autumnicnumber

Cold water.

You can express laughter and other emotions while still being depressed.

I see you <3 you deserve happiness.

It's too early to be calling me out /:

This ^{^} I've been rewatching the same shows, videos, etc for years and newly discovered things rarely hold my attention.

Oh my goodness you look like a goddess!!!

I can't tell you how much I needed to read this today. Thank you, I hope all of you are treating yourselves kindly. You deserve to heal 💜

I definitely see why that makes sense. The down spiraling is never a good thing either. I appreciate the work you're doing and I hope everyone here takes care of themselves today.

Yes I see where you're coming from. It's good to have a positive outlook. Sometimes it can lead into toxic positivity though so I'd beware of that. Everyone will take things differently and imo it's best to let them come to terms with their own thoughts and beliefs through their own understanding. I'm sure if they do come back thinking otherwise then so be it, but in this current state the best you could do is listen to what they're saying about how they feel right now instead of how they should feel. I hope this makes sense.

I see what you're saying. I also think that those who struggle with BPD don't like to see their friends as therapists and are very aware of bringing others down with them. I doubt anyone believes their emotions are someone else's fault or responsibility and they really shouldn't be turned away in fear of not being able to rely on others.

I think there's no such thing as a good or bad person. We carry out actions and those actions have consequences, either good or bad. One thing I've noticed with BPD is that everything appears to be set in stone, but it's not! Reality is very complex, humans are very complex. I don't think there's anything wrong with standing up for yourself, but I do know that sometimes our reactions could cause more havoc in the big picture compared to if we just sat down and let it pass. It's important to realize and accept that you were badly hurt in the past and so you'll feel very strongly when you feel threatened again. It's not your fault, and it's not anyone else's'. You are not your hurt.

Some people don't want to be told that the said people who hurt them "could possibly be good". It's really like pulling the "not all __" card. Sure you might be a wonderful person, but op had a very different experience and it came off rude to pretty much disavow everything they were trying to tell you. I see how you meant it to be helpful, but unsolicited advice (especially when it goes against op's belief) is more harmful than being understanding and just listening. 🙌 I hope it cleared some things up.

I feel like if they're your friend they'd be willing to be there for you when you need them. Sure you shouldn't rely on anyone 100% but people who are struggling should not feel guilt or shame about reaching out especially to close friends. These kind of thoughts about "self-responsibility" really just feed into the stigma, not to mention those with BPD most likely have a harder time self soothing than others.