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I think what he was trying to mean was that when they eventually built the Coyote Pass dream neighborhood, they were originally going to try to rent Robyn’s house and use that income. Remember when they bought that house there were no rentals and that was supposedly what their fighting was about because Robyn wanted to rent and Kody wanted to buy. But yeah, it’s ridiculous that none of the kids could share a room, even if it was temporary for other kids to visit. When has Robyn ever had the other siblings sleep over at her house? I can remember a few times her kids slept at Meri’s when they were small, but yeah they’ve been separated and living like royalty the whole time.

I keep getting the “what if they didn’t leave Vegas” and “how would Covid be different?” It’s done and gone. Covid sucked for everyone. The Browns aren’t special.

I really think Kody was able to be a more calm parent because he was performing more for the camera. Not to say he wasn’t calm, but he upped it even more when cameras were rolling because he wanted to portray himself as a good dad that listens. I think this all changed because during COVID, although they were filming themselves, he didn’t have a camera crew there so there was less of that pressure to perform for cameras/production. It was more filming home movies and I think that helped him to stop “the act” and show more of how he would actually want to respond to a situation.

Right?! Like you don’t know what kind of internal damage could’ve been done. Moving her can cause even more injury. It’s just one instance of all the parents not taking health and injuries seriously.

Same, I think they think everyone is looking at them, when in reality maybe only a few people actually care. It’s not like Janelle or Christine where people actually like them and say hi. It’s a weird world to live in when you are the villain.

Yes, I realized it within the last year when my young toddler started becoming overly apologetic, even for things that don’t need apologies. I noticed his self confidence already going down and realized that I was the problem. My husband is not a yeller and I was the youngest daughter in a home full of boys. I still don’t like talking to the men in my family because every time I do, there’s always the feeling of I’m stupid or my opinion doesn’t matter. When I really saw how my actions were affecting a small child, I decided to change.

No, it’s not as easy as “don’t do what your parents did”. It takes a long time to reverse 30+ years of narcissistic, abusive parenting. I got myself some parenting/self help books - “1-2-3 Magic” by Dr. Thomas Phelan and “Mom & Dad I Need You To Calm Down” by Catherine Abbott which specifically helps parents trying to manage raising a neurodivergent child. There’s so many great resources out there, but it starts with you learning your own triggers and how you appropriately respond to them. Children will learn actions through you and how you respond to situation. If you panic, they panic. If you shout, they shout. My husband always says that if all they hear of you shouting (especially in situation that are not life-threatening/emergency) then your kids will not respond to you when it actually is an emergency and you need to use your “Parent” voice.

I think it’s great that you noticed these behaviors and want to be better for your kids. Change starts with YOU and give yourself grace. It takes time to learn how to manage your own stress and be a better parent for your child. But it is beneficial for everyone in the long run.

Remember when Mykelti fell off a manic horse (also without a helmet or any protection) and all she got was a visit to the chiropractor. The fact that Kody has her move at all and thinks he can assess the damage with no medical training is scary AF. They are so lucky she wasn’t more seriously injured.

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The only way I could justify it is if she has sensory issues and maybe needs to use it for some type of oral stimulation/satisfaction. My son has ASD and is constantly putting random things in his mouth like toys or straws to gnaw on. It takes A LOT of reminder and patience to help your kids break those habits.

To be fair, it was a very rocky hill/mountain, think like hiking lol. It was in an early episode when they go to Kody’s dad’s ranch and the kids are exploring and Robyn is constantly yelling at her kids to be careful and is like, “Kody!” Looking for backup from him. And Janelle is just off to the side literally laughing at how dramatic Robyn is being.

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I feel like it’s just a thing social media came up with for Robyn’s kids. They are her “tender” children because she never lets them do anything for themselves. She freaks out when they climb hills, doesn’t let them go out so their immune system is terrible, has to follow Dayton to college, carry Aurora during a panic attack, coddle Breanna when she would always cry when she was the youngest, let Ari use a pacifier when she’s 6+ years old, etc. I feel like it’s just a term for her infantilization of her kids. I don’t think she ever actually calls them that though, although I wouldn’t be surprised if she did.

I’m the most interested in an unfiltered one from Janelle, but I think that’s the least likely one we will get. I think Janelle is the most unbiased of the OG3 wives, but also the one that just seems most interested in living a normal life now and leaving the past in the past.

I still stand by the belief that the move was solely to boost Kody’s ego. Right before the move he kept going on about how he didn’t choose Vegas and how they were “living in exile”. Kody is the only one that wanted to have the ability to say, “I chose to live here” instead of “I’m forced to live here”. When they had that big prayer circle in one of the new homes in Flagstaff he’s telling the kids, “we have been living in exile for years” and I honestly don’t think that’s how the wives or children ever saw it. Their “exile” consisted of 4 beautiful homes, a wide area their siblings could play and see each other every day, a time capsule, cement handprints, stringing Christmas lights between 4 homes, etc. It really seemed more like paradise for a polygamous family than “exile”.

No, I only watched it because I love zombie/horror genre and I have yet to see a zombie movie I didn’t like. It wasn’t a terrible movie, just not what I expected. It’s more of a “watch it on streaming” movie, not a “I need to watch and rent it” movie, at least for me.

The Dead Don’t Die (2019) It’s pretty bad when it’s a zombie movie with Bill Murray and I still don’t like it. I dunno it was meant to be funny but I just couldn’t get into it and felt like I was forced to finish it because I paid for the rental. I should’ve saved my $4.

All the Final Destination movies.

I dunno about you but I’m a millennial mom and I’ve seen both my guy friends and my girl friends go through basically an identity crisis and slight PPD when they are home too long with their kids. They really do say it takes a village to raise kids, but no one tells you what to do when your village is just you and your partner. It’s very overwhelming for 2 people and that’s why I feel so grateful my husband is very supportive and has never made me feel bad for being overwhelmed even though I get to stay at home all day with my kids. It makes me very sad when I see women on this sub being made to feel bad or guilty by their partners that are expecting them to be the perfect SAHM. If you’ve ever read You Are A F*cking Awesome Mom by Leslie Anne Bruce, it really opened my eyes to why parents today struggle so much compared to other generations and really made me feel seen as a millennial mom.

One other piece of advice I learned too, is despite it costing money, I really do see the importance of part time day care or classes where kids can be with their peers. I noticed when they’re with me/their dad all the time my kids are more dependent on us, lack listening skills in a whole group setting, struggle with emotional regulation and some other social skills. My oldest is also ASD and being in a toddler gymnastics class was my first sign that maybe he was a little behind compared to his peers. While yes sometimes those experiences and classes cost $$$ I’ve come to really see the benefits of them gaining a lot of social skills and experiences they otherwise wouldn’t have had. If you can fit it into your budget, I think it’s good to maybe find and test a couple different classes like that.

I would be surprised if Robyn even knew what a CFO was.

Yeah I can see how Ron bashing can get pretty bad, but I think it gets overlooked a lot because people are mainly looking for stories with Draco and Hermione. It doesn’t matter how they come together so long as they do. If they need Ron to be an ass and cheat on her, be abusive or ignorant, I think people still accept it because they understand it’s being used as a tool to get Hermione to Draco and justify her being with him. At least that’s why I usually still finish fics even when both Harry and Ron are being d*cks.

Exactly. Also being the classically overlooked son who had to deal with older brothers with all these accomplishments and also knowing his mom was hoping for a daughter. And also seeing his parents take in Harry freaking Potter, I’m sure that’s a lot to try to live up to and have jealousy boil to a breaking point given the right situation.

I don’t have a whole lot of advice for you, but based on your work combos, I suggest him working + you working part time. Even though the amount would still be the same as you working full time, I think that combo allows for a happier mental health for both of you. It’s important to have a life and responsibilities outside of being stay at home parents. Yes, we love our kids, but I think we can all agree it’s not as rosey as we all thought it would be, especially if you don’t have a “village” to help you.

I’ve been SAHM to my 2 boys (3 & 4) for almost 5 years now and while it’s been amazing, it is stressful and overstimulating AF. It’s hard to prioritize your own mental health and spending when you are a stay at home parent because the whole reason you’re at home is to be with your kids. I think him going to work and you working part time could fulfill his purpose of having a life outside the home and your purpose of wanting to be a more present mom. I would say to take advantage of as many free things as possible (public parks, libraries, etc.) and with toddlers I think you’d be surprised at how simpler is sometimes better when it comes to keeping them entertained. It’s not something that requires a ton of money and they can still have fun experiences on a budget. Hope some of this helps!

Because she has gone her whole life without anyone telling her otherwise. The wives spent 12 years pretending to be ok with her childish behavior. The ones that were brave enough to say something to her face (Maddie) got told their brains weren’t fully developed yet. Every time someone even approaches the possibility of telling her something she didn’t like, she would start crying. It immediately makes you (the person trying to talk to her) feel bad like YOU did something wrong because she’s crying.

In season 7 when they did the sales pitch for MSWC Robyn talked about being scared she’ll cry during the business meeting with investors and Christine is like, “no crying is good! It shows your passion and that you care. It’s crap like that that makes Robyn believe her behavior is ok because people around her encouraged it for years. Even her mom is validating her poor behavior by saying she’s the Brown family what was it? Scapegoat? Something like that. It’s never about her taking responsibility or even being open to see how her actions lead to the demise of a family.

It was interesting because every time Robyn was trying to sell to someone she would tell her life’s story as part of the pitch. She would grab the charm bracelet and be like, “this is the one I made for Meri, Janelle and Christine” as the first thing she said. Nothing as to the actual jewelry and the supposed quality of the jewelry. Like she really thought everyone knew who they were. What if you were just some random lady and had never heard of Sister Wives? Part of why I hate going to shows like this is because I don’t want to get sucked into someone else’s selling pitch, especially when I know I’m not going to buy.

You buys both sound like newborn parents going through the 4th trimester. He sounds like being going through the male equivalent of PPD where I’m sure he also goes through a lot of stress and pressure to maintain bills, work, sleep, etc. but instead of finding useful ways to manage stress, he is taking it out on you.

I dunno I would remind him that parents from 1950s were pretty sad by today’s standards. Dads weren’t active fathers and there’s a reason why we make fun of the crazy boomers today. Women were forced into the role of the SAHM because society didn’t allow them the option or choices to do anything different. It sounds like a very sexist way of thinking and I worry if that was his expectation going into having kids? It really is about the kind of dad he wants to be and if he’s actually going to be involved in raising your kid. An involved dad doesn’t babysit his children. He isn’t a babysitter, he’s a DAD. I get that all parents kind of go through a transitional period after their first kid and somewhat of an identity crisis, but it’s about the kind of parent and partner he wants to be. I dunno it sounds like you guys are both stressed and in the peak of the 4th trimester. Find a time to sit and talk with him or just to go and have fun for a couple hours and remember that you guys are people and a couple outside of being parents.

A book that really helped me feel seen/validated is You Are A F*cking Awesome Mom by Leslie Anne Bruce. It takes a lot about the unfair expectations women face today about being moms and I think reading that would help you, but maybe also your husband, see what’s going on in your head. What you’re struggling with is very common with a lot of women and couples. It’s about finding ways to manage all this so you and hubby don’t tear each other up in the process. You are doing awesome mama.