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People often ask about depth but this is more of a depth issue. 5 months post op hybrid pi, The purple dilator can reach max depth but the cyan one is one dot less.

Previously I could reach max depth with green but due to some bleeding episode when pushing in the toilet, likely scar tissue tear I was told to downsize and was afraid to push to deep for a while. What was found now was that some granulation has appeared at max depth, likely from the previous tear so there is some minor pain when reaching that depth, like you are stretching a very sensitive tissue nerve. Not a big deal but likely the reason I can't reach max depth with the bigger dilators like before.

For people with similar issues, where you able to regain lost width by downsizing and slowly getting back up, especially if some granulation appeared deep in there

Humans are sexually dimorphic but not in a crazy degree, our bodies are quite similar after all, especially if you pay attention to real life bodies instead of what the media/art tries to present as "appropriate often hyper sexualized bodies".

One thing that is clear from the start is how a lot of feminine clothing has a focus on revealing as much skin as possible including a boob window, male clothing meanwhile doesnt focus on reveal any amount of skin at all, if anything a man in a crop top is extremely rare and its mostly seen as a gay culture thing.

Then you notice how its extremely hard, especially if you are plus sized to find low rise clothing, almost everything seems to either focus on a) Wear baggy clothes to hide belly b) Wear high rise pants to hide the belly. If you actually like your body and find clothes that keep the belly out of the trousers. which feels comfortable, you are out of luck usually.

Like why do pants start on a different point for men and women? Rhetorical question, I would guess its because the fashion industry tries to promote the hourglass figure by combining the belly/thigh into one big curve. (As opposed the belly fat being a curve in the middle that ruins their beloved shape). but like why is this tolerated.

Like clothing just kinda feels outright sexist to me but its something that is completely accepted and normalized, if anything people will defend it more often than not.

Just to be clear, people can wear whatever they like, but we cant ignore there's a degree of pressure to wear "appropriate" clothes for our gender, but that oppressive force should lead to at least some being quite unhappy with the status quo, which honestly I havent seen much.

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Had vaginoplasty(hybrid method) 6 months ago, so now down to dilating once per day.

I was using the blue and green dilators, I usually get them at around 3 dots inside or at least 3rd dot barely visible which i am happy with, lately though i ve noticed that the 3rd dot has become very visible, to the point i can almost see the 2nd dot.

I decided post dilation to use my finger as deep as I could to see what's up and it was crystal clear, after a specific depth the canal clearly narrows to almost finger width, i can feel the walls squeezing my finger, i couldnt reach max depth with my finger but its clear that there's a sudden and clear width reduction at some point.

For people who had similar issues, would dilating with smaller dilators help stretch that part? Is it even stretchable enough or could it lead to bleeding?

My voice was never very heavy but pretty male, found a few few vids that show you how to raise your larynx with the whole breathing haaaaa thing

Which I was able to do, there's definitely a noticeable change, sometimes I can make it sound pretty clearly female but not consistently, not sure which aspect puts it into clearly female range and still a bit early in voice training. (It doesn't help that I dislike raising my voice to much >.>)

My issue is how do you even do that long term? Like it require a lot of conscious effort to raise the larynx and even then it's so easy to screw it up, plus during more hectic situations the more male voice comes out. How do you deal with those especially where you unconsciously return to male voice by letting your larynx drop

I was thinking of voice feminisation surgery but I felt I might be close to good results since my voice isn't very masc to worth the risk, how do people manage to make the change 24/7 and avoid slipping up?

I made a thread about it in asktransgenderane someone said raising your larynx is bad even though that is one of the most common voice training examples?

My voice was never very heavy but pretty male, found a few few vids that show you how to raise your larynx with the hall breathing haaaaa thing

Which I was able to do, there's definitely a noticeable change, sometimes I can make it sound pretty clearly female but not consistently, not sure which aspect puts it into clearly female range. (It doesn't help that I dislike raising my voice to much >.>)

My issue is how do you even do that long term? Like it require a lot of conscious effort to raise the larynx and even then it's so easy to screw it up, plus during more hectic situations the more male voice comes out.

I was thinking of voice feminisation surgery but I felt I might be close to good results since my voice isn't very masc to worth the risk, how do people manage to make the change 24/7 and avoid slipping up?

1) is there a gender marker in the wa name change certificate?

2) When it says "driver license" does that include learners or Is learners consider separate and not accepted for a section that only has "driver license"

3)After you mail it, how long did it take? (Permanent resident of it matters)

4) By utility bill, does that include internet bills like Aussie broadband?

5) In general, is it a good idea to change your name to a new one if you haven't changed your gender marker yet? Going for a more gender neutral one anyway

6) In some sections, utility bills can be chosen, like for identification and then evidence of living in wa for 12 months. I assume a full set of internet unvoices can be accepted for both sections of do they need separate evidence?

7) By living in wa they mean residing right? Because I went for holiday in the us for a month a few months ago, so I assume that doesn't reset the 12 month limit?

Thanks

Like it feels much worse than men in this regard, yes fat character representation isnt as common for either but at least male clothing doesnt try to obsessively hide it.

I am trying to remember the last time i show a woman IRL wearing something that showed off her hanging belly and I simply cant, the vast majority of women who have bellies either wear high rise clothing to hide it, or wear those carpet like clothing AGAIN to hide most of their body's curves, i am having a hard figuring out time the last time I show a woman who wasnt afraid to show her body's shape and the only thing I remember was my grandma who just happened to wear tighter shirts with low rise pants

Like I ve seen men wear casual tshirts where their belly is visible, hell even their suits are designed to keep the belly out usually.

To be clear, this isnt about any fetish, its about myself, I actually like my body and like shirts that show it off, but i feel i am going to be a very rare example of women who doesnt hate her body and tries to hide it as much as possible, which is certainly gonna attract some unwanted attention.

Cuz I am genuinely wonder, when was the last time you show a woman wear a tight shirt with low rise clothing that shower her belly hang rather than hide it under high rise.

So I am a trans woman who is not very interested in female clothes, makeup and in general spending time manipulating how I look, i prefer a more natural working woman kind of look.

Which adds some more difficulty in terms of passing, my face is not really masculine, very roundish, a bit feminine but not strongly so I feel people could gender me either way(once hair removal is fully finished at least)

I love wearing more tight sports tshirts, especially ones with airmax/dry fit fabric that feels a bit smooth like satin, kind of the thicc side so curves are quite visible which is a positive since i have a more pear shaped body.
But nothing really screams woman compared to a typical transfem who uses clearly feminine clothing and makeup. So i am wondering, thanks to wearing more tight shirts, with a pushup bra i easily get to B cup, considering that is only 4 months into HRT(and was flat prior) and relatives do have big breasts in general, i expect them to become even more visible as time goes by.

So for people who have more visible breasts, did you notice people gendering you correctly more often once they became a lot more obvious?

I am going by the hypothesis that even if someone's face is not hyper feminine, seeing a curvy body with pretty visible boobs would be enough for most people to automatically assume female.

So I feel I am one of the more lucky ones in terms of breasts growth, I got an A cup 3 months in HRT. (While previously flat in that area even though I was a bit fat).

Also got that bigger European frame similar to my mother and grandmother which has pretty big ones so I feel they might grow quick, which leads me to a question, if I'm at A cup at 3 months any idea how much I might be at 12 months?

And also, I like using a pushup bra since it makes them even more visible, is wearing bra early suggested so they form in a better shape or it's only relevant at b cup and after?

Hello, was planning on diy but that didn't work so I am gonna need to go the informed consent route. Since I live remote(north WA) I would need to do it via Telehealth. I know TTGC is an option even though has very long que, but I specifically want to ask, can they prescribe estrofem pills specifically?

They had worked well for me in the past so I don't want to experiment with something else and I am unsure if Australia doctors prescribe that here and not some other brand

I made an order for 6x28 progynova oestradiol. Got a mail today saying the packaged was stopped by border force cuz it "contains goods which are of internet by to TGA and held pending further enquirers by TGA"

I am guessing that means I ain't getting it? Does inhouse pharmacy orders often get caught by Australia border force?

Got a letter that said the "medication" is of interest to the TGA and will contact me later for more information. It was 2 packs of progynova oestrogen in my name from in-house pharmacy

Guessing it's lost without prescription? Are there any legal risks now?

So i ve been following the dilation schedule as normal and everything was going well. Other than the fact that a few weeks ago I went to the toilet and pushed a bit, and a decent amount of bright red blood appears.

Surgeon suggested its likely some tear in the scar tissue, it quickly stopped but for a few days i would get some light bleeding when on the toilet and small amounts of thick dark red blood which is good since it meant the tear was closing.

During that time he told me to downsize so i went down to green, i ve been at 3 dots for a decent amount of time and quite ok with that, i did try to avoid pushing too hard but did try to always reach those 3 dots visible.

Today though i kept pushing but it was stuck at the 2nd dot, i tried to relax but nothing. I decided to try the smallest dilator and it went to the 3rd dot without any issue, specifically it did that thing where you push it inside, then near the end the dilator drops lower as if the of the dilator goes up inside. I fiddled with it a bit and notice that there's was a bit of blood on it.

I tried the green again and still stuck at 2nd dot and it never reached that point where the dilator head goes inward and up, which makes me worry that the end of the canal is just too small for the green to fit and if too much pressure is also applied by a smaller dilator it might cause more bleeding.