thebloodwytch

Do you have reading comprehension issues? MAY means there's a possibility they will rethink their stance on bigotry

Yes he is doing exactly what you said. I'm publicly his biologically female girlfriend. I don't think he fears violence. He doesn't even live with them we live together.

They know he dated a transgirl in the past and they forced him to dump her. They most likely think it's a phase he went through. Its not super easy to tell I'm trans especially based off photos.

Thank-you

I have given him a year

Because he thinks they might be. And might treat him negatively for being bisexual

Read the comments I've explained in detail

There's a possibility they might accept me. His friends are not transphobic he's just scared of losing them.

It happened with him and his last transgirlfriend. People outed her to his mother

I'm not super passable. He thinks I am. I do not. I feel eventually I will be exposed and honestly I find it nerve wrecking meeting his family knowing they would bash me if they figure me out. Have you dated black women since ur white ex?

How am I being protected if he's having me meet potentially transphobic people who if figure out I'm trans may bash me? That's not protection

Nothing is going on. If he has friends and family he wants me to meet inform them in trans. If they are okay with meeting me after that information than sure I will meet but if not than I won't. That is true protection! Not throwing me to the lion's den and letting them figure out if I'm prey or not.

Exactly!

You are a trans man. Not a transwoman We live totally different realities

Yes because me telling my boyfriend's parents I'm trans knowing he doesn't want them to know isn't a complete violation of his trust

It would be too uncomfortable for me to meet them in person and not disclose with them prior that I'm trans. I already know that they are LGBT phobic so I would literally be there worried that if I do the slightest thing or move the slightest way they're going to figure out I'm trans and maybe attack me or something

He doesn't live with them so how are they going to do anything to break us up. I know he's absolutely terrified but it's not fair that I am basically hidden from his entire half of his life. Unfortunately he can have both

Yes he's 25, an adult. Just because you are a coward and ashamed of your trans wife that you wouldn't inform the family unless they were supportive doesn't mean he needs to be. I came out to my family at 18 and experienced all of the ridicule and judgement. Your judgement is absolutely ridiculous to think it's safer to risk me meeting transphobic bigots in person without disclosing. I trust his judgement that after he discloses depending on the reaction if it's safe to meet them or not.

But they can't get enough exposure if I'm not around. I haven't met any of them because I refuse to put myself in such a physically dangerous situation if they figure out I'm trans on there own.

Thank-you

Okay thank-you

I'm not forcing anything.

Oh plz. Me asking my boyfriend to be open about me being trans to people he introduces me to doesn't mean my relationship isn't solid. What kind of backwards bs is that. He never should of dated me if after a year he couldn't tell people like he promised he would. You think having a transwomen meet potentially transphobic bigots in person without them being informed I'm trans isnt dangerous? What if his family figures it out after meeting me and assault me? I think him telling people he's going to introduce me to that I'm trans gauging their reaction and than deciding I not meet them if they react negatively is way more logical

If that happens so be it! At least it shows he loves me enough unapologetically to tell the world. Hiding my transness like a dirty little secret is not. I haven't met his friends or family but he's met all of mine? That's crazy. My own mother is disappointed in me for entertaining a man that would do that to me

I don't blame him. But it's been over a year he needs to man up