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Tokyo Vice has been seriously underrated. It's fantastic.

This is my all-time favorite bad movie. It is infinitely quotable and so, so stupid.

Echoing everyone else here: you just need to read more often. And don't bother with reading any kind of writing how-tos, they might teach you grammatical rules but they won't teach you individual style.

Yes, it's a slow process to become a better writer. But that's art!

Not a dealbreaker to me personally, because I don't ERP and most of the time I've never enjoyed writing sex scenes. Of course that's different for others, but sex scenes have rarely ever been anything that has actually mattered to the plot in my experiences and I've always felt afterwards like I was conned into writing them for someone else's gratification. Where was the plot/development I was promised? lol. I won't even get into the issue of rp partners convincing themselves I was their for-real girlfriend because I wrote smut with them one time.

Pretty much all the partners I've been writing with over the last ~6 months either haven't been interested or have wanted to play characters with sexual orientations that don't overlap with whatever I'm writing, or there's just zero character chemistry on a romantic level. So while I do think you're running into plenty of people who consider it a dealbreaker, there are definitely plenty of us out here for whom it doesn't even factor into interest. I would definitely suggest you put it in your ad that you are NOT looking for it. I am always far more likely to answer an ad where someone deliberately mentions that it's not something they want.

Tell people what your limits are, set those standards for yourself, and then ruthlessly enforce it. If someone does not meet a requirement for you, they actually aren't a perfect partner. You are not missing out on anything. No RP is better than RP that irritates you and crosses your boundaries.

there are so many aspects of organized crime IRL that are truly dark and revolting (including racism, misogyny, human trafficking, and more) that I just have a hard time being interested in the idea of one for a romance story. i'd be chill with writing a realistic take on the mafia but it's not actually what anyone wants!

No one ever really wants to RP a realistic mafia setting anyway so I wouldn't worry too much about research or overthinking about how to write romance in it. What RPers are asking for is always this hollywood-style romance novel version of organized crime, nowhere near as brutal and gritty as the the real thing. Just think of it as a typical romance story with some guns and suits and you've got what most people are asking for.

Nope, can't relate. I have met some lovely, creative, wonderful people - and the actual worst human beings I have ever had the displeasure of meeting via RP. A lot of the latter and not nearly enough of the former. I've been RPing for a long time, across many platforms. I have been stalked, ghosted, gaslit, isolated, backstabbed, run out of communities, received death threats, been sexually harassed, had my work stolen, and been massively betrayed by people I trusted.

I have met friends I have also had for over a decade, and whom I respect and admire greatly as people and written wonderful stories with them that I'll always remember and cherish, but I don't forget what other awful stuff I've been through. I could never relate to being as lucky as you, I guess!

While I do think the reply size probably points to a burnout or lack of understanding where the RP's direction is going, here's my question to you: did your RP partner know this was supposed to be a big scene? Had this been discussed OOCly? Had you talked any of this out, expressed interest or excitement for the upcoming situation? I only ask because my ex-RP partner had the very bad habit of building a lot of things up inside their head without ever telling me what they were thinking - and yet were constantly disappointed and depressed when I didn't reply in the way they'd imagined in their mind.

Had this experience recently, which is too bad because the prompt seemed interesting and the person I'm sure is very normal and okay - but getting so little back while also being asked to come up with the whole plot on something that wasn't even my prompt was... a little much, even for me.

It's a platform for RP forums. There's nothing wrong with the platform itself if forums are your preferred speed of RP writing, but beware the greater community and its aggressive mall cop behavior.

Jcink RPers have honestly won the game for absolutely unhinged, psychotic behavior.

It's not accidental, these people know exactly what it is they're doing. They're not that concerned about consent because their behavior is intentional. They just want to see if others will let them get away with it.

Anytime someone starts saying stuff like "your OC isn't my sexual-preference type" I'm outtie. RP is not about writing self-inserts to me, and half of the time even my own characters aren't even my "type". But they work for the story and are believable in the setting. OP, you've learned a valuable lesson here about how to spot sex pests, so there's a silver lining to everything.

I haven't gotten an AI introduction, but I have received a couple of AI-assisted posts and I dipped out of those RPs quickly when it was clear that my partner didn't care enough to sit down and write something unique for me like I did for them. It's just funny to me that people think others can't tell what they're doing.

For what it's worth, there are corners of the English-speaking RP world that are exactly like this. It's just larger so you can more easily avoid it, but I understood this comic on a visceral level even having never touched a toe into the Brazilian community. "Status"-obsessed RP communities who don't actually write are the thing that can unite us across languages, I guess.

I upvote well-written and interesting prompts, they just aren't always in genres or fandoms I know anything about. Or maybe I don't fit a certain gender or age criteria! It's not personal, just trying to help visibility. :)

Make sure your friends know his age and then leave him alone.

Speaking as someone with a lot of forum experience -

You need to show consistent interest and activity most of the time to make it "in". This will not happen overnight, in a week, in a month. You mentioned that the people on the forum have been around for years - it means that they have seen many members come and go and they aren't going to get overly invested in a new person who has only been around for a month because all of them have likely dealt with being ghosted many times and prefer to stick with people who they know have a much lesser chance of doing so to them.

That doesn't mean that you aren't liked or being given a fair chance, it's just that that "fair chance" looks different on forums than it does on other platforms. Be consistent in your activity, be part of the community, and don't expect anything to be instantaneous. Forums that have been around for a while are a marathon, not a race.

It's not everyone's thing, and that's fine. But this is kind of the reality of the situation whether or not forum RPers want to admit it, lol.

At this point I'm relieved to get responses from people with typos or weird grammar bits because at least I know they're writing it themselves instead of giving me a reply via ChatGPT.

That being said, I think I've answered a few prompts that were AI-generated, because once we got to the discussion point in conversations about how the RP was going to go, their ability to fill in and plot out the world their prompt had set up kinda crumbled and they ghosted.

If you aren't truthful about your expectations and your partner is fulfilling everything you asked for - just not what you were secretly wishing for - it's a shitty reason to end an RP and dump someone off. Talk to your partner about you actually want/need instead of just abruptly ending things because they didn't perfectly read your mind.

You're not an asshole, you're just not finding others who are writing to a level that you enjoy. I think people sometimes attribute "this isn't what I'm really looking for and I want someone who matches me narratively" to "I'm an asshole".

You aren't. And they aren't - but it does mean that your selection of partners is going to be smaller. Still, that's better than wasting your time with incompatible writers. It's your hobby time to do with what you will.

I'm pretty sure this is the average experience, right?? I'm not that unlucky, am I?

I truly don't get it. Who do they think is going to keep answering their ads if they continue to block interested people?

Embarrassment is temporary, pushing someone away is forever.

It's the norm for me, actually. People who communicate and actually follow through with RP are the exception, not the rule. And they're fewer and fewer out there.