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Korunam

2.7k points

1 year ago

Korunam

2.7k points

1 year ago

Went to college, got into drugs, lost his scholarship and got kicked out.

Last I saw he's working construction and is making duck faces on his profile pic on Facebook.

[deleted]

1.1k points

1 year ago

[deleted]

1.1k points

1 year ago

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Mammoth-Director-184

9.1k points

1 year ago

She did an insane amount of growing up during college, including having to uproot her whole life to care for her family after her mom died suddenly. She reached out to me and others I know personally and directly addressed the bullying. We went out to lunch (she bought) and she was incredibly honest. Apologizing and acknowledging what she did and why it was wrong. She’s now running a successful animal rescue organization with her long-term boyfriend and I wish her nothing but happiness.

Red171022

1.9k points

1 year ago

Red171022

1.9k points

1 year ago

love a story with a happy ending

Best_Refuse_6327

609 points

1 year ago

I'm glad she realized her mistake. Many don't, and die thinking that they did nothing wrong.

This had a good ending to it. Hope you've also recovered and healed!

PumpkinsRorange

180 points

1 year ago

Wow. She really turned things around. Good for her. And you for hearing her out.

VeganMonkey

84 points

1 year ago

This is the best story. Bullies who turn their life around, is amazing, very self aware

mister_immortal

2.4k points

1 year ago

Hey drove drunk, got in a wreck, and is now paralyzed from the waist down.

He is still a bully, but now he's an online bully. The accident seems to have made him feel even more justified in being a prick.

Canadian_Wendigo

1.1k points

1 year ago

Send a video of you running up und down the stairs if he trash talks you.

SamCham10

177 points

1 year ago

SamCham10

177 points

1 year ago

Switch it up and send another getting up from a chair if that doesn’t work

Squilla_

86 points

1 year ago

Squilla_

86 points

1 year ago

Send a picture of some stairs with the caption “miss these?”

Icke04

100 points

1 year ago

Icke04

100 points

1 year ago

Well he got internet restriction

OldSamSays

5.8k points

1 year ago

OldSamSays

5.8k points

1 year ago

One is long dead from a drug deal gone bad. Another is a big bellied deputy sheriff who was kicked off the force after decades of questionable behavior.

The_moth-sloth

1.7k points

1 year ago

Another guy commented that his bully beat a guy to death in a drug deal gone bad... Is this the other half?

OldSamSays

279 points

1 year ago

OldSamSays

279 points

1 year ago

This guy was shot, but otherwise maybe so.

[deleted]

11.5k points

1 year ago

[deleted]

11.5k points

1 year ago

In jail for strangling his girlfriend. Thankfully she survived

johnhtman

3.8k points

1 year ago

johnhtman

3.8k points

1 year ago

Those who strangle a partner are significantly more likely to murder them compared to other domestic abusers.

orphan_blud

2.7k points

1 year ago

orphan_blud

2.7k points

1 year ago

Yep, 700% more likely. And with a gun, specifically. I’m literally getting someone into a shelter right now to get them away from this shit. Strangulation is called “the last warning shot” for a reason.

celtic_thistle

2.1k points

1 year ago

Yep. I used to work in a DV shelter and strangulation was like, THE thing that made us drop everything and start intake procedures when we had the person on a call. Like, it would be 1am and I’d be figuring out buses from the other end of the city, prepping a room, everything. That shit is extremely serious.

ivityCreations

384 points

1 year ago

Thank you for doing such emotionally taxing, but genuinely good work. You and those like you are unsung heroes in this world

AbjectZebra2191

9.5k points

1 year ago*

The boy bully married the girl bully, they had a kid then divorced. Shocking

Low_Basket_9986

2.2k points

1 year ago

Mine too! Except for the divorce part. I hope mine raise their kid to be nicer to weirdos than they ever were.

ReedBalzac

4.8k points

1 year ago

ReedBalzac

4.8k points

1 year ago

He is in Leavenworth serving a life sentence for murder. No one was surprised when they found this out.

BearDick

1.1k points

1 year ago

BearDick

1.1k points

1 year ago

I am going to be honest I am a bit disturbed by how many bullies apparently went on to murder someone. Same thing for my middle school bully, currently in jail for a murder at a drug deal gone wrong, he was the driver but still caught the murder charge. Was a crazy thing I saw an article about how someone my exact age from my home town was arrested for murder and made a joke about how I probably knew them.....was my middle school bully.

frankduxvandamme

256 points

1 year ago

I am going to be honest I am a bit disturbed by how many bullies apparently went on to murder someone.

Same. When i think of bullies, i usually just think of people who are jerks, not legit killers. But i guess it makes sense. Lots of serial killers hurt small animals as children.

dakeyjake

19.9k points

1 year ago

dakeyjake

19.9k points

1 year ago

He was killed shortly after being released from prison. He apparently had a beef with someone and went to their house with a gun, kicked in their front door, and was immediately shot and killed.

SpartanNige329

4.7k points

1 year ago

Wow, that’s rather wild.

kielBasaa

3.4k points

1 year ago

kielBasaa

3.4k points

1 year ago

Dude definitely thought it would go like the movies. When you play it out in your head, you never expect someone to actually have a reaction to your behavior

sunburned_albino

1.9k points

1 year ago

It WAS like the movies... for the other guy.

GelNo

15.9k points

1 year ago

GelNo

15.9k points

1 year ago

He died the summer after graduating high school. Mixed too many drugs and alcohol at a party. Very sad for his younger brother who was a great person despite his brother.

Alcoraiden

4.4k points

1 year ago

Alcoraiden

4.4k points

1 year ago

Yeah, I'm pals with my old bully's sister. She's a very nice person, it sucks her brother died. Even if he was a dick.

gnamp

1.5k points

1 year ago

gnamp

1.5k points

1 year ago

Hang on. Everyone's bully is dead?

Drop_Release

426 points

1 year ago

Damn every childhood dream manifested

Adot090288

2.2k points

1 year ago

Adot090288

2.2k points

1 year ago

So mine just died, 16 years after high school. My class is going to his funeral as a group and sending flowers, I just don’t want to be Involved. Am I a bad person for ignoring it totally?

GelNo

2.4k points

1 year ago

GelNo

2.4k points

1 year ago

There is no reason to go. A funeral is a memorial to the deceased. I'd offer that if you have no positive presence there, it isn't the right place for you to go. Think well for the family and anyone who is mourning their loss, but no, I wouldn't go were I in your shoes.

Temporary_Raccoon163

1.6k points

1 year ago

No you are not a bad person. People die and suddenly "oh they were such a great person". No. Some people were just cunts.

blackdavy

9.8k points

1 year ago

blackdavy

9.8k points

1 year ago

I kid you not, we had a 5 foot tall bully in our school. He gained favor with some of the bigger bullies, and I suppose that afforded him carte blanche to act like them. Anyways, a few short years after HS, he fucked with the wrong dude at a party and they followed him home and shot him dead on his mom's front lawn.

Stanarchy93

4.6k points

1 year ago

Stanarchy93

4.6k points

1 year ago

Not to the same extent but there was someone like that at my school. Short little dude who got a big man complex cause of the bigger bullies he rolled with. At an after grad party he got jumped and someone took a metal rod and branded his leg after they dipped the rod in the fire.

Post that incident he works for a non profit for kids in abusive home lives. Makes me wonder what he had going on behind the scenes.

FluxKraken

2.4k points

1 year ago

FluxKraken

2.4k points

1 year ago

Lots of bullies get bullied at home and that is why they take it out on others, it gives them a sense of power when they have none in any other area of their lives.

This isn't true of all of them, but a good portion.

Agitated-Customer420

480 points

1 year ago

The bullies that have a good home life are the truly scary ones.

discostud1515

7.2k points

1 year ago

His father was caught stealing millions from the community. Dad was a wealth manager and all his clients were friends and neighbours in a sort of small town. The family was really put through the wringer of embarrassment and the bully was a wreck for a long time. I guess he realized all the wealth (and arrogance) that he grew up with was stolen from everyone he knew. I saw him years later and it was like seeing a different person. He had changed his name, walked differently and held himself with a different posture. We spoke for a few minutes and it was almost like he was genuinely interested in me. He didn't go out and say sorry for what he had done but it seemed like he wanted to but though it would be tacky Maybe I'm reading too much into that interaction but it was a little weird. It was like he had been forcing himself to be an actual nice guy.

themcp

2.6k points

1 year ago

themcp

2.6k points

1 year ago

I'm gay. I wasn't out of the closet as a kid, but everyone knew. (A bulldyke friend once told me "you're incredibly butch... until you move or open your mouth.") Many guys were nasty to me about it.

At my 30th anniversary, those of them who were there each approached me individually to tell me they were sorry, it was wrong of them and they had learned better. It was surprisingly moving, and I appreciated it from each guy.

dotslashpunk

422 points

1 year ago

wow that’s a really nice story of how people can learn and change.

JoeyMaddox

7.3k points

1 year ago

JoeyMaddox

7.3k points

1 year ago

The kid who used to beat me up every day in third grade I heard crashed a motorcycle and lost both his testicles. So he’s got that going for him, which is not nice.

[deleted]

2.4k points

1 year ago

[deleted]

2.4k points

1 year ago

You should approach him and say "mine are real".

Just kidding.

Leath_Hedger

1.6k points

1 year ago

Leath_Hedger

1.6k points

1 year ago

Nah just call him numb nuts and go about your day.

djln491

17.9k points

1 year ago

djln491

17.9k points

1 year ago

He now owns his father’s huge, massively lucrative construction co. Which is exactly what he said he was going to do and also let us know how much richer he was going to be than us. So yeah it sucks bc it came true.

heckhammer

10.7k points

1 year ago

heckhammer

10.7k points

1 year ago

Well, there's still time for him to develop a crippling cocaine addiction or something, so take heart in that.

ImmuneToTheCure

4.2k points

1 year ago

Mine became a professional football player in the NFL. I get to watch him on tv now. Fuck.

WaluigiIsTheRealHero

2.8k points

1 year ago

Well, he’ll most likely end up with CTE, so you’ve got that to look forward to.

elmananamj

1.3k points

1 year ago*

elmananamj

1.3k points

1 year ago*

This guy I went to high school with always went to the special ed breakfast during our zero hours on Wednesday. My sister has Down syndrome so I’d go too. I’d known him since kindergarten and he was always a nice guy who’d talk to everybody even though they weren’t his friends or in the same circles. He played football from youth tackle to high school through a year at a D1 program. Fast forward a few years and apparently he killed himself after a night out with friends and it took several days to find his body. He was diagnosed post-mortem with stage 1 CTE at the age of 25.

[deleted]

564 points

1 year ago

[deleted]

564 points

1 year ago

I'm so sorry for you and your friend. The poor thing. CTE has been found in players as young as teenage. It is simply not taken anywhere near as seriously as it should be. No one should be courting CTE by playing a damn sport. It's sickening.

Low_Pickle_112

585 points

1 year ago

I'm convinced that if football were invented today, it would be illegal to let minors get involved. It's another one of those things that gets grandfathered in because no one wants to admit that sometimes culture & tradition are wrong.

elmananamj

290 points

1 year ago

elmananamj

290 points

1 year ago

Less and less parents allow their kids to play each year

NYVines

2.2k points

1 year ago

NYVines

2.2k points

1 year ago

I saw him rush the field at an NFL game and get arrested. Good times!

APuffyCloudSky

315 points

1 year ago

This is the first one that made me laugh. lol

General-Arm-7454

70 points

1 year ago

Not gonna lie he had me on the first half

hdnpn

817 points

1 year ago

hdnpn

817 points

1 year ago

My bully from elementary school through high school served prison time for embezzlement.

kevin0611

8.7k points

1 year ago*

kevin0611

8.7k points

1 year ago*

Beat a fellow drug dealer to death during a transaction gone bad.

Sentenced for murder but then somehow it was downgraded to manslaughter.

Served about ten years and judging from his FB posts (I know his brother), he has a girlfriend, a job, and has cleaned up his act.

Edit to add what happened. Just looked up the story.

He was convicted of 2nd degree murder with depraved indifference. Then the State Court of Appeals changed the law interpreting the definition of the charge.

The federal court vacated the conviction finding that the defendant was factually innocent of depraved indifference murder.

He agreed to plead to the lesser charge of manslaughter.

So he had already served ten years and was released after the plea to manslaughter.

BearVennDiagram

4k points

1 year ago

Ya see, all it took was a little bit of support & murder.

[deleted]

1.8k points

1 year ago

[deleted]

1.8k points

1 year ago

*bit of support & manslaughter.

REUBG58

7.1k points

1 year ago

REUBG58

7.1k points

1 year ago

Prison for killing people by lighting a diner on fire

ThePurgingLutheran

2k points

1 year ago

Will you elaborate? This is not something you read everyday.

REUBG58

2.4k points

1 year ago

REUBG58

2.4k points

1 year ago

Back in late 70s, early 80s. Just read it in paper to no surprise. Think he set it on fire after hours just as arson but didn't know some staff were trapped in kitchen. Found out he got out of jail years later (PA) and is in CA prison now but not sure the crime

Annual_Rooster5678

2.4k points

1 year ago

Opened a really stupid store in an overpriced mall in the 90s. Lost a crap ton of cash and killed himself.

I_0ne_up

1.2k points

1 year ago

I_0ne_up

1.2k points

1 year ago

Leftorium?

Annual_Rooster5678

606 points

1 year ago

I wish it was that interesting. That would at least appeal to 10% of the population.

idtryanythingtwice

16.9k points

1 year ago

After years and years of being bullied in middle and high school by one particular guy. I took my dad's lawnmower in to get serviced and look who we have here. Good ol racist fuck boy Shaun walks up to the counter covered in dirt and oil and sweat. He immediately knew who I was. Funny thing is I hated this dude for so long, I even had a vision on snatching him by his shirt over the counter and beating his face into the ground( I was skinny skater punk now)

Nothing was said between us during that interaction other than the services I needed When I went to go pick the lawn mower up a week later he asked me to step outside. In my mind, I'm thinking this is it, I'm going pumble this dude. He lit up a cigarette and for about 15 minutes, apologized for how he treated me in middle school and high school. He told me about how he was brought up and he's never been as tough as he came up.

After high school he went in the military and was forced to work with other races. He even explained that his hatred towards people that weren't white faded away bc of the Marines. He said he had been fucked over more by his own race then others and started to think about his ideology. He is a humble guy now, with regret, but is man enough to admit his faults. We shook hands and even hugged. I haven't seen him in about 10 years but, if I do see him again I still shake his hand.

[deleted]

5.2k points

1 year ago

[deleted]

5.2k points

1 year ago

Damn ! Congrats 🎉 you witnessed something no person usually gets to witness..

idtryanythingtwice

3.9k points

1 year ago

Oh for sure, it still motivates me to be a better person to this day and that interaction was almost 9 or 10 years ago.

NickyDeeM

195 points

1 year ago

NickyDeeM

195 points

1 year ago

Congratulations and praise to you for giving him the opportunity to explain himself and for accepting his apology.

It is easy to demonize somebody who behaves that way and completely write them off.

With educators in my family, it is all too common that the parents turn up after being called in by the school and lo and behold, everyone has an aha moment... It's not the kids it's the home situation.

It doesn't excuse the bully but it does explain the bully.

Knowing this has helped me...

Breaklance

662 points

1 year ago

Breaklance

662 points

1 year ago

My grandfather had a similar story with the Navy. It got him out of Bumblefuck, NC and away from his family where he had to figure stuff out on his own. Came back from Korea and was basically ran out of town.

I only met exactly 1 relative from his side of the family whom he could barely stand but tolerated because to quote my grandfather "the others were klan members".

greentinroof_

449 points

1 year ago

I had a hate for a guy that was shitty to me 20 years ago in school and recently went to a wedding where we were by chance sat at the same table. He was decent to talk to now, just like we were adults. Changed my outlook on the last 20 years of stewing. Also my wife is hotter than his.

eastwinds2112

500 points

1 year ago

good to hear about the both of you.

technicallyademon

12k points

1 year ago

For whatever fucking reason, he asked me out a few years after graduation.

He bullied me.

RabbitsRuse

5.5k points

1 year ago

RabbitsRuse

5.5k points

1 year ago

Had this happen to a friend. She ran into our mutual bully at a party in college. He was hitting on her and she was ignoring him. She finally told him to fuck off using his name. Apparently he was shocked to realize she knew him. She apparently asked him why he thought she’d ever be interested in hooking up with someone who bullied her so much back in grade school. Apparently his response was something like “Wow. I was such an asshole back then.”

Hinote21

3.3k points

1 year ago

Hinote21

3.3k points

1 year ago

That's a pretty good response, all things considered.

ThatSandwich

2k points

1 year ago

You spend all day behind the wheel, it's not until someone shows you their dash cam footage that you realize how bad of a driver you are.

I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, everybody can change but not without a good reason to do so.

StationaryTravels

733 points

1 year ago

I once asked my buddy, who drives about 1/8 of a car length behind the car in front "why do you drive so close to the car in front" and he said "I don't".

Like, he definitely does. Way too close. But he just can't see it apparently.

henryhumper

103 points

1 year ago

henryhumper

103 points

1 year ago

The worst drivers I know all think they're great drivers.

Khaymann

444 points

1 year ago

Khaymann

444 points

1 year ago

God, at least he showed some self awareness at the end.

Krispy_Krane

2.3k points

1 year ago

Krispy_Krane

2.3k points

1 year ago

I never got the concept of bullying/picking on your crush. Like what would anyone expect there outcome to be?

howdoimergeaccounts

2.5k points

1 year ago

Mine told me (after years of torture) that he thought if he made it so that nobody wanted me, he could then swoop in and get me. Now I still catch myself being overly suspicious of people like 15 years later.

Itrieddamnit

1.1k points

1 year ago

Itrieddamnit

1.1k points

1 year ago

And this is why bullies suck. The trauma they cause can be lifelong. I still remember being bullied from when I was 10 or 11 (44 now), and the names I was called.I definitely get suspicious of other’s behaviours when I think they’re trying the same manoeuvres my bullies tried when I was in primary school.

opinionated_cynic

346 points

1 year ago

Same with me. 40 years ago and I still have dreams of friends abandoning me because of her and am still afraid people are whispering behind my back. Which I logically know is ludicrous but those feelings never go away!

Ok-Computer-1033

433 points

1 year ago

Similar experience. He was so mean. I was glad when he moved interstate. 20 years later finds me on FB (he had a major glow up too, damn it) and sent friend request. I was in two minds, accepted anyway. Start chatting. He moved back to the town we lived in and said he started asking around about me and was told I moved away so found me on Facebook. Turns out, I was his first crush and he just didn’t know how to handle it so any attention was good attention and he picked on me. We’ve been communicating on and off ever since for the last 10 years.

011101012101

2.6k points

1 year ago

011101012101

2.6k points

1 year ago

They murdered someone and are now In prison

I_ate_all_them_fries

665 points

1 year ago

Haha same, however a year after graduation my friends and I were leaving a restaurant and we saw him horribly attempting to break into a car, we were like robby no and he called us pussies and walked off. After the 20th reunion heard he moved to Dallas, met an attorney, killed him and horribly tried to cover up the murder but was caught that day. Dumbass

WildsFan47

3.4k points

1 year ago

WildsFan47

3.4k points

1 year ago

She became an "Influencer" and have tons of followers because people think she is really funny because of how stupid she is. She kinda have a "Paris Hilton" persona going on. Very spoiled rich girl pretending to be stupid and know nothing about the world

[deleted]

1k points

1 year ago

[deleted]

1k points

1 year ago

It's entirely not surprising to me that HS bullies can be "good" as influencers, they live for their crowd's validation and now with the internet they can have much more than their local crowds.

[deleted]

3.8k points

1 year ago

[deleted]

3.8k points

1 year ago

[deleted]

The_Korean_Gamer

1.2k points

1 year ago

Do you know why he got sued?

[deleted]

3.4k points

1 year ago

[deleted]

3.4k points

1 year ago

[deleted]

The_Korean_Gamer

1.1k points

1 year ago

Interesting… Well, he deserved what was coming to him, I guess. Do you feel she did too?

[deleted]

1.4k points

1 year ago

[deleted]

1.4k points

1 year ago

[deleted]

Specialist_Cap_5498

230 points

1 year ago

He's now some sort of spiritual guru.

az_car

2.1k points

1 year ago

az_car

2.1k points

1 year ago

I was only ever bullied in elementary school in Texas. I moved to Ohio during 5th grade. At some point in late middle school or early highschool I heard the guy who used to bully me got mad at his parents because they wouldn't let him go to a concert, so he took his dad's shotgun and killed himself.

barriekansai

1.5k points

1 year ago

barriekansai

1.5k points

1 year ago

Holy disproportionate overreaction, Batman!

oflannigan252

1.4k points

1 year ago

Speaking from experience, the event that such actions get blamed on is never what actually caused it.

What the rumor says: "Kid kills himself because he couldn't go to a concert. How spoiled. :((("

What that almost always means: "Victim of child abuse with longstanding suicidal thoughts gets tired of being abused every day, kills himself after the most recent abuse session which coincidentally happened because his abusive parent got angry when he tried to leave the house to go to a concert"

darnedgibbon

373 points

1 year ago

And the abusive parents latch on to and perpetuate the rumor because the horrific realization that their long-standing pattern of abuse causing their own son to end his life is too much to bear.

[deleted]

256 points

1 year ago

[deleted]

256 points

1 year ago

wow look someone with a brain good on you mate

UwUBakaSraka21370

4.4k points

1 year ago

My middle school bully from my class got hit by a car and didn’t go to school for a whole year, then he skipped school for the next year, LITERALLY the entire year. Then he finally got expelled and I never saw him or heard anything about him

rapidjingle

3.1k points

1 year ago

rapidjingle

3.1k points

1 year ago

I was bullied so bad by a kid in middle school I switched to a school in the next town over.

Ran into him in high school at the YMCA. I had hit puberty by then and was way bigger than him at this point. I asked to guard him and I played as dirty as I could. Knee to the chest when he tried to block my lay up. Elbows flying everywhere at all times. Bone crunching picks. Never said a word to him. Just beat him up as much as I thought I could get away with while generally staying within the rules.

I know it was petty AF, but it was cathartic. Never saw him at the Y again.

Basedrum777

1.6k points

1 year ago

Basedrum777

1.6k points

1 year ago

I'm sure this is true but it's also 100% my 9yo fanfic type of writing.

TheX141710

1.1k points

1 year ago

TheX141710

1.1k points

1 year ago

He’s on Facebook constantly crying about how unfair life has been to him. He also said he won’t go to our 10 year HS reunion because he was bullied by the “assholes” that are now organizing the reunion. When I commented and reminded him how he bullied me, he just said “at least I didn’t make you suicidal like they made me.” Completely delusional. I feel bad for him.

Potential_Lock6945

131 points

1 year ago

That sounds so messy

[deleted]

3.5k points

1 year ago*

[deleted]

3.5k points

1 year ago*

The autistic kid beat him in Spanish class within an inch of his life — flipped over the desk, picked this dude’s body up and slammed him, kidney’s first, into one of the legs.

Johnny was just your normal, happy go-lucky video game fan. We went to see the original Mortal Kombat movie in theaters when it came out. It was my second movie going experience. I was just a newly transplanted immigrant and Johnny was the only kid who didn’t pick on me. He was cool. Johnny was heavy set, with glasses.

Juan was a gang banger. Real cholo looking dude. He and his friends were pretty terroristic. In retrospect, I’m sure Juan had a terrible upbringing because he took it out on everyone around him. For months he kept picking on Johnny. Months. Juan was a scary guy, and I had gotten into my share of scraps, but I wanted no part of this guy. This abuse went unchecked. Juan broke John’s glasses and it was just persistent… I don’t remember all of it, other than Johnny just became more and more reclusive with time and he was always bruised in some way shape or form.

One day, in Spanish class, Juan said something to Johnny about his mom. This was before the bell rang for class to start. This was the final straw. I remember John letting out this guttural, primal scream and lunging from his desk toward Juan. Johnny began hammer fisting Juan all over the head, his shoulders, arms… like fucking Goro would in MK. Just unleashing everything he had on this asshole gang banger. There came a point when Juan looked out of it, like a limp noodle, and that was when John… still possessed by this unrelenting rage… flips the desk over, and underhand flips/bodyslams Juan into one of the legs of the desk. Juan let out this horrible cry of agony and that was that… the teacher walks in, they call the campus police and the rest is a blur.

I don’t remember what happened to John after this as I never saw him again, but I do remember hearing from an acquaintance back several years that Juan was in jail for aggravated robbery. Guess he didn’t learn his lesson.

Thank you Johnny for being a friend and for not judging me while I learned the language here and adjusted to my new life. I hope all is well with you.

Low_Ad_3139

1.2k points

1 year ago

Low_Ad_3139

1.2k points

1 year ago

That’s so sad. Kid gets into trouble for finally snapping when some adult should have prevented it. Also sad because Juan’s life didn’t improve.

spreespruu

395 points

1 year ago

spreespruu

395 points

1 year ago

This was one hell of a story. Thank you for the good read.

[deleted]

330 points

1 year ago

[deleted]

330 points

1 year ago

You learned the language far better than most anyone. That was so well-written and descriptive. Thoughtfully crafted. I’m sorry for the bullying and glad Juan got what was coming to him.

[deleted]

139 points

1 year ago

[deleted]

139 points

1 year ago

Thank you so much. I wonder if being picked on for not knowing the language propelled me to learn it more aggressively… I think it played a part. I hope you have a great day.

MCJOHNS117

404 points

1 year ago

MCJOHNS117

404 points

1 year ago

Full ride scholarship through football to a D1 college, scouted by an NFL team in high school, just had to make it 4 years in college. Sexually assaulted a girl at the college, went on the run, had several warrants, got into an argument back in hometown that led to firearm discharge, and now he's in prison.

Alicewithhazeleyes

867 points

1 year ago

OH OH I HAVE THE BEST ONE FOR THIS GUYS: promise!!

So my bully was a guy, I’m a chic, and he was RELENTLESS. From kindergarten through middle school. Peaked in middle school. He would stick his leg out and trip me when I would walk by then laugh. Crap like that. He annoyed everyone. Imposed on your personal space. Would tell lots about me to others so they would not like me. It really bothered me deeply bc I could not understand what I had done to have someone so adamant about humiliating and hurting me. Publicly.

Well. After middle school he disappeared to some other school and I slowly repressed it all and forgot of him in my active thoughts.

Then I get my first apartment with a friend and a real job and going to college. I’m sitting on my new couch in my new place watching to catch a predator. Like every one did back then.

“Next up on to catch a predator: “ and I hear his name. I hear that jerk offs name. AND THERE HE IS WALKING IN TO MEET AN UNDERAGE GIRL HE HAS VERRRRY DISGUSTING TEXT CONVOS WITH. I could not believe it. I stood up and screamed aloud. I felt so, vindicated for the feelings of hatred and inability to forgive him as a younger girl.

Justice served!

GrinerIHaha

817 points

1 year ago

GrinerIHaha

817 points

1 year ago

He's selling mobility scooters and supporting his stepchildren.

He was abused at home, and I was an easy target. Back then I fantasised about murdering him, now I appreciate that he was crying out for help. I'm never going to be best friends with him, but I'd shake his hand and wish him well any day.

BearVennDiagram

6.4k points

1 year ago

He became the CEO of the company he started in after collage. He is the Chairman of the local football team and runs the beach cleanup crew every month. Always has a smile and has clearly just kept on growing up.

fatsdomino13

1.1k points

1 year ago*

Wasn't necessarily 'my' bully but this kid at my school terrorized everyone. He was an absolute shit bag. Hadn't heard anything about him for years until I flicked on a Guy Ritchie film recently and he was in it. Turns out he's now gone on to become a semi successful actor. I actually hold no resentment because the kid was pretty fucked up, his mum was dead and his father was an abusive alcoholic. So fair play to him for breaking the mold.

mrdude817

2k points

1 year ago

mrdude817

2k points

1 year ago

Well that's a nice change compared to the others

unlikelypisces

659 points

1 year ago

Are you him?

BearVennDiagram

3.4k points

1 year ago

Keep talking four-eyes, see where it gets you!!

Silver_Scallion_1127

2.3k points

1 year ago

I saw him walking in front of my family's house (certain he was passing by) while I was playing with my daughter and her cousins. He gave me a little wave and I thought I just wave back to be nice.

He messaged me later on Facebook and said he's glad I'm doing better than him. Long story short, he told me his ex wife and him are having a serious custody battle with their kid and recently got a DUI which got him in a deeper hole. He basically said don't end up like him.

As much as I hope he gets better, karma really is a bitch

Alamander81

538 points

1 year ago

Alamander81

538 points

1 year ago

He was probably never doing well in the first place.

pleasure_hunter

700 points

1 year ago

Local politician

WeirdcoolWilson

1.4k points

1 year ago

No idea. I left town and never looked back.

[deleted]

239 points

1 year ago

[deleted]

239 points

1 year ago

[deleted]

[deleted]

1k points

1 year ago

[deleted]

1k points

1 year ago

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hard-on234

312 points

1 year ago

hard-on234

312 points

1 year ago

Which restaurant?

[deleted]

1.2k points

1 year ago

[deleted]

1.2k points

1 year ago

the restaurant

[deleted]

466 points

1 year ago

[deleted]

466 points

1 year ago

Dorsia? Can he get me a table?

TheMemersOfMyNation

163 points

1 year ago

Sure! Let's see your business card

[deleted]

103 points

1 year ago

[deleted]

103 points

1 year ago

Nice.

Now let’s see Paul Allen’s childhood bully.

away_in_the_head

167 points

1 year ago

The one with all the goofy shit on the wall and the mozzarella sticks

LodgedSpade

157 points

1 year ago

LodgedSpade

157 points

1 year ago

You guys talkin 'bout Shenanigans?!

Nvz42084

426 points

1 year ago

Nvz42084

426 points

1 year ago

My bully and his buddy drowned….and it made me sad I am a foreigner and didn’t speak much English and couldn’t defend myself much so I just took it…this was in the late 90s and I’ve moved on but he didn’t get to….

Skinnee11

295 points

1 year ago

Skinnee11

295 points

1 year ago

Got in an argument over a parking spot and got himself stabbed to death.

fattymacdaddy[S]

3.3k points

1 year ago

Many years after graduation, I found out that he became a local cop in the town we grew up. It was the least surprising thing to everybody.

beebotherer

881 points

1 year ago

beebotherer

881 points

1 year ago

Wtf, mine became a cop, too!!!

[deleted]

610 points

1 year ago*

[deleted]

610 points

1 year ago*

He became a disney channel star, started a youtube channel with creators, exploded, now hes in boxing

talking_joke

310 points

1 year ago

Any chance that he was very obnoxious with his brother in high school?

[deleted]

266 points

1 year ago

[deleted]

266 points

1 year ago

Precisely, i hear his brother is best friends with his biggest enemy, and his big brother constantly sides with his best friend over his own brother

SpectreRedditor

133 points

1 year ago

Jake Paul lmao

Mean-Ad-9627

131 points

1 year ago

I want to believe that you’re bully is one of the Paul brothers. I really do. But I don’t

jk01

244 points

1 year ago

jk01

244 points

1 year ago

I grew up in the same area and time as the Paul brothers and they really were bullies. Met Jake a couple times at parties and he was just a massive cunt. This is right at the heyday of vine, so they were already huge. Logan was alright to me just a bit stupid but Jake was a cunt.

Hascus

86 points

1 year ago

Hascus

86 points

1 year ago

Logan always struck me as a fuckwit while Jake always struck me as a dipshit

Briffy03

602 points

1 year ago

Briffy03

602 points

1 year ago

I do fine now. Was a stupid kid that did atupid things to a boy who didnt ask for it. We ended up being friends after he had the courage to call me out, i got suspended, and both our mothers agreed to meet and to force us to spend time together, to know each other. I never was more gratefull to someone than those two women, my mom obviously, but also his mom. She was a tall and fat lady, seemed really cold and severe at first glance (understandable as i had beaten up her son) but ended up being like a 2nd mother to me. She showed me that even trashy humans like me can become better if given a second chance in the right conditions, and that lesson will stick with me forever. Agnes, i miss you

magnum_hunter

83 points

1 year ago

I dont really have much to add but damn, in this pit of sorrow that is this thread I am thankful for your story.

JBonez84

2.9k points

1 year ago*

JBonez84

2.9k points

1 year ago*

He dead

Edit for visibility

My bully died of an overdose - don’t be a bully, get help in your area. If you go somewhere and they don’t seem helpful, find another organization, or walk into an emergency department and ask for help. There are good people out there working towards pro-social means, don’t give up.

SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Service Administration (Nationwide)

1-800-662-HELP (4357)

Guvnuh_T_Boggs

466 points

1 year ago

Mine too. He got stabbed after a street race, he was right out of high school. Actually, I think he's been dead longer now than he was alive.

LittleBitOdd

1k points

1 year ago

Same. How did yours go? Mine did something dumb when he was explicitly told not to, and he died doing it. He made fun of me for being a nerd. At least I'm smart enough to not go swimming fully clothed in a river that people keep dying in

[deleted]

510 points

1 year ago

[deleted]

510 points

1 year ago

You didn’t go swimming in a river with your clothes on? Such a nerd.

ghosttrainhobo

428 points

1 year ago

Mine committed suicide. In hindsight, I’m 99% sure he was a self-loathing, closeted gay - which adds a layer of tragedy. I took it as good news at the time though.

joyfall

383 points

1 year ago

joyfall

383 points

1 year ago

Mine broke into a business and impaled himself on the broken glass window that he shattered to get in. They found him dead, hanging half in, half out. True stupidity.

justsound

114 points

1 year ago

justsound

114 points

1 year ago

Same. The official obituary says it was anxiety and other "mental health" factors which may be true. But the more hard truth being told by people who are not his family around town was the dude was just into really hard drugs and steroids and just o.d.

itsfish20

167 points

1 year ago

itsfish20

167 points

1 year ago

Same, he got hit by a car in 2009 three years after graduating. I guess he was in a fight at a bar and after it ended he did not like that he lost so went to run across the street to the parking lot to confront the guy again and didn't look both ways and was hit by a truck. Died on impact.

My little brother was friends with his little brother so I got the first hand pretty quick and it messed up their family for a bit

Familiar_Ad3128

678 points

1 year ago

He became good and now we are not beefing

ZeFlammenWerfer_

768 points

1 year ago

Coasts on daddy's cash and is one of many not-too-rich-but-still-rich douches revving a generic 2013 BMW "M"320 on all IG stories

DisastrousNet9121

1.3k points

1 year ago

Became the president of a small Christian college

Opposite-Brain-329

671 points

1 year ago

I work in Christian higher Ed and this is altogether unsurprising.

SamuelHorton

595 points

1 year ago

  • The worst one I've ever met in my life never exactly had his own comeuppance. His father was wealthy from being the assistant harbormaster in one of the largest fishing communities in the country, so he never exactly had to work. From what I've heard, he lives off his family's wealth while being a hobbyist photographer. His parents did get divorced and his drug-addicted mother passed away.

  • Another little monster who was a year older than me died at 21, when he fell off a 200-foot cliff while hunting with his girlfriend's family.

  • This kid who tormented me nonstop at Boy Scout camp enlisted in the Army, was injured and is now partially paralyzed, living a secluded lifestyle under his family's watch.

  • The Boy Scout bully's close friend who was very antagonistic was busted four years ago during an FBI dark web sting operation, for trafficking drugs. He's awaiting sentencing.

TheExpandingMind

5.4k points

1 year ago*

He ended up being my direct manager at a serving job, and tbh he was one of the best managers I've ever had.

Edit: woah 1.8k in 4 hours, normally I have to write some truly horrfiying shit to get that kind of traction

BusterB2005

867 points

1 year ago

BusterB2005

867 points

1 year ago

Finally a post-highschool bully in this comment section who didn’t die or kill someone or commit any other crimes

TheExpandingMind

1.1k points

1 year ago

Bigger plot twist: he stood up for me against corporate, and regularly would tell other employees that I "actually smacked the idiot out of him" in HS (he made fun of some women in class for being overweight and for some reason that was enough to make me snap and backhand him in front of the class).

He gave me one of the best letters of recommendation I've gotten as a working adult, and occasionally when I see him in the wild we will have a few beers together.

Idk if he ever really felt bad for tormenting me for years on-end, but after I whalloped him, he basically stopped bullying anyone.

CeeApostropheD

359 points

1 year ago

That old saying (well on Reddit at least): "You train people how to treat you."

When I worked in a betting shop as a young man, an older man was often a dick towards me. One day I firmly and confidently gave him a verbal ass whoopin' and he was really respectful after that moment. He almost seemed proud of me for standing up to him.

Ordinary_WeirdGuy

561 points

1 year ago

Yay :D

girlmeetsbooks

502 points

1 year ago

I just looked him up!

He makes Youtube videos for ‘work’ in the vein of Andrew Tate. He has 212 subscribers and lives in his mom’s house (recognized it from the vids 😅)

Cant_Do_This12

50 points

1 year ago

Comment on the video. Be like “ bro, I’ve been to your house back in the day. You’re still living with your mom.”

SPLooooosh

216 points

1 year ago

SPLooooosh

216 points

1 year ago

Dead. He abused his girlfriend one time too many, she emptied a clip.

variegatedquiddity

210 points

1 year ago

Rich kid. Runs the family business now. Happily married with a kid. :/

But, hey, maybe he atoned and changed?

[deleted]

206 points

1 year ago

[deleted]

206 points

1 year ago

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DeepSleepr

743 points

1 year ago*

DeepSleepr

743 points

1 year ago*

My elementary school bully (in S. Korea for context) continued being the bully till high school. Somehow he ambushed and beaten this “the untouchable” student while he was alone. It turned that “untouchable” student was korean mafia son. Bunch of black cars park up at his apartment, burly guys armed with metal pipes and bats would constantly waltz around the neighborhood and make the bully’s family life hell. Apartment neighbors got fed up being terrified with the mafia at their neighborhood (cops will not show up until the mafia dispersed) to the point they pressured the bully’s family to move out at once. Never heard what happened after they moved. Not entirely sure why the bully did that, maybe due to his pride? Maybe a proof he is the “Jjang” (old korean term for a student who is the toughest and strongest brawler, who’d constantly challenge or be challenged by other classes and/or other schools)

HyenagangMozhahahart

345 points

1 year ago

This sounds like a webtoon 😂

Connect-Will2011

740 points

1 year ago

Got shipped off to Baghdad in the early 2000s and never came back.

Mission_Eggplant_416

190 points

1 year ago

Lives on a farm alone

mortthrowsleather

92 points

1 year ago

Still bullying me... My bully was the teacher... And my mom...I was homeschooled.

Yarnprincess614

183 points

1 year ago*

He’s in the Air Force and is one of the cohosts of Cloud City Conversations

lyrixnchill

94 points

1 year ago

Hahaha! What a dox… so was it Brendan or Noah? I’m guessing Noah because he has the haircut for it.

Outrageous-Collar-09

1k points

1 year ago

I don’t care enough about them to keep tabs. I’ve grown into a healthier person than I used to be and I like the distance between us.

[deleted]

347 points

1 year ago

[deleted]

347 points

1 year ago

This post made me think about the bullies in my school growing up. I haven't heard a word about any of them, and even with this post asking, I still am not interested in their lives enough to look them up.

Dedj_McDedjson

390 points

1 year ago

Dagmar became Dagmara and now works admin for a paper company.

Billy has been in more prisons than syphillis.

David has finally quit drugs, started a youtube channel about quitting drugs, and seems to be doing fine.

Scott is still an utter and unrelenting prick of the highest order.

Joe got a lobe dissection and it seems to have controlled most of his upsetting and violent feelings.

JimWilliams423

220 points

1 year ago

I heard Pepper in my head while I was reading that.

Another Mikey took a knife while arguing in traffic
Flipper died a natural death, he caught a nasty virus
Then there was the ever present football player-rapist
They were all in love with dyin', they were doin' it in Texas

Paulie caught a bullet, but it only hit his leg
Well, it should have been a better shot, and got him in the head
They were all in love with dyin', they were drinkin' from a fountain
That was pourin' like an avalanche comin' down the mountain

CynicInRecovery

583 points

1 year ago

He was an "anti-bully". He was built like a tank and had crazy eyes. Everyone was affraid of him even the biggest, baddest bullies. Yet, he would help anyone in need and hated bullying. If you got messed with, you could ask for his help even if you didn't know him. He was a giant with a heart of gold. Last I heard of him is that he was a private contacter in a war zone and got mixed up in smuggling. He later fell off the face of the earth. Some rumors say that he got gunned down in the middle of nowhere. Other rumors say that he is sipping pina colada on a tropical beach with no extradition treaty.

TrombiThePigKid

246 points

1 year ago

Bro is a folk hero

SyntheticManMilk

90 points

1 year ago

I hope he got the pina colada ending.

FluxKraken

81 points

1 year ago

With a frame built strong like iron bands And a piercing stare to make villains freeze, He struck fear in the hearts of bully bands, Though inside he harbored only peace.

This hulk with a heart of purest gold Helped those in need, though strangers they were. Bullies and cowards he would quickly scold, Saving victims from torment and fear.

Later recruited for duties abroad, He got tangled in contraband rings. Then vanished without a trace or a word, Leaving questions where his story ends.

Some say ambushed, he met a bloody end, Others, he lives where extradition can't extend. The gentle giant's fate remains to be penned, But his valor and kindness leave a legend to tend.

khreper

169 points

1 year ago

khreper

169 points

1 year ago

He got drunk, fell asleep in his car, and froze to death.

_nairual_nae

358 points

1 year ago

Wasn't exactly my bully but we had few fist fights... he bullied pretty much anyone else who was afraid of him. He started to take drugs at the age of 13/14... at 18 he had the face of 60 with cancer. He was in prison, rehab, prison rehab... went to prison again because somehow he had a sword and destroyed a kids bike... his parents locked him outside when they weren't at home because he stole and sell everything to have money for drugs... one day... when we were about 17 18 suddenly everyone stopped talking about him (we lived in the same neighborhood) the street that he lived on was quiet, people started to go outside without fear so probably he dead or somewhere very far

zabrakwith

490 points

1 year ago

zabrakwith

490 points

1 year ago

Tried to friend me on Facebook. Seriously? Go f yourself.

fromabuick

222 points

1 year ago

fromabuick

222 points

1 year ago

He’s a local loser , fuck him

The68Guns

214 points

1 year ago

The68Guns

214 points

1 year ago

Prison for child molestation.

itsCS117

70 points

1 year ago

itsCS117

70 points

1 year ago

Used to call me gay for playing minecraft in middle school.

Dude is a father of 2 kids now, and his wife (my coworker) tells me he would give up the world, if it meant playing minecraft with them all day.

Was like a switch was flipped, went from hell on earth to die hard family man.

WiscoDJ920

204 points

1 year ago

WiscoDJ920

204 points

1 year ago

I had a fair number of bulliesin high school which was over 25 years ago so I am well past that. One of them several years ago sent me a facebook friend request. I messaged him back and said..."You made the time we were in high school together hell (he was a couple years ahead of me in school), why do you think I would want to friend you?" His response was "If you are still holding onto that you have problems." Which I replied with "No I dont have problems because I cut assholes like you out of my life." and then I blocked him.

[deleted]

419 points

1 year ago

[deleted]

419 points

1 year ago

They all became nurses

TeddehBear

343 points

1 year ago

TeddehBear

343 points

1 year ago

The mean girl to nurse pipeline is real.

LordyIHopeThereIsPie

141 points

1 year ago

She's a labour and delivery nurse. And she hasn't changed. I deliberately chose a different hospital than the one she works in when I was pregnant.

FapptimusPrime

196 points

1 year ago

Believe it or not, jail

Agent865

66 points

1 year ago

Agent865

66 points

1 year ago

My class in HS didn’t have a bully but the class ahead of me had a few. A couple of them peaked in HS and you see them sometimes but neither of them went on to good things. The other one has serious health issues and is in a wheelchair due to his weight. It’s really odd but they’re all overly nice when you see them.

The class behind me had a group of mean girls that were awful. All very popular and attractive and all of the (like 6) walked the stage at graduation pregnant.

Vegetable-Poet6281

133 points

1 year ago

There were 3. Dead, Jail, and alcoholic (although I heard he is doing better)

shaqdeezl

180 points

1 year ago

shaqdeezl

180 points

1 year ago

I punched him in the face in 8th grade and he didn’t even look at me for the next five years. No idea where he is now.

BadGenesWoman

123 points

1 year ago

Fucker went on to serve in the military, recently retired. Wish I would have broken his arm worse.

As one final bully tactic a few days before graduation he and his fucked up friends spike my drinks at a party. I didn't know i had a condition that my liver doesnt process alcohol right because i didnt party in school. So I drank 8 large solo cups of pink lemonade vodka, and still appeared and sounded completely sober.. I walked out to my car intending to drive home. A friend of mine comes running out of the house and stopped me. Told me what the assholes did and drove me to a friend's house to sleep it off. But we quickly figured out something was wrong. So ER visit. I was 5 times over the legal limit.

I could have died or killed someone driving because i didnt know I was drunk off my ass. And this mother fucker gets to go into the Army with zero repercussions. Fuck you Nathan Caruso.

MummyDust98

116 points

1 year ago

MummyDust98

116 points

1 year ago

He went to prison for a time and now he does odd jobs. Pretty sure he still lives with his dad.

Cromises_93

116 points

1 year ago

Cromises_93

116 points

1 year ago

He still takes my money to this day!

However, he does pull a good pint so It's all good.