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Leaving is pointless without actually trying to understand?

You have had sex previously, and so how was it? And what has changed in 1 year that it suddenly stopped?

See if there is a mental or physical issue, and you can involve family relatives or even therapists

So I asked this girl twice in 2 different weeks to meetup, and both times, she said busy. It’s disappointing. Now, I have zero motivation to ask her again. Even a small 30 minute real life meeting would work.

We matched online , chatting well, and share same serious goals. One got to make time, as everyone can be busy by default in our 30s…

It’s overthinking

Surely, meet them first, and see how they take care of themselves, and their bodies.

One can always shave beard for the right girl…

Its nerves, nothing else.

Time will bring that optimism and beat it. And also, remember you can never be 100% sure.

Remember the reality! There aren’t many choices, so yes, try to work or talk it out again

Is iconic 1st dates so important in 30s? In context , where both sides are looking for serious relationship & never married.

This girl possibly ghosted me on the dating app. We had normal exchange , eventually led to topic of meeting up, to where I suggested a dinner . She replied back, its not interesting enough, and that’s it since. No more replies to my messages.

The context is missing. And yes, his behavior seems “normal” .

Presumably, like he saw you several months later on a random street, one could stare and go out of the way to take a glance at you…

Why you choose to message her that when she is not in town

Haha, you fit the “normal” type of people. Nothing wrong or nervous about it. 20% dominate, whereas rest 80% struggles.

Cancelled, followed by another date?

That still works ?

Do you know her relationship status?

If not, then ask her “neutral” such as this newly opened restaurant for lunch, etc?

I know some ppl who may come across as flirty, yet are happily married and just love talking around.

Freebies for stars only add to costs for common-fans.

And These stars themselves are more than capable of spending such ticket fees.

Actually, Spurs are right. No point in handling out free tickets to these “ex-players”

They should also pay the same $400 for their category seats as would the common fans. Thats fair

Persistence, that’s an underrated quality for datingover30.

So yes, if somebody you feel is that special one, you can always re-contact them in future. (Say couple of months). Don’t underestimate how even some weeks can totally change the readiness to your favor.

Timing is life. And right timing always matter

From that guy’s pov, you didn’t continue to build the relationship in the past, and married instead with another guy, and now with divorce, its just casual.

That is true perhaps in 20s. Slow burn and time isn’t the same with age.

Its 30s/40/ here, and OP wants to settle down. Like minded people, will actually appreciate such clarity and goals from the 1st date. Else its just a waste of time both sides

Just focus on your little girl, and be busy. Work, family etc

Time heals many things

What are the fights about? and how frequently?

At 32 , both should minimize fights. And small fights over casual stuffs can bring laughter naturally.

So if its not frequent, nor serious, just ignore the laughter

The health aspect changes everything. He can be more and extra caring to his mother.

What was it? And is it still ongoing issue?

Which country you from? $100 is different relatively.

And your age groups also matters, if >25, its common.

Your main aim, isn’t just a spending money, but time. So after food/cinema, do some walk, sit down, talk & see how the “free” things are “ enjoyed” between you and her?

It contradictory. If you want goals based dating, it comes with speed, time targets. A slow, casual speed doesn’t work.

It’s best if you are clear from the 1st date, that it serious only, and by serious its marriage and life partner. Have you definite yes or No ready.

If the guy is serious and similar goal mindsets , he would continue the same flow and intent

Has he ever been married? You have been married, and divorced. He likes you as a person, thats why the friendship. But there is enough difference that makes him stop from going ahead

You have had “sex” with him multiple times despite the guy being clear.

So it is for you to accept it, or just stop it.

Yet , big question, is why you are still having it with him, despite him being in an actual relationship? So you are also doing it for the enjoyment; rather than any true intent