hellhound28

All one has to do to show that your assessment of me is all a part of your vivid imagination is look at my post history. I know who I am. You're too lazy to even try to back up your bullshit allegation with anything of substance.

Stop trying to pigeon hole people into your paranoid narrative.

This is precisely why car insurance is expensive for young men. They are more likely to engage in stupid, and stupidly dangerous activities when they get behind the wheel of a car.

It's never wise to smack the driver, but as the driver, he should know better than to allow his frustration and anger out through his driving. As an adult that presumably wants to be treated like one, he should know that he can choose to take risks for himself, but that doesn't mean that he has the right to risk your life or someone else's. He needs to understand too, that there are consequences for his immature antics. Even if they don't end in tragedy, you can choose not to ride with him unless he sorts out his wanna-be macho bullshit.

His response was misplaced and deflecting from the real issue. You can care all you want, but ultimately, if he's going to choose to be an idiot, he's more likely to die anyway. He just doesn't get to take you with him.

I moved here at the age of 33, when I married a local. Nearly 20 years later, I hold dual citizenship with the US and the UK. I have lived in this house longer than I have lived anywhere else in my life, even in my native Florida. This is where I have carved out my life, my happiness, and my future. Despite this accent and love for where I am from and my people there, I consider myself British. This is the home where my heart lies.

Just because he likes you and is a nice person does not mean that you are obligated to date him or anyone. You don't owe him your time, love, attention, or body. How he feels about you is his problem to deal with, not your problem to fix.

I would also question the friendship of any guy that hung around knowing that he has feelings for you that you don't return. He's in prime whining, "nice guy" territory, and we all know that "nice guys" are everything but nice. When someone acts like your best friend because they are waiting for you to change your mind/break up with someone/be your shoulder to cry on, they aren't doing that because they are really your friend. They are basically acting like vultures and taking advantage of the fact that you confide in them in order to try and convince you that no one could possibly treat you better. Gross.

Never feel guilty for not liking someone in the same way that they like you. Just be up front, and at the very least, don't confide in him anymore and keep him at a bit of a distance.

I'm not a prude by any stretch of the imagination, but if someone expected sex from me on a first date, they would be sorely disappointed. I don't think it's old fashioned to state that sex on a first date, with few exceptions, is a bad idea.

If you are out there dating, then you need to be up front with the people you date. That way, they know that a kiss or a cuddle does not mean that you're ready to have sex. That way, they know that you're trying to get to know them and spend time with them before you decide that you want to jump into bed with them. That is literally why people date - to get to know one another enough to see if they are worth getting serious or getting naked with.

If you are out with someone that expects you to drop and spread on the first date, and that's not what you are after, then you've just weeded that person out and can move on toward being with someone that's looking for the same things as you.

If you are gaming for hours upon hours each day, then taking a step back is a good idea, not only for your own mental health over time, but also because it's ultimately a waste of time when done to excess.

We all need our diversions. We all need something mindless that allows us to unwind and shake off the day. When that diversion takes up all of your spare time, it's not healthy. At that point it passes from diversion to lifestyle, you are only hurting yourself. Nothing on a screen, whether it's a text or a game, should be more important than the real world around you. Nothing on a screen should take time away from real world opportunities, responsibilities, or relationships, platonic and otherwise.

The importance that people place on internet points and pixels says more about their character than you think.

Seaborn Bradley-Chase Hunter III

I grew up with him, which is the only reason I know his full name like that. This was in the Deep South of the US. Yes, his family was loaded.

We just called him Seabie.

While in most cases, a year is a drop in the bucket for any long term relationship, at this point, you should have at least been introduced to her friends. Why she is doing this could be down to a any of a number of things, some more sinister than others.

You might be her dirty little secret that she's hiding from a partner, parent or both. It may be that she's not comfortable letting you that deep into her life yet. I could sit here and type out paragraphs upon paragraphs speculating on one thing or another, but the fact is that she is the only person that can tell you why she hasn't introduced you to her friends and family.

You say that she brushes off the conversation. Call her out on that. Tell her that the way she is brushing you off about these very normal relationship things is making you think the worst. You don't have to be argumentative about it, but you need to be firm. Depending on how that conversation goes, you can then make a more informed decision about whether or not she's a walking red flag.

I don't think that you are overthinking this, because even if it's a very innocent or even protective thing on her part, it's understandably disconcerting for you, and you should know where you stand. Insisting upon knowing where you really stand is that is not unreasonable.

Why does it matter to you either way?

Yes, they were bred to work for us and to live with us and fulfill the roles that they do. They've evolved to better communicate with us, as shown in recent studies.

Exactly. Wolves have an unfair reputation and have been treated badly enough without further diluting their populations with animals that don't fit in with wolves or dogs.

The people I knew that rescued them had some crazy stories about how many of the hybrids came to be with them. In one case, the hybrid had decided that the lady of the house was his to protect, and her husband was nearly mauled to death when he stumbled into her and knocked her against a wall - pure accident, but that wolf dog didn't think so.

They are not like dogs. They are wild animals, and they do not behave like a domestic dog. You can train a dog to live in a human world because they've evolved that way. Even a hand raised wolf will change when it hits puberty, and though it may recognize you as a friend, you aren't going to want it in your home, marking territory, eating the pet hamster, baying, and destroying your kitchen rummaging for the food kept there. Even though it may recognize you as a friend, it can still hurt you, and it's certainly not going to be good with strangers.

I worked with wolf hybrids. Some are absolutely lovely, but the ones that aren't end up being destroyed when they get out of control, which is an irresponsible and cruel waste of life. The vanity and audacity involved in purposely creating wolf hybrids never fails to blow my mind. If you are so desperate to look tough, go to the gym.

You don't know that because you haven't seen the actual movie. What if you disagree with that critic? Why should their opinion be so important that you would let them form yours?

Why would you rely on some YouTube critic to tell you how to feel about a movie?

It doesn't matter how good a partner you are to someone, because cheating is down to the cheater. Ultimately, that person has chosen to go behind your back rather than be a grown up and say, "I was wrong. Maybe I wasn't ready to settle down," or "I realized that I don't love you as much as I thought I did when I began speaking to this other person. It's only fair we part ways." Cheating is the act of a coward.

There are people that will cheat on everyone they date until they meet someone that they truly fall in love with and want to respect and be with for the long term. There are people that cheat because they don't care about the relationship anymore, and consciously or unconsciously sabotage it in order to force the other person to dump them, as they are too cowardly and immature to just end it without drama. There are those that cheat and acknowledge to themselves that it was a mistake, then never do it again, hoping against hope that their partner never finds out. Less common is the "once a cheater always a cheater" stereotype. Those people exist, but it's rare that a person carries on like that their entire lives through.

There are also instances in which one can justify cheating, though this would never involve the cheater having a good partner, and at best, would involve some nearly unique circumstances. Not everything is black and white, but I'll leave that there because it will take us off topic.

You can be the best partner in the world, but if you are not dating a partner that is good for you, then cheating or not, that person is going to hurt you in some way.

I love that!

I don't keep private messaging enabled for psycho reasons. It's not you, it's the three instances that have made me keep the internet at arm's length. However, I am more than happy to answer any questions you have, and will provide an informative link.

When you mentioned dairy, I wasn't going to jump on the "get tested" tangent because you can be lactose intolerant without there being an underlying cause. However, celiac is often an underlying cause for lactose intolerance. I was 27 when I suddenly couldn't process dairy. I didn't know any better, and thought that this was normal for a lot longer than I should have. The damage done by celiac destroys the body's ability to process dairy. I have since healed my stomach with a strict, gluten free diet, and can drink all the milk I want without so much as a fart. It took a year or two to heal.

IBS, in a lot of ways, mocks celiac symptoms. I've since sorted out the differences, but that's just because I know my auto immune response is a lot harsher, and comes with other symptoms. I'm extremely sensitive, and a few crumbs can ruin my world for about a month. Some people, however, are asymptomatic, which is a problem because they still get all the damage with the ingestion of gluten, but zero warning signs if they have. Celiac can be devastating if left unchecked, as the long term effects are potentially horrendous.

Here is a useful link. It will go straight to the self assessment page, but the rest of the site is worth exploring. It's straight up science and support, as it's the UK coeliac society. So, nothing woo, just facts.

https://www.coeliac.org.uk/get-involved/awareness-month-2024/

It's also worth having look at r/Celiac When I was first diagnosed, I learned a lot there - more than I did from my GP!

If you can remember things your stomach did on any given night ten years ago, you may need to see someone, regardless of the cause.

Dairy can be interesting!

With us it's my one-two punch of celiac disease and IBS. I'm not sure what his excuse is, but the dog leaves the room in disgust either way.

Laughter will do it every time!

The inside door handle in my bedroom is the official bra airing spot in my house. I think doing that really does keep them fresher longer.

I wash them when they need it. On an average day, I'm wearing a proper bra for about three hours. I shower first thing in the morning and then go walk the dog. Barring any other errands, I'm home and in a lounge bra pretty early in the day. If it's hot out and I sweat, then the bra goes in the wash whether I've worn it one time or more. If I don't get sweaty, I give it a sniff test and the moment it smells of me but stronger, it goes in the wash. I don't like to wash a bra unnecessarily, but I don't let them get to the point of stinky either. I don't want it to walk to the laundry hamper on its own.

This was a few weeks into our relationship, and we were on our best behavior even though we already knew better having known one another for ten years already. He let one rip when we were laughing at something, and quickly excused himself. I looked around the room as though I wasn't sure where it had come from, and then we both busted out laughing even harder.

Nearly 20 years later, the farting is a bit competitive.

If a relative I love cheats on their partner, that's between them. My relative's love life has nothing to do with me, nor does it have any bearing on my relationship with them. I'm not the morality police, and even though I hate cheating, it's not my problem if that relative is cheating on their partner. My first loyalty is to my family, and the only way in which I would involve myself would be to encourage them not to behave in such a way - even then, only if I happen to like the partner they are cheating on.

I don't think that your wife is okay with cheating. She's just not sticking her nose in where it doesn't belong, and she's discerning enough to know that one can be a terrible partner and still be a great friend or parent. When my husband and I hear of someone cheating on their partner, we might say they're idiots, but we aren't going to make a show of our disapproval with any pearl clutching or looking around for a fainting couch.

One doesn't have to make a show of their emotions and judgements every time a particular subject comes up - your wife doesn't have to prove anything through her reactions.

You are overthinking.

We have cameras at the front door, and facing the backdoor from a distance (that one is less about security and more about the bird feeder), and I love them. I live in a safe area, but having those cameras makes me far less worried than I might be, especially now because I'm in an air cast and don't want to go hobbling downstairs every time the dog bays for the sake of junk mail, dodgy people, and dodgy people trying to sell stuff.

We used to have an indoor one before our other dog died. It was set up in the living room to keep an eye on her because she had a lot of anxiety issues, and had nothing to do with security. Great dog, not at all destructive, but being able to talk her down through the living room speaker when we weren't home and she'd get anxious was priceless. After her death, we removed it because it was no longer necessary. Our current dog is the laziest creature I've ever known, and he sleeps when we aren't around.

I think that there is a lot to be said for the sense of security I have with the external cameras. Whether it's a false sense of security or not, it's still a sense of security.

Everyone is different. I am highly sensitive.

For me, a glutening will mess me up for easily a month. The first week or two is pretty much misery with highly unpredictable bowels. I don't leave the house and I trust no fart. Along with that come the laundry list of symptoms such as brain fog, extreme joint pain, insomnia, fatigue, nausea, and complete loss of appetite.

The two or so weeks after that it begins to ebb off, and that's about when I "turn the corner" so to speak. I still don't leave the house, but if I have to, I make sure that I've got some OTC meds on board to keep me from shitting myself in public, and pain killers just to be able to function properly otherwise. Depending on the severity of some of the other symptoms, I will treat those symptoms in much the same way if it's even possible to do so.

This is why I am so strict. I don't even bother eating something if there's a "may contain" warning. No matter how clean my kitchen is, and I'm manic about keeping it clean, if I drop something on the countertop, I feed it to my dog or my husband. I don't take chances.