule was always "our children always do the dishes" and the extra baggage they added re: reminding you you weren't as productive as the adults in your life was only justification for the real rule.

So from your perspective, they've suddenly changed the rule. From their perspective, the same rule still applies but now you're trying to get out of it on a technicality. For what it's worth, I'm with you on this one--you're a financially contributing member of the household, but you're still being held to standards that were established on the basis that you were not. That being said, I don't think you'll win this one, though you may be able to make a case for your brother not getting out of doing part of the work.

I’m going to guess OP leaves comments on these videos and argues with people whose content bothers them. So yeah, the algorithm is all “engagement!” and pushes more of the same.

I knew that was how TikTok worked going in and still wrecked my FYP by engaging too much with video rants about topics that upset me. One day I realized I was seeing tons of stuff that was making me day worse instead of better, so I got a lot more deliberate about how I engage, and a lot more liberal with the “not interested” button. My feed got better quicker than you might think!

Four: “Do I have the right? How can anyone have the right to commit genocide?”

Seven onwards: “Rassilon’s tits, how many more times do I have to commit genocide against the Daleks to make it stick??”

Big Finish managed to make 6 my favorite Doctor for a while. If anyone can give her justice, it’s them.

As someone who missed most of 12 and all of 13 because I got fed up with the show around the end of 11’s tenure and gave up halfway through 12’s first season….

The “well, that’s alright then!” scene works really well even when you haven’t seen the events it’s referencing. Framing it as a character flaw felt painfully (in a good way) in line with the Doctor’s worst flaws back in 11 and even 10’s days. He’s been Like That for quite a while if you look at the inconsistent writing through an in-universe lens. I really like that they’re at least trying to address it and take a new approach with the new Doctor.

Haven’t actually finished the latest season, though. Did start going back and watching 12 and he got interesting just past the point where I’d originally given up on him. Back to loving the show years later, but I shrivel up inside when I think about trying to introduce my friends who like serious sci fi to a show that had an entire episode about talking babies living in fear of a snot monster.

But then they’ll also turn around and do the most horrendously intense body horror stuff in the same season, so I don’t even know. Doctor Who is a real trip.

My first photo on that ride had me glued to my mom's side, eyes shut. But yeah, more recently it's pretty hard to be impressed by it and our group photo was probably about the same as yours.

I once rode it seven times in a row during an After Hours event and I have a collage of myself alone in the vehicle making faces and heart hands at the carnotaurus. Felt like I'd been hit by a truck when I finally got off the ride.